Would you live apart from your spouse for the summer (minus weekends)?
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Anonymous
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We're considering doing this for the summer.
Wife and 3 school aged kids live at the beach. Dad is 3 hours away in DC and visits each weekend with occasional 3 day weekends and about 2 solid weeks. Summer is 9 weeks long max so a max of 7 weeks apart. |
Anonymous
A DH here. Yessie, would be like winning the lottery 
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Anonymous
| If I were the dad, yes. The mom? No way. 24/7 care of three kids? Ha ha ha. |
Anonymous
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Some international parents do this for a month or two - one spouse takes the kids to the home country for a language and family immersion, while the other works here. If both parents work and the kids can handle traveling by themselves, then they get shipped off for the summer to the grandparents/cousins. |
Anonymous
Sounds amazing for both parents 
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Anonymous
Yes, without the kids and the spouse though. |
Anonymous
| I'm a mom. Depends on the kids (is the youngest 6, reckless, and must be constantly watched at the beach or 12, responsible, and a pretty good swimmer? Do they play independently? Do they fight 24/7?). And, how much different would single parenting be at the beach than whatever you do at home? If DH works until 11 p.m. every night and you'd be home alone all the time anyway, then maybe it doesn't matter where you are. Also, if the kids will complain about missing their friends, soccer camp, etc., and just mope around the beach, then no. If they are the kind of kids who are happy alone, or will invite friends down, or will befriend whomever they find on the beach, then yes. So, I guess my answer is "maybe." |
Anonymous
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OP.
My kids seems to entertain each other quite well. We live in NW DC (where most kids are scheduled 24/7) and at least one of mine seems to be stressed out by the scene here. He is much happier spending time at home than being dragged around to a million play dates, activities, etc. The older he gets, the more he needs times to recharge at home. The other two are girls and play well together. We don't see my husband much during the week (perhaps an hour each evening) so there wouldn't be that much difference in the lives of the kids. However, I wonder if our marriage would suffer from such little time together. Or maybe it would be incredibly helpful! Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. |
Anonymous
| Sure, but it's kind of obvious that Dad is having an affair. |
Anonymous
This is why I wouldn't do it. |
Anonymous
| Maybe good for the kids, but terrible for the marriage. And, DH seeing the kids every night, if only for an hour, is a big deal. |
Anonymous
| I'd do it, but I do it year round because DH travels so much. The beach is a big bonus! |
Anonymous
| The Seven Year Itch |
Anonymous
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This sounds like a summer dream. As the wife, not having to work and living at the beach for a summer.
Heavennnnnn |
Anonymous
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I used to spend a month in Chicago every summer for ten years with DC in tow. It was great. DH stayed home and cared for the pets, and I and DC hung out with the grandparents while I worked (serious telecommute - boss never knew I was out of town).
Parents are gone now but those summers are great memories. DC and I were the lucky ones. |