what age did you let your daughter start wearing strapless tops and dresses?

[Anonymous]

My DD never wanted to. She wore one when she was home for college, and I asked if she liked it. She said she liked the look but hated having to always worry about it coming down. I don't think she's worn one since.

[Anonymous]

She can wear one after she is 18.

[Anonymous]

Stop normalizing the regulation of the female body.

I have three daughters. They can wear whatever they want, whenever they want. I trust that I've done my job in raising them so they're able to use their own judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop normalizing the regulation of the female body.

I have three daughters. They can wear whatever they want, whenever they want. I trust that I've done my job in raising them so they're able to use their own judgment.

Thank you. As a woman, this thread is very upsetting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say yes, I am 13 and there is nothing wrong with it.
Don't show to much skin though, keep it sort of modest.
If your daughter has bigger breasts I say she shouldn't, and if she did only in summer.
Our society these days....

um you're weird?? No one can control their breast size, so why would you allow a flat chested girl to wear one and a big chested girl to not wear one?? I say yes to any size of breasts because that cannot be controlled.

[Anonymous]

There is no strapless in this family because it's too much of a hassle to keep the fabric where it's supposed to be.

But other than that... it's a bit weird that you had such a reaction to no straps, OP. I don't ban entire categories of clothing like that. You need to teach your daughter the finer points of dress: if there's skin at the top, there can't be skin at the bottom, or vice versa. Practicality wins every day and twice on Sundays, except on rare occasions where adjustments can be made, the clothing is tailored to fit and all kinds of little aids like tape are available (like a wedding).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no strapless in this family because it's too much of a hassle to keep the fabric where it's supposed to be.

But other than that... it's a bit weird that you had such a reaction to no straps, OP. I don't ban entire categories of clothing like that. You need to teach your daughter the finer points of dress: if there's skin at the top, there can't be skin at the bottom, or vice versa. Practicality wins every day and twice on Sundays, except on rare occasions where adjustments can be made, the clothing is tailored to fit and all kinds of little aids like tape are available (like a wedding).

Well, OP’s daughter is now 23 years old, so hopefully she’s been able to wear whatever she wants for a while now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old DD came home from a friends house in a strapless top. I was so surprised i didnt even know how to react but i told her to change immediately and we would have talk later. "Her friend gave it to her", i know she just asked if she could have it because she knows i would never buy one for her. The thing is its quite casual, nothing provocative and it would be nice for a warm day. Now Im honestly torn whether or not i should let her keep it. What do you say?

When they are able to wear them physically. No big deal.

Told them "just don't look like you are a streetwalker or you will have guys in vans following you." They hated heels, etc. though so they never got mistaken for one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is 17. I insist that she wears a strapless bra with many of her dresses because I do not like bra strap showing. However, she does not wear strapless tops. Even when she wears tanks, she wears a open shirt on top.

Even for homecoming and stuff - she has always worn dresses that had straps. I am sure if she finds a strapless dress that looks awesome and appropriate for the occasion, she will wear it.

What in the actual?

You have a preference against your bra strap showing so you impose your preference on someone else?

Exactly how I read that +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old DD came home from a friends house in a strapless top. I was so surprised i didnt even know how to react but i told her to change immediately and we would have talk later. "Her friend gave it to her", i know she just asked if she could have it because she knows i would never buy one for her. The thing is its quite casual, nothing provocative and it would be nice for a warm day. Now Im honestly torn whether or not i should let her keep it. What do you say?

OP it really depends on the rest of the outfit and your daughter's figure.

If the rest of the outfit is "conservative", no belly hanging out and breasts are not overflowing and are she's wearing a strapless bra - then I think it's fine.

On the other hand, if she wears it with hoochie shorts and her breasts and belly are coming out - then nope!

This definitely. It’s the styling that makes the outfit. If your top is strapless and tight it will look a lot better with shorts that are looser and make sure everything is the right size.

I don’t know how we kept those tube tops we used to wear at 12 years old upright. Most of us were completely flat chested. Halter tops are more secure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop normalizing the regulation of the female body.

I have three daughters. They can wear whatever they want, whenever they want. I trust that I've done my job in raising them so they're able to use their own judgment.

Meh. Would you consider a 15-year-old boy wearing short shorts and a strapless top appropriate? Girls get more grief because they tend to wear less clothes than the boys.

[Anonymous]

Strapless bra at Nordstrom. 7th or 8th grade…
All you can do is teach them about foundation garments aka scaffolding. Then set them free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say yes, I am 13 and there is nothing wrong with it.
Don't show to much skin though, keep it sort of modest.
If your daughter has bigger breasts I say she shouldn't, and if she did only in summer.
Our society these days....

[Anonymous]

There is nothing particularly special about wearing strapless clothes as long as you don't have a large than average cup size. Would have never occurred to me to limit wearing to a certain age.

I find it's a pain to buy speciality bras, so haven't worn anything strapless since I was in college. Why not wear it while you are young and have (mostly) smaller breasts?

[Anonymous]

Someone's scantily dressed daughter has to be the easy bait for pedos, I guess?

It's like the first wildebeest going in the crocodile infested river. And that makes the crossing safer for those who follow.