Strippers in hotel room

[Anonymous]

You tell her your husband left early for a flight, so you do not know. Keep out of this shit storm.

[Anonymous]

my now wife knew we were having them in a hotel room, no big deal, we all know there is a line not to cross, relax folks ahve some fun

[Anonymous]

i would say yes i knew, he tells me everything. and she will be like umm and hav eno idea what to say and relaize she is a pain in the ......

[Anonymous]

Domestic things will turn on the outsiders very quickly. She will say you told her that your husband said there were strippers/hookers and blah blah blah...all that will be remember is that YOU and YOUR HUSBAND started this. It's not rational, but she has a wedding and she can't blame/stay mad at her man with that wedding coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

He totally broke guy code. Some people just don't need to be invited to bachelor parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

He did leave early and you really don't know what all went on in that hotel room, who showed up, etc. So - you told her the truth. You really DON'T know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

He totally broke guy code. Some people just don't need to be invited to bachelor parties.

And now he won't be invited to these things anymore.....darn (lol)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

Good call, OP.

Your DH can choose to tell her but not you. Even with your DH though, he is not an eye witness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

He totally broke guy code. Some people just don't need to be invited to bachelor parties.

Guy code? You are a douche bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

He totally broke guy code. Some people just don't need to be invited to bachelor parties.

And now he won't be invited to these things anymore.....darn (lol)

OP here. Which will be fine by him. He isn't big on bachelor parties and the few times he's been best man he's had other groomsmen plan them. He's happy with dinner and drinks at a nice bar. Obviously not what many would like for a bachelor party.

[Anonymous]

I think you could honestly say that you don't know - that your husband left early and there weren't any strippers when he was there, but you don't know what did or didn't happen for the rest of the night.

I think whether you say more or not depends on your friendship w/ the fiance and whether you feel a personal/direct responsibility to her to give her the maximum information. But I'm not sure I'd go there unless I really thought she was a close friend (and even then I might not delve into anything that could legitimately be called speculative.)

Sounds like a rotten way to start out a marriage. But you and your husband sound pretty cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my now wife knew we were having them in a hotel room, no big deal, we all know there is a line not to cross, relax folks ahve some fun

Except, in this case it seems that the "bride to be" was not fully informed about everything.

People have different thresholds. Maybe the "bride to be" is reacting not to the hookers or the bjs or the kinky sex that happened, but reacting to a pattern of lies and coverups!

OP, you and DH need to be far away from this drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

He totally broke guy code. Some people just don't need to be invited to bachelor parties.

And now he won't be invited to these things anymore.....darn (lol)

OP here. Which will be fine by him. He isn't big on bachelor parties and the few times he's been best man he's had other groomsmen plan them. He's happy with dinner and drinks at a nice bar. Obviously not what many would like for a bachelor party.

OP, your DH sounds like a really nice guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Decided to just say "sorry I don't know. DH left early"

And I don't think DH is considered uptight or whipped. He came home at 1am and we had to be leaving for the airport at 5am. And he told me in a "can you believe what best man did? That isn't going to go over well" type of way. We usually talk about things like that.

Good call, OP.

Personally, I can't imagine grilling the SO's of the men who attended. Way too embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't even know for sure so text and say you don't know. Don't be the one to start drama on hear say. Strippers at a club, hotel, or back alley, who cares... It's still a stripper. You and your husband sound uptight.

OP here. Ha far from uptight if you knew us. Before I met DH, he told me about a 21st bday party he went to where strippers were hired to come to the birthday boy's hotel room. Turned out they were actually escorts, so Dh was just warning the best man that it can happen.

I think she's probably reaching out to all wives/gfs in whose significant others were at the bachelor party because she now has suspicions and wants confirmation. The only reason I was going to tell her what DH told me is that when this all eventually comes out (which it will in some way) I don't want her to be pissed at me and accuse me of lying to her.

And yes, another PP hit the nail on the head. Some of these guys are not on the up and up. Cheaters, womanizers, etc. The type of guys who WOULD encourage a drunk groom to cross the line with a stripper.

The genesis of drama...Any of you DCUMers remember Gladys Kravitz from "Bewitched"?