"I didn't know you expected a response" Reality check me, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back again. Both of us (brother and I) have been married for approximately 10 years. Both of us have children (families) And yes, both of us have people who love us. Jeez, only on DCUM!

This has been going on for 10 years?? So, the voicemail you left to congratulate the soon-to-be SIL was over 10 years ago, and you're still irritated? That's your problem. Also, it's weird that you thought the SIL needed to be in on the phone call to announce the marriage. I would have been too shy to do that as well, and we'd been together for years before our official engagement. I know some people make a big announcement of their engagements, but my dh and I were NOT like that. I called my parents and he called his. Word got around to our siblings and other relatives immediately, we didn't need to call them. Maybe it didn't occur to your SIL that she'd need to be in on that phone call. Either way, it's been happening for 10 years, so let it go!.

[Anonymous]

OP, my brother is also notorious for not responding to emails or messages. It's not something I think I can change about him, so I have modified my expectations. If I want to keep in touch, I find it's best to call to chat with him or see him in person--then our interactions are quite lovely.

[Anonymous]

He's your typical stupid man who needs it spelled out for him like he is still 5 years old. Sorry your brother is such a dick. Sounds like he married his equal.

[Anonymous]

OP's a bitch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's your typical stupid man who needs it spelled out for him like he is still 5 years old. Sorry your brother is such a dick. Sounds like he married his equal.

Why is he a dick, couldn't it just be that she is needy. Or, gasp, they are different people that have different expectations.

[Anonymous]

Wait a minute. OP, your original post said since your brother got married a few years ago ... and now you're saying you've both been married for 10.

What gives?

[Anonymous]

My dad's a partner at a firm and here's how to get a response out of him from email:

Write your question in the subject line and have no more than one sentence in the body of the email. ie -
Subject: Where's Christmas being hosted this year?

Body of email: Happy to host if no one else has claimed it yet. XO, Daughter

Try that with your brother or SIL - you'll probably get a response out of that.

[Anonymous]

This sounds just like my brother in law and his kids. I will send gifts for birthdays and Christmas - nothing. I don't even know if they got the gifts! This happened for a few years, then I just stopped sending them. So annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad's a partner at a firm and here's how to get a response out of him from email:

Write your question in the subject line and have no more than one sentence in the body of the email. ie -
Subject: Where's Christmas being hosted this year?

Body of email: Happy to host if no one else has claimed it yet. XO, Daughter

Try that with your brother or SIL - you'll probably get a response out of that.

LMAO! That's perfect. Or send a Check One Box answers to ONE question!

Subject: Am I congratulating you on your engagement?

Body: Yes I am - CONGRATULATIONS!!

DID YOU GET THIS EMAIL _YES _NO
(check one)

[Anonymous]

It's annoying. How is your relationship otherwise?

If in your messages you're asking him questions about him, his wife and their life, then it's clear he is expected to respond.

[Anonymous]

I must really be out of it but people reply to my emails if someone regularly does not they are sending a messgae

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I must really be out of it but people reply to my emails if someone regularly does not they are sending a messgae

the message that you send too many damn emails

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's your typical stupid man who needs it spelled out for him like he is still 5 years old. Sorry your brother is such a dick. Sounds like he married his equal.

Why is he a dick, couldn't it just be that she is needy. Or, gasp, they are different people that have different expectations.

Well, let's see, if either of my sisters sent me an email with information on what's been going on with them I think I could muster the time to respond saying hey, thanks for sharing, here's what's been going on with me. Hope you are well! Love, sis

What is so hard about that? Only a raging narcissist would ignore an email from their own sibling and say something as asinine as "I didn't know you expected a response." Not even acknowledgeing the email was sent is a total dick move. But of course DCUM is attacking OP because once you grow up you should stop expecting your family to provide love and support at any level. What a bunch of cold fishes you all are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I must really be out of it but people reply to my emails if someone regularly does not they are sending a messgae

the message that you send too many damn emails[/quote

Aren't you a peach!

[Anonymous]

I am kind of like this. DH's family likes to talk ALL THE TIME with just small talk. If it's a special day (birthday, holiday, anniversary) I field phone calls all day long and have the exact same conversation with each of them. Sometimes twice if they call early in the AM they call back later to see how the day was. Went on vacation and they called every day to see if we were enjoying it. It sounds nice in theory and I'm sure I sound like a bitch but it's beyond grating. Maybe your SIL and brother are like me? I talk when there's a purpose but am not into small talk. Some people are talkers and some are not.