Would you work in this situation?

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Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Your DH makes $250-$500k/year and you can't afford to go back to school? Part-time? Come on.

Well I don't know how supportive he would be. He really wants me to be a SAHM. But it's fine with him if I stay in teaching.

As someone who also thinks it's important for adults to have the skills to support themselves, this attitude in a DH would really, really bother me. Basically, what you're saying is that it's fine with him if you do your thing, as long as it doesn't inconvenience him in any way and you're home to pick up the kids and cook dinner?

Well it's a bit more complicated than that. Part of it is that I already had an expensive education which he helped me pay off. Part of it is that if I went back to school, even part time, we'd still need childcare. Our nanny and preschool are expensive. Part of it is that we're saving a lot for our children's educations and (I'm assuming this) his opinion that that goal is more important. Part of it is his belief that I won't find being an admin. asst. any less stressful or more enjoyable than being a teacher. Part of it is his assertion that it will be virtually impossible to find a job teaching college or as a librarian in our area (this part is important because his job obviously takes priority) if I went back for my master's in my subject area or library science (the two things I was considering).

But yes part of it is what you're implying. He's human. I'm sure he wouldn't be happy if things changed and I had less time to spend on the kids/dinner/house etc.

Former teacher here: It is pretty easy to get a part time job in teaching. They are very happy not to pay your benefits. If you are still paying for childcare it means your kids are young. They will get older and you can expand if you want to. Or not. many teachers retire when their DH makes a certain amount. I have been retired for a long time and really do not miss it.

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If you like being a SAHM mom (try it out one summer, see if it works for you), quit. Use extra time while the kids are little to think about what career you'd prefer and dip your toes into volunteering. You can increase your volunteering or go back to school once the kids are in school activities all day.

Bottom line: I'd quit if you think you'll be happier SAH. I wouldn't worry about "security" because 1) if your marriage is solid, why plan for divorce and 2) if you had to, I bet you could get back into teaching.

Do what you want now, while you have the chance.

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I personally think 60k is the magic number when deciding to work or not work. There are SAH calculators online to figure out whether the second income is really worth it. With her husband's salary, like the PP said, she is really not making much on the dollar for her work because the higher the household income, the higher the tax bracket.

If I were in this situation, I'd quit the full time job in June and then find a part-time situation tutoring or teaching. When the kids get older, I'd reassess going back to school.

44k does not seem worth it to work from a financial standpoint.

If she was in a different profession other than teaching, I might not quit, because it is hard to get back into the workforce in many professions. Teaching, however, is relatively easy to get back into and it is common for women to take time off and return.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Except you have both the time and money, sounds like.