Do you know people who are "perfect"?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this who posts constantly on FB. She's rich, athletic, on the board of every single charity and is always winning awards for all of her good works. She has two fabulous homes and is constantly entertaining her extremely close family (who all seem to get along) or her many interesting friends. She is an expert baker to boot and rides bike marathons. I confess that I "like" many of her posts but inwardly I'm cringing just a bit. Oh well. Maybe she deals with some personal tragedy I don't know about? Not that I'm wishing that on her, but you get the point...

The fact that she posts constantly on Facebook is a huge indication that she's at least insecure, and there's probably more going on there too.

Plus 1. Agree that the FB posts are an indication of some insecurity there!

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I have a perfect, enviable friend. She is lovely, witty, a great hostess - you name it. Her family is very well known in their city for their philanthropy and social standing.

Her mother was an alcoholic and her father sexually abused her.

I would rather have my ordinary looks and life than ever have to deal with what she had to deal with.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me depressed. I was hoping that somebody would post and say that, yes, they were a very lucky person who was beautiful, happily married, rich, and very happy. It makes me sad to think everybody in the whole world is miserable secretly. Is that what humanity is? A sea of total pain?

Come on: somebody tell me that at least one person has had a charmed, happy life, that it is them (and they should be over 40, or they haven't lived long enough)

I don't think a person or a life has to be "perfect" to be happy or even "charmed." I think that is the difference in our perspectives.

I am almost 50. I've experienced some struggles in my life, a terrible loss, some difficulties in my marriage, some issues with one of my children. I have a nagging health issue-- not serious, but annoying. I am slim but not beautiful, my home is small and not perfect, we are comfortable but not wealthy, and my DH is not particularly handsome.

I am very happy. Indeed, I feel I've lived a pretty charmed life and sometimes worry that I've just been lucky so far.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is the thing about "perfect" women - they are perfectionists and I find them to be somewhat fake and superficial although very nice. I have never been able to have true friendships with these type of women.

It is not that I envy them. I don't..Well, maybe I envy their bodies but not the work it takes to maintain such a body.

Kate Middleton is an example of this type of gal. These women strive so hard to stay thin, get good grades, be perfect in social situations, smile, get the right gift, throw the "right" party, etc, etc, that they are sort of like robots without interesting personalities....They never let you see them cry or look bad or get angry or be real. So that is why I don't like to hang out with them. I say - get real.

How do you know anything about Kate Middleton? We are not her friends or family, so how do we know she never lets others see her cry or look bad or get angry or be real? You think what you see in a magazine gives you insight?

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I have read a lot about Kate Middleton. She was the perfect girlfriend and now she is the perfect Princess.

She does seem perfectly nice and very much in love with Prince Wm....but in my opinion from reading tons of magazine and newspaper articles and books, I think she is sort of Barbie doll perfect. She is rail thin. I doubt she has ever raised her voice or expressed a negative opinion to William or his family. Some of her friends have given interviews to the press and this is the impression I have of her.

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Anonymous wrote:I have read a lot about Kate Middleton. She was the perfect girlfriend and now she is the perfect Princess.

She does seem perfectly nice and very much in love with Prince Wm....but in my opinion from reading tons of magazine and newspaper articles and books, I think she is sort of Barbie doll perfect. She is rail thin. I doubt she has ever raised her voice or expressed a negative opinion to William or his family. Some of her friends have given interviews to the press and this is the impression I have of her.

She seems very in control if William. She does what she wants and makes her own traditions.

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Anonymous wrote:No one's is perfect OP.

see how I just messed that up.

This made me smile!

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I appear that way but only on the outside. You got to get off facebook which filters out everyone as having an awesome life.

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I know people who are perfect in situations.

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Not everyone has some horrible secret or horrible life they are hiding. Lots of people actually are happy and aren't hiding anything. To assume that there is something awful going on if someone is living a good life is a really negative and twisted way to view the world.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone has some horrible secret or horrible life they are hiding. Lots of people actually are happy and aren't hiding anything. To assume that there is something awful going on if someone is living a good life is a really negative and twisted way to view the world.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Speaking as someone who is thought to some as being "perfect" or "near perfect".

I was always considered to be beautiful, went to a great school, good family, parents still married, I married very very well, very successful husband, 4 kids (3 went to college for athletics), live in a beautiful home, have second and third home, have lots of friends and a good social standing, the list goes on.....to many I seem to live a perfect charmed life.

What NO ONE knows- my husband and I fight more than I think is normal, I often sleep in another room, my oldest daughter had an eating disorder (even when everyone thought she was so beautiful and skinny)! I have suffered from mild depression, and I have my share of bad days. The thing is I am super private and not even my closest friends know most of what i just revealed here. To many and fact most, I am "that perfect person" but I am here to tell you that they simply do not exist.

That sounds burdensome. Why do you feel you can't confide in anyone about your troubles? Maybe it would help?

Because then people would know she isn't perfect and that would be terrible. It's not that she is " private" it's that she enjoys people envying her and can't give it up.

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I've been accused of having a seemingly perfect life. I have to say I am content with my life and would not change a single thing. We habe good jobs that don't take us away from home more than 40hrs a week, no commute, solid marriage, habe time for exercise and healthy food, our children are healthy physically and emotionally, and we have great friends.

Nobody's life is perfect and there is no joy if you've never experienced pain and sorrow. However, with all of the ups and downs I'd do it all over again..the exact same way.

If you are envious or jealous, or if you relish the thought of bad things happening to these "perfect" people you need to look inside and find out what is missing inside yousrself. Happiness and contentment come from within.

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Let's face it, EVERYONE wants to see a perfect asshole take a shit! Just wait and their time will come!

My wife (of many, many years!) has always referenced the couples in our neighborhood, kind of like a litmus test to our marriage. "Why can't we be more like so and so" and "look at their loving relationship." Well, as time marched on she saw one lady kill herself (which actually looked like her husband did it) and several others go thru very bitter and ugly divorces!

Even if the grass is greener on the other side ~ someone still has to mow it!

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Anonymous wrote:Let's face it, EVERYONE wants to see a perfect asshole take a shit! Just wait and their time will come!

My wife (of many, many years!) has always referenced the couples in our neighborhood, kind of like a litmus test to our marriage. "Why can't we be more like so and so" and "look at their loving relationship." Well, as time marched on she saw one lady kill herself (which actually looked like her husband did it) and several others go thru very bitter and ugly divorces!

Even if the grass is greener on the other side ~ someone still has to mow it!

Not everyone. I get no satisfaction from seeing anyone go through rough times.

However, I'm content in my life and also don't compare.