Nah, it's not a gender thing (men tell me that many women play games too), its an expectation thing. OP - How much effort did these guys make? I'm willing to bet that they got your phone number fairly soon and communicated via text rather than spending time writing thoughtful emails to you, and that they didn't plan (m)any thoughtful or interesting dates. Texting is such a low effort form of communication - it's really easy to interact with someone for a month or two without much effort.
OP here. You pretty much nailed it PP! I rarely got a phone call (with the exception of one of the guys) and only communicated via text - and texts were very sporadic. I was the one to plan all the dates because they were too lazy! Very low effort with two out of three of the guys.
online dating has made it very, very easy for both men and women to play the field. There are people who are serious out there, but you have to weed through them. If someone isn't willing to talk ont he phone, or make plans with you for a date, and seems really interested in getting to know you, they're just cruising and not interested in what you're interested in. Raise your standards. And, no sex until you have a discussion about what the man wants out of a relationship and exclusivity.
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