If your partner snores, how do you cope?

[Anonymous]

CPAP = pain in the ass. Generally they are well covered by insurance and therefore prescribed all the time. DH also refused to consider surgery (tonsils/adenoids removed as a kid - they came back). After I stopped figuring out how to kill him while he slept, I realized he was scared of having surgery, still selfish, but a different kind of selfish.



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Earplugs by the 50 pair container

[Anonymous]

Is your husband not worried about his health? If he needs a cpap, not using one is risky.

[Anonymous]

King bed, separate covers, he faces away from me. Romantic, I know...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: my husband has thus far refused to go to a doctor because "he doesn't have sleep apnea and they're just going to recommend an expensive painful surgery that is only moderately effective." I've been trying to be patient while he futzes around with new pillows and his allergy meds, and most nights we end up in separate beds, which kind of breaks my heart. The baby also really complicates things.

I'm tempted to find an ENT or someone and go myself just so I can ask the questions he won't.

My husband was boarderline for a cpap. We had back to back dr appt so we were in the same room. I mentioned it. Doc sent him to the sleep clinic. I made all the appt. Never did they suggest surgery. I love his cpap.

[Anonymous]

That thingy from PureSleep has made a world of difference in our house.

[Anonymous]

Smack DH with a pillow until he wakes up pissed off, but stops snoring for 20 minutes. We do this all night long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That thingy from PureSleep has made a world of difference in our house.

More info please

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That thingy from PureSleep has made a world of difference in our house.

More info please

It is like a mouth guard for snoring. I guess it adjusts the jaw slightly so you can breathe more easily and that reduces snoring. Unbelievably, it actually works (at least for my dh). He doesn't really snore anymore at all and if he does, it's kind of a soft, labored breathing sort of thing and not a loud, wake the whole house up snore. He has used it now for at least five years. (He buys a new one from time to time!) It used to be one of those sold only on TV things, but now you can get it online (puresleep.com). Seems like a scam when you go on the web site, but it really has worked. Dh was at the point where he was going to do the whole sleep study thing, but then this was a much easier way to go.

[Anonymous]

Snoring can be an indicator of sleep apnea, which can be dangerous and even fatal, if it gets bad enough. I was pretty convinced my DH had it and urged him to make an appointment. Turned out he does have it, and the CPAP is, as someone said upthread, a life-changer. In addition to fixing the snoring problem, the CPAP helps him to sleep a kazillion times better. He FEELS SO MUCH better, too. He was resistant, initially, but the results convinced him. Not all snoring = sleep apnea, of course, but it's worth getting checked out.

[Anonymous]

My husband refused to go get the sleep study for years, saying that he couldn't bear the thought of the CPAP machine. I was furious and sleep deprived - we don't have a spare bedroom, or I'd have been in it full time, even though he, too, likes to snuggle.

I've tried ear plugs. I've tried knocking myself out with meds. They didn't work for me. And I'm prone to insomnia - which manifests itself in my not being able to get back to sleep once I've been awakened. So even though I usually go to bed first, and fall asleep reasonably quickly, my husband's snoring meant I just wasn't getting enough sleep.

Finally he got the sleep study and got the machine. My feelings toward him are so much nicer now that I'm not sleep deprived all the damn time anymore. He still snores a bit with the machine - but it's much lighter. And even on those occasions it keeps me up, since I no longer feel like he doesn't care that I can't sleep, I am much more amenable to going to sleep on the couch every once in a while without resenting him for it.

[Anonymous]

We have an air purifier that I run every night. It provides enough white noise that Dh's snoring doesn't bother me as much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband did the sleep study, but refused to wear the CPAP (he couldn't sleep comfortably with it). At that point, we both agreed that we would be better partners if we slept apart. We've been sleeping in separate rooms for almost our entire 12 year marriage, and we couldn't be happier. We have three children and, despite not sleeping together, we find many opportunities for and different ways to express intimacy. We both appreciate our "alone" time as much as we appreciate our "together" time.

They have come along way with cpap machines.

[Anonymous]

After hitting DH several times, I just get up and go into the guest room when he dozes back off.

[Anonymous]

DH faces the opposite wall, we have a pillow between us, and I run a loud fan on the night table by my head. I'd be kinda worried what our kids would think if we slept in separate beds, but we might as well. We joke about how great it is to have separate beds when we get a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CPAP = pain in the ass. Generally they are well covered by insurance and therefore prescribed all the time. DH also refused to consider surgery (tonsils/adenoids removed as a kid - they came back). After I stopped figuring out how to kill him while he slept, I realized he was scared of having surgery, still selfish, but a different kind of selfish.



Signed,

Earplugs by the 50 pair container

Wish I could wear earplugs, but they hurt my ears. Are there any out there that are soft, or small, or whatever? Am I the only one that can't wear them?!