Strippers in hotel room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

You sound a little smug. Be careful. Men who are friends tend to have a lot in common with each other.

Where did OP sound smug?

Agree, OP didn't sound smug at all. She's probably just glad that her husband has enough sense not to get wrapped up in these shenanigans.

NOTHING good ever comes from inviting strippers back to your hotel room, your after party, etc. And I say that a straight American man.

Pick one: your wallet will be much lighter, you'll cheat, you'll pick up a raging STD, they will do all your drugs, they will cause a scene/drama, they will bring other shady people, etc. Not worth it.

[Anonymous]

OP here.
Thanks to those who said I didn't sound smug. I was responding to a poster who said DH was uptight or whipped. And trying to defend him.

Anyways,
since this post resurfaced I thought I'd update. She found out they had strippers in the hotel room through someone else. This same person's boyfriend is a known jerk (has cheated multiple times) and she apparently read through his texts/emails and started thinking he did something with one of the strippers. Now she and the bride to be are trying to figure out how to catch their guys with the whole cheating thing.

Long story short, I have stepped far, far away from this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
Thanks to those who said I didn't sound smug. I was responding to a poster who said DH was uptight or whipped. And trying to defend him.

Anyways,
since this post resurfaced I thought I'd update. She found out they had strippers in the hotel room through someone else. This same person's boyfriend is a known jerk (has cheated multiple times) and she apparently read through his texts/emails and started thinking he did something with one of the strippers. Now she and the bride to be are trying to figure out how to catch their guys with the whole cheating thing.

Long story short, I have stepped far, far away from this situation.

Sounds like the basis for a long, healthy, and happy marriage of about 2 years. Good choice, PP.

[Anonymous]

This same thing happened to someone I know. Husband, Vegas, strippers in the room, nothing went on, just looking, lusting, same old tired lie.

The new wife, ended up with genital herpes. Marriage annulled 3 months later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This same thing happened to someone I know. Husband, Vegas, strippers in the room, nothing went on, just looking, lusting, same old tired lie.

The new wife, ended up with genital herpes. Marriage annulled 3 months later.

Damn.

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree with the people saying you should say you don't know.

Also, there are men who feel uncomfortable around strippers/strip clubs and wouldn't want to stay. They aren't uptight. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I have stepped far, far away from this situation.

An excellent idea. I think your DH should, too. This sounds like an unhealthy group!

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP - sounds like you tip toed your way through this mess well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't even know for sure so text and say you don't know. Don't be the one to start drama on hear say. Strippers at a club, hotel, or back alley, who cares... It's still a stripper. You and your husband sound uptight.

OP here. Ha far from uptight if you knew us. Before I met DH, he told me about a 21st bday party he went to where strippers were hired to come to the birthday boy's hotel room. Turned out they were actually escorts, so Dh was just warning the best man that it can happen.

I think she's probably reaching out to all wives/gfs in whose significant others were at the bachelor party because she now has suspicions and wants confirmation. The only reason I was going to tell her what DH told me is that when this all eventually comes out (which it will in some way) I don't want her to be pissed at me and accuse me of lying to her.

And yes, another PP hit the nail on the head. Some of these guys are not on the up and up. Cheaters, womanizers, etc. The type of guys who WOULD encourage a drunk groom to cross the line with a stripper.

Nothing demonstrates a solid start to a marriage than having to get information from third sources to determine if your future husband is lying to you. I think you should tell her to ask her fiance and if she does not believe what he says, she should not marry him.

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