Brother abuses elderly mother. Pushes her down the stairs in a moment of anger, crippling her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think all the parents on DCUM concerned that their only child does not have a sibling, should read this thread. I have often said that having a sibling is not a recipe for a built-in friend.

+1
I know this comment is off topic for this thread, but that is exactly what I was thinking.

really? I think this is a thread that shows the value of siblings. If the brother had been an only child, there would have not been anyone else checking in on mom or going to the police and getting him removed as caretaker when the accident happened. At least in this case, Op and her other sibling were able to have some contact and step in at various moments. They are also fulfilling roles (i.e. executor of the estate) and were also involved in arranging care when her brother bowed out. Seems to me life would have been much worse for the OPs mom if the brother had been an only child.

Mother would have died unnoticed. Also it was very painful to realize that my brother would do such a thing, but that he planned it and did it and the reason was he did not like her and he wanted her money. So had to lose brother as well. Not really feeling too warm about him after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: Thank you all for the support. Brother barred the door and threatened my mother when we tried to intervene. It took us awhile to figure out what was going on and to what extent. The money is not significant, and I do not need it, but it hurts me that he is the recipient of the moneys after what he did to her. Yes, the police were very nice, but there was not a lot they could do. After the tragic fall, the brother bowed out and just waited for the payday. We did not know about the will. Note I said, sent the will to him, not to the rest of the family. Members of the family tried many times to help but he was always either threatening or wheedling -- what ever it took. All I can say is go with your gut if you feel this is happening to a loved one (including your kids)

Karma's a bitch. He'll get his day.

[evangelina22]

What a scum..I am sorry to hear that.. terrible..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. You are not alone. My sibling is like this with my mother. I am reporting her for elder abuse. She took everything from my mother and now wants her out on the street. The sibling drinks every day, all day. It's awful.

In my case, my mother created a monster, literally. Is that the case in your family? They may mean well, but favoritism helps NO ONE. Ever.

Wills can easily be appealed. Get a lawyer. Yesterday.

Yes, that is the shortest answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think all the parents on DCUM concerned that their only child does not have a sibling, should read this thread. I have often said that having a sibling is not a recipe for a built-in friend.

+1
I know this comment is off topic for this thread, but that is exactly what I was thinking.

really? I think this is a thread that shows the value of siblings. If the brother had been an only child, there would have not been anyone else checking in on mom or going to the police and getting him removed as caretaker when the accident happened. At least in this case, Op and her other sibling were able to have some contact and step in at various moments. They are also fulfilling roles (i.e. executor of the estate) and were also involved in arranging care when her brother bowed out. Seems to me life would have been much worse for the OPs mom if the brother had been an only child.

Mother would have died unnoticed. Also it was very painful to realize that my brother would do such a thing, but that he planned it and did it and the reason was he did not like her and he wanted her money. So had to lose brother as well. Not really feeling too warm about him after that.

She practically did. No one in that family deserves any pat on the back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and causing brain damage. After years of suffering painfully in a wheelchair, she dies. He inherits her entire estate under terms of a will she wrote 20 years ago. do not know if I can face the funeral.

You sound a little off...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think all the parents on DCUM concerned that their only child does not have a sibling, should read this thread. I have often said that having a sibling is not a recipe for a built-in friend.

+1
I know this comment is off topic for this thread, but that is exactly what I was thinking.

really? I think this is a thread that shows the value of siblings. If the brother had been an only child, there would have not been anyone else checking in on mom or going to the police and getting him removed as caretaker when the accident happened. At least in this case, Op and her other sibling were able to have some contact and step in at various moments. They are also fulfilling roles (i.e. executor of the estate) and were also involved in arranging care when her brother bowed out. Seems to me life would have been much worse for the OPs mom if the brother had been an only child.

Yes, I agree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think all the parents on DCUM concerned that their only child does not have a sibling, should read this thread. I have often said that having a sibling is not a recipe for a built-in friend.

+1
I know this comment is off topic for this thread, but that is exactly what I was thinking.

really? I think this is a thread that shows the value of siblings. If the brother had been an only child, there would have not been anyone else checking in on mom or going to the police and getting him removed as caretaker when the accident happened. At least in this case, Op and her other sibling were able to have some contact and step in at various moments. They are also fulfilling roles (i.e. executor of the estate) and were also involved in arranging care when her brother bowed out. Seems to me life would have been much worse for the OPs mom if the brother had been an only child.

Yes, I agree!

Why is it so great that people were checking on her and going to the police? Nothing happened, she died, and he got away with it. All because no one was really checking on her all along and they were turning a blind eye to what was happening. This whole family makes me sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and causing brain damage. After years of suffering painfully in a wheelchair, she dies. He inherits her entire estate under terms of a will she wrote 20 years ago. do not know if I can face the funeral.

You sound a little off...

I'm curious. What makes you think so? Anybody would sound a "little off" if they were writing about having coming to grips with a sibling who attempted to murder a parent. I'd be upset, too, if I were in OP's shoes. Shocked, guilt-ridden, self-blaming, and very deeply upset for not having recognized what was happening sooner. Hard for a normal person to believe someone would be so callous and devious, especially a close relative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and causing brain damage. After years of suffering painfully in a wheelchair, she dies. He inherits her entire estate under terms of a will she wrote 20 years ago. do not know if I can face the funeral.

You sound a little off...

I'm curious. What makes you think so? Anybody would sound a "little off" if they were writing about having coming to grips with a sibling who attempted to murder a parent. I'd be upset, too, if I were in OP's shoes. Shocked, guilt-ridden, self-blaming, and very deeply upset for not having recognized what was happening sooner. Hard for a normal person to believe someone would be so callous and devious, especially a close relative.

Not PP, but I think OP sounds a little off, too. She's very dramatic ("stain on the soul" -- really?) and she is very focused on the estate. She really sounds like she could have given a rat's ass about Dear Old Mom right up to the point that she realized that Brother is going to inherit. She also did nothing to protect her mother or to seek justice for her mother after her brother confessed to pushing her down the stairs.

OP is off.

[Anonymous]

^^ I agree, and I'd go one step further - OP is culpable.

[Anonymous]

Nothing is easier than saying that some is off. Or overly dramatic. Some one died.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is easier than saying that some is off. Or overly dramatic. Some one died.

And OP's response to the alleged murder of her mother is to make dramatic statements on the internet, but refuse to contact the police. She also failed to report her brother's confession to the police when he made it. She is complaining bitterly that he is inheriting.


OP is very, very off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is easier than saying that some is off. Or overly dramatic. Some one died.

And OP's response to the alleged murder of her mother is to make dramatic statements on the internet, but refuse to contact the police. She also failed to report her brother's confession to the police when he made it. She is complaining bitterly that he is inheriting.


OP is very, very off.

Reading comprehension fail. OP said she did go to the police.

[Anonymous]

OP, ignore these people. Your brother is a monster. I like the idea of turning down being executor. What your brother did is terrible, and I understand that it is hard to know what is going on at the time.

My sister did something much much less bad (taking a large sum of money from my mom while in the hospital when it was clear that she really might not make it -- after having cut of contact with my mom for about a year. I still can't forgive my sister for it.