For parents whose children just received admission results

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Anyone here "parents whose children just received admission results"?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone here "parents whose children just received admission results"?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I wish my parents were as helpful as you all were when I was applying to undergrad back in '10. Neither of my parents went to college so I had absolutely no help in applying (even my counselor was of little help) but I ended up getting into 7 of the 8 schools I applied to. I couldn't imagine not taking charge. I know that you are all afraid of your kids not getting into good schools but perhaps in the future you should just let them figure it out on their own.

Very catty judgement to make on family dynamics that you are not privy to at all. Just because my kid is a senior doesn't mean that she still didn't need parenting, encouragement, and an extra kick in the pants to apply to colleges while maintaining her grades, her senior activities, and other issues that I won't divulge here. She still had to fill out the applications, write the essays, and attend alumni interviews. My role as a parent was to take her on college tours to get her interested, help her research the colleges that we thought would be a good fit both academically and financially, and not let her slack off.

Sorry that your parents showed absolutely no interest in your college academic career, but I don't think that's something that is right or appropriate for all families. We're paying for her education and we are invested in her, and it paid off in the way of acceptances and a good learning environment for the next four years of her life.

No need to be nasty. I'm the one with the lazy son and I'm sure I had to be more involved in the process than anyone else due to his laziness. However, I did not read PP's post as an indictment or judgment on my/our parenting.

He was simply making a point, and he was correct in his point. I should NOT have been as involved in the process as I was. No need to insult his family and pass judgment on his parents' interest in his academic career as I'm sure that like us, they wanted the best for him as well. They simply TRUSTED him to be able to handle the process. And he was. My kid on the other hand....At 18 I don't trust him to feed his own damn dog during the day. It is what it is.

Thank you. This is the poster of that original message. My intent was not to be catty. And let me just say to the rude person who replied to my post...how dare you think that my parents had no interest in my college academic career. Could you not read? The highest level of education they got was high school and it wasn't even in this country so it wasn't a matter of not wanting to help, it was a matter of not knowing at all how to help, you jerk. But whatever, you can be as rude as you want. I successfully got through undergrad in 3.5 years with a 3.96 GPA so I would say I did pretty well for someone who had no idea what college was going to be like at all.

Unfortunately, you didn't learn that name calling is childish. Most of us grow out of it by middle school. Your education is incomplete.

Give me a break! As if you didn't read all the unnecessary vitriol in that poster's insane response! You must be that crazy lady, always looking to insult because you're so damned miserable. The fact that you want your insults to come off as condescending makes you appear even more pathetic. You/that poster all but said that man's parents didn't care about him and that she's a much better parent who will do a much better job. (Suspect given her daughter's "issues" that can't be divulged.)

Frankly, that Bat Lady was being a jerk. The poster was pretty easy on her considering her off the wall rant.

I said nothing offensive towards you or your parents, and certainly nothing that would justify you calling me a bitch, a jerk, and making rude comments about my child and her "issues". I stated that what your parents did for you does not apply to me and my situation, and I stand by that.

Saying your parents didn't care was harsh and it really wasn't a phrase I meant to use, and I apologize for that.

The conversation has thankfully moved on to more pleasant tones, and we're all here trying to help each other and figure out how to navigate this stressful and insane world of college admissions. I know my kid, I know what she's capable of, and I'm confident in my actual parenting abilities, so you continue to call me names if it makes you feel better.

Again, you started with the nastiness.

The thread was perfectly cordial and helpful with parents who were very honest about their children's foibles and helpful insight on the amount of guidance needed depending on the child. Then YOU came along with the crazy.

It's great that you apologized but don't try to act like you weren't nasty and deserving of a comeback.

There is absolutely nothing that was said in this thread by anyone that is deserving of a woman being called a bitch.

But this is an anon forum and it's part of the territory. I apologize for saying that your parents didn't care, and that's about it. You still know absolutely nothing about current application processes and should not even be participating in this thread.

Just to let you know, you haven't even been replying to the person (me) who originally posted about completing my applications all on my own. Other people have been coming here and calling you out. And another thing, I see no mention of you being called a bitch on this thread. I called you a jerk and that's it. So I don't know what kind of imagination you've got going on. Anyways, it's nice that you apologized and all but maybe next time you can avoid that by being cordial the first time around.

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Anonymous wrote:I did everything myself.

Then my dad went on the family computer and edited my essays and creative writing samples behind my back without me knowing right before I sent out the first round of apps.

I did not realize this until sending out the second rounds of apps to different schools.

The edits he made were horrible. I got into every single one of the schools with the jan 15 deadlines and none of the schools with the jan 1 deadlines (that got the ones he edited).

I'm still annoyed by this. I know I need to let it go but....

Holy crap I would be so pissed. Did you ever talk to him about it?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I wish my parents were as helpful as you all were when I was applying to undergrad back in '10. Neither of my parents went to college so I had absolutely no help in applying (even my counselor was of little help) but I ended up getting into 7 of the 8 schools I applied to. I couldn't imagine not taking charge. I know that you are all afraid of your kids not getting into good schools but perhaps in the future you should just let them figure it out on their own.

