How upset would you be with your spouse if they did this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not overreacting. He is being an asshole. I would be livid.

+1

Do not have any more children with this man.

[Anonymous]

If this is real, he is a mooch, even if he makes more than you. Sounds like D time, or you also become a dog walker and make more money. Expand the business. Take your DC with you, drop day care, you'll have more money.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you just ask him calmly whether he wants to na part if this family anymore? It sounds like he doesn't give a crap about you or his son. (Who could leave a child crying and miserable like that ?)

It's weird, reading this. My DH has alcohol and drug problems, but he jumps when our son cries, and he's a great caretaker of both of us. I find myself weirdly thankful for these problems rather than being with someone so cold hearted and selfish as your DH. (mine is a different kind of selfish, I know)

Anyway, since your DH doesn't do any child care, maybe there's a chance he's want little or no physical custody if you divorce? Plus, since he makes more, he'd at least have to pay child support.

I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't a 3 year old get up and walk into your bedroom or bathroom. You have a monitor for a 3 year old that wakes up screaming in the morning. That seems odd.

Also, I may need to take up dog walking -- 5 hours of work and he makes more than you do with a full time office job? Whoa!

Here's what I suggest. Sit down and say that this situation is ridiculous and you feel drained and are at your wits end. Then come up with a plan together and execute. He's not going to offer to start waking up before 11:00 and taking on responsibility. He seems perfectly happy with the schedule the way that it is. You're not, he won't do more than you make him and he can't read your mind.

He's still in a crib. Once he starts not liking the crib, or when he starts making progress with potty training, I'll move him to the toddler bed. Usually, when he wakes up, he just plays for a while, or if he's ready to get up, he just calls for me. It's very rare for him to wake up crying. He's an exceptionally good sleeper.

I'm planning on having a talk with husband tonight, after DS goes to bed. It's strange though, he hasn't called me yet. I'm still debating whether I want to pick up his call when he does. I still just have no desire to hear his voice right now.

[Anonymous]

How can your child make progress with potty training while he is in a crib at night?

[Anonymous]

Pretty soon your kid will be walking around in the mornings. Will be interesting to see what DH does when kid tries to get him up. What will he do? Look him in his room?!

Yep - get the kid in his own bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty soon your kid will be walking around in the mornings. Will be interesting to see what DH does when kid tries to get him up. What will he do? Look him in his room?!

Yep - get the kid in his own bed.

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[Anonymous]

It's not the sleeping late issue; it's the rude, disgusting behavior. Putting the monitor while you're showering. For work. Then calling you a bitch. Sorry OP the only bitch here is your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not overreacting. He is being an asshole. I would be livid.

+1

Do not have any more children with this man.

That shouldn't be an issue, even if we wanted another. Last year, I was told that I would not be able to conceive anymore due to a medical issue.

[Anonymous]

Gah, he just called and left me a voicemail, acting like nothing ever happened this morning.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't like the kid.Mine would go and see why the kid is screaming and then reason with the screaming kid.
Good luck putting it behind. I couldn't, unless he had maffia knocking on the door at the same time, he had no business doing what he did.

[Anonymous]

OP here with update. So, I finally took his call, and I asked him why he did what he did. He *says* that he did go into DS's room when he was crying, but DS cried and screamed that he wanted mommy, not daddy, I have no idea if this it true or not, but even if it is, I think it's still a pretty lame excuse. He apologized for calling me a b*tch, and said he was just really tired and grumpy. He is so different than the man I married. It's like he's is just someone else entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. So, I finally took his call, and I asked him why he did what he did. He *says* that he did go into DS's room when he was crying, but DS cried and screamed that he wanted mommy, not daddy, I have no idea if this it true or not, but even if it is, I think it's still a pretty lame excuse. He apologized for calling me a b*tch, and said he was just really tired and grumpy. He is so different than the man I married. It's like he's is just someone else entirely.

pretty common at that age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not overreacting. He is being an asshole. I would be livid.

Nothing to add to this post. Summed it right up. So sorry for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. So, I finally took his call, and I asked him why he did what he did. He *says* that he did go into DS's room when he was crying, but DS cried and screamed that he wanted mommy, not daddy, I have no idea if this it true or not, but even if it is, I think it's still a pretty lame excuse. He apologized for calling me a b*tch, and said he was just really tired and grumpy. He is so different than the man I married. It's like he's is just someone else entirely.

pretty common at that age

Wait, how did you figure out how old DH was from her post?