So your son's best friend has a mom who is bipolar safety concerns

[Anonymous]

Keep dh away they tend to get all horney and slutty during mania. Will promise to do things only the dirtiest pornstars would do before they got their big break.

[Anonymous]

Don't let him be with her unsupervised. Play at your house.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't let him be with YOU unsupervised. Is that what you were waiting to hear? The truth?

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's OP. again. I have reason to believe what I've heard is true as there is collaborating evidence. Please don't ask for specifics. I'm not spreading gossip about the mom in the community but rather addressed the collaborating evidence to someone even closer to her than me when I started to notice things with her seemed off. I do really feel bad for avoiding her. If it was just a relationship with the mom and my son was grown, then I could make a decision as an adult. I wrote this message on the heels of the Columbia Mall Shooting. In situations like that people always say but so and so was so nice. I agree it's an extreme case and very unlikely but I'm going with my gut.

Collaborating evidence????

There is no need for "collaborating evidence". Nobody doubts a person has said (something along the lines of) "I'm going to kill you" to a spouse.

I'm sure there are a few perfect angels who've never even thought to utter such a thing.

But the majority of us have.

So why does this make that mother such a monster?

What have you witnessed personally that suggest she's a bit 'off'?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am done with this thread. I can't believe most of the responses and I'm not going to provide juicy details to "prove" it. To the PP who said most wives threaten their husbands' life- you are whacked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am done with this thread. I can't believe most of the responses and I'm not going to provide juicy details to "prove" it. To the PP who said most wives threaten their husbands' life- you are whacked.

I'm whacked?

LOL! But YOU'RE the one caught up in teenage rumors and gossip and seeking anonymous advice on how to respond like an adult in such a situation from strangers!!!!

No, YOU my dear are whacked. AND immature to say the least. Therefore, I'm not surprised by your name calling.

Now, go and continue to gather evidence on what may or may not have happened during someone's marriage. Seems you've already put a lot of time and effort into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the likelihood of someone hurting your DC is really, really low. I would be much more concerned about sexual abuse than a parent seeming "weird" in some undefinable way. (My kids are older.) I have had a situation where my DC's friend got spanked by their parent while my DC was at their house for a play date and I never let them go there again because I don't want them exposed to that and thought it was totally inappropriate, but I wasn't worried they would hurt MY child.

Ugh. This was me and my parents back in the day. I feel so sad for your DC's friend, not only getting spanked, but then also being avoided by everyone. Not judging you for avoiding, just saying I feel for that little kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am done with this thread. I can't believe most of the responses and I'm not going to provide juicy details to "prove" it. To the PP who said most wives threaten their husbands' life- you are whacked.

I'm whacked?

LOL! But YOU'RE the one caught up in teenage rumors and gossip and seeking anonymous advice on how to respond like an adult in such a situation from strangers!!!!

No, YOU my dear are whacked. AND immature to say the least. Therefore, I'm not surprised by your name calling.

Now, go and continue to gather evidence on what may or may not have happened during someone's marriage. Seems you've already put a lot of time and effort into it.

Hello- that's exactly what DCURBANMOM is...people seeking answers from strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the likelihood of someone hurting your DC is really, really low. I would be much more concerned about sexual abuse than a parent seeming "weird" in some undefinable way. (My kids are older.) I have had a situation where my DC's friend got spanked by their parent while my DC was at their house for a play date and I never let them go there again because I don't want them exposed to that and thought it was totally inappropriate, but I wasn't worried they would hurt MY child.

Ugh. This was me and my parents back in the day. I feel so sad for your DC's friend, not only getting spanked, but then also being avoided by everyone. Not judging you for avoiding, just saying I feel for that little kid.

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I am the PP. I know, I felt really torn about it but at the end of the day I just didn't want my kids over there. I did meet at parks etc. for a while before it petered out.

[Anonymous]

Even if she is bipolar, it sounds like you are writing her off without even knowing her. Spend some time with her before deciding if she is really a risk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS grandma (my mother) is bipolar and I do not allow them together without my supervision. Never know when they're going to have an "episode."

I'm a psychologist and this isn't accurate. Bipolar people don't suddenly have an episode. It can present itself more as a cycle. If you knew your grandma you could read the signs of when she was "down" or "high." In any case my fil is bipolar and he's helped me watch my kids since they were born. That being said I would never leave them alone with them in his care- he's unpredictable in the way that he gets lost in his thoughts, but I know him very we'll. you don't know this boys mothers or her patterns. When it comes to my child's safety I don't take risks, regardless of whether it's nice or not nice to stop being friends with someone with a mental illness. I agree with you being cautious. I think a pp mentioned inviting friend to your house or doing outings as play dates where you could meet somewhere. A lot of what you know is here say and I do think that's important to be careful but also be kind and compassionate. Good luck!

I work in criminal justice, so the bipolar people I see are usually in a very bad place, but I would say...no freaking way would I leave my kids alone with a mentally ill person. I have all the compassion in the world (and have spent time working in prisons with them) but these are my kids. No. Or better yet, hell no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor that is completely paranoid. She wears a hat every single day, it's weird. She reports other neighbors a lot for things that aren't real. I have asked others, and they tell me she is paranoid. I am debating if I should believe them or not. I mean, it could be just a bunch of neighborhood gossips with an irrational grudge?

She has a ton of kids. Am I to believe all of her children are in danger?

That's weird? It's winter. I think it's weird when people walk around w/o hats pretending they're not cold. But that doesn't make them crazy.

No, all year long, rain, sun, whatever. It would be impossible that she never, ever, even one day washes her hair, right?

Maybe she lost her hair? Has cancer? Female baldness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's OP. again. I have reason to believe what I've heard is true as there is collaborating evidence. Please don't ask for specifics. I'm not spreading gossip about the mom in the community but rather addressed the collaborating evidence to someone even closer to her than me when I started to notice things with her seemed off. I do really feel bad for avoiding her. If it was just a relationship with the mom and my son was grown, then I could make a decision as an adult. I wrote this message on the heels of the Columbia Mall Shooting. In situations like that people always say but so and so was so nice. I agree it's an extreme case and very unlikely but I'm going with my gut.

You mean corroborating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor that is completely paranoid. She wears a hat every single day, it's weird. She reports other neighbors a lot for things that aren't real. I have asked others, and they tell me she is paranoid. I am debating if I should believe them or not. I mean, it could be just a bunch of neighborhood gossips with an irrational grudge?

She has a ton of kids. Am I to believe all of her children are in danger?

maybe she is religious? can't be bareheaded in front of non-family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor that is completely paranoid. She wears a hat every single day, it's weird. She reports other neighbors a lot for things that aren't real. I have asked others, and they tell me she is paranoid. I am debating if I should believe them or not. I mean, it could be just a bunch of neighborhood gossips with an irrational grudge?

She has a ton of kids. Am I to believe all of her children are in danger?

That's weird? It's winter. I think it's weird when people walk around w/o hats pretending they're not cold. But that doesn't make them crazy.

No, all year long, rain, sun, whatever. It would be impossible that she never, ever, even one day washes her hair, right?

Maybe she lost her hair? Has cancer? Female baldness?

Nice try. She is as paranoid as OP. OP, you need help. Grow up.