Very catty judgement to make on family dynamics that you are not privy to at all. Just because my kid is a senior doesn't mean that she still didn't need parenting, encouragement, and an extra kick in the pants to apply to colleges while maintaining her grades, her senior activities, and other issues that I won't divulge here. She still had to fill out the applications, write the essays, and attend alumni interviews. My role as a parent was to take her on college tours to get her interested, help her research the colleges that we thought would be a good fit both academically and financially, and not let her slack off.

Sorry that your parents showed absolutely no interest in your college academic career, but I don't think that's something that is right or appropriate for all families. We're paying for her education and we are invested in her, and it paid off in the way of acceptances and a good learning environment for the next four years of her life.

No need to be nasty. I'm the one with the lazy son and I'm sure I had to be more involved in the process than anyone else due to his laziness. However, I did not read PP's post as an indictment or judgment on my/our parenting.

He was simply making a point, and he was correct in his point. I should NOT have been as involved in the process as I was. No need to insult his family and pass judgment on his parents' interest in his academic career as I'm sure that like us, they wanted the best for him as well. They simply TRUSTED him to be able to handle the process. And he was. My kid on the other hand....At 18 I don't trust him to feed his own damn dog during the day. It is what it is.

Thank you. This is the poster of that original message. My intent was not to be catty. And let me just say to the rude person who replied to my post...how dare you think that my parents had no interest in my college academic career. Could you not read? The highest level of education they got was high school and it wasn't even in this country so it wasn't a matter of not wanting to help, it was a matter of not knowing at all how to help, you jerk. But whatever, you can be as rude as you want. I successfully got through undergrad in 3.5 years with a 3.96 GPA so I would say I did pretty well for someone who had no idea what college was going to be like at all.

Unfortunately, you didn't learn that name calling is childish. Most of us grow out of it by middle school. Your education is incomplete.

Give me a break! As if you didn't read all the unnecessary vitriol in that poster's insane response! You must be that crazy lady, always looking to insult because you're so damned miserable. The fact that you want your insults to come off as condescending makes you appear even more pathetic. You/that poster all but said that man's parents didn't care about him and that she's a much better parent who will do a much better job. (Suspect given her daughter's "issues" that can't be divulged.)

Frankly, that Bat Lady was being a jerk. The poster was pretty easy on her considering her off the wall rant.

I said nothing offensive towards you or your parents, and certainly nothing that would justify you calling me a bitch, a jerk, and making rude comments about my child and her "issues". I stated that what your parents did for you does not apply to me and my situation, and I stand by that.

Saying your parents didn't care was harsh and it really wasn't a phrase I meant to use, and I apologize for that.

The conversation has thankfully moved on to more pleasant tones, and we're all here trying to help each other and figure out how to navigate this stressful and insane world of college admissions. I know my kid, I know what she's capable of, and I'm confident in my actual parenting abilities, so you continue to call me names if it makes you feel better.

Again, you started with the nastiness.

The thread was perfectly cordial and helpful with parents who were very honest about their children's foibles and helpful insight on the amount of guidance needed depending on the child. Then YOU came along with the crazy.

It's great that you apologized but don't try to act like you weren't nasty and deserving of a comeback.

There is absolutely nothing that was said in this thread by anyone that is deserving of a woman being called a bitch.

But this is an anon forum and it's part of the territory. I apologize for saying that your parents didn't care, and that's about it. You still know absolutely nothing about current application processes and should not even be participating in this thread.

Just to let you know, you haven't even been replying to the person (me) who originally posted about completing my applications all on my own. Other people have been coming here and calling you out. And another thing, I see no mention of you being called a bitch on this thread. I called you a jerk and that's it. So I don't know what kind of imagination you've got going on. Anyways, it's nice that you apologized and all but maybe next time you can avoid that by being cordial the first time around.

PP and everybody.....move on for goodness sakes. It's done and over. And I have no dog in this fight but it's been hashed and rehashed.

Move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone here "parents whose children just received admission results"?

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Maybe we can move to a new thread to chat about it -- sadly, I don't think this thread can get back on track.

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Anonymous wrote:I did everything myself.

Then my dad went on the family computer and edited my essays and creative writing samples behind my back without me knowing right before I sent out the first round of apps.

I did not realize this until sending out the second rounds of apps to different schools.

The edits he made were horrible. I got into every single one of the schools with the jan 15 deadlines and none of the schools with the jan 1 deadlines (that got the ones he edited).

I'm still annoyed by this. I know I need to let it go but....

This is absolutely horrible pp. If this is recent, there is absolutely no way in hell I would be over it, your Dad sabotaged you and took away your choices. What did he have to say for himself?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone here "parents whose children just received admission results"?

Yes, (especially if waitlist results count, more of those than admission results).

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OP ~ has some of this been helpful? I mentioned deer-in-the-headlights and The Common Data Set. Do you have any other questions?