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Anonymous wrote:I don't want to hurt feelings but that would have been a deal breaker for me.

Me too - even mouth herpes would be a deal breaker for me.

Cold sores?

Yes - so nasty!

Lol. Have fun with that since 90% of the populations has it. You probably do too!!

+1. So much misinformation.

I guess that if I have it then I must be symptomless then because I've never ever had a cold sore. I know a couple people who do get them and I avoid them like the plague when they do. And absolutely never let anyone in my family share utensils or anything with them at any time. Nasty!! I could never kiss someone who gets them.

I do know I'm CMV negative.

What happens if your kids get cold sores? Most exposure for that is childhood and teens. Will you avoid them like the plague too? Or manage it like a health issue?

I'm not advocating that you drop your hygiene practices. We do the same in our household. But kids are exposed at school, at friends, at relatives. You can't control everything.

Probably won't be kissing my kid on the face if he/she gets a cold sore. And we'd all be extra careful about sharing food, washing hands, etc. I'm stuck with my kids, but wouldn't knowingly enter into a new relationship with someone with herpes. Any type.

[Anonymous]

Your "new friend" has integrity. You could do a lot worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+1. So much misinformation.

Well, while you're being smug, let's introduce some actual, you know, factual information.

HSV-2 is the virus most people mean when they talk about the genital STD "herpes" and the prevalence, while quite high, is nowhere near 90%; it's more like one in six people - ~20% of women and ~10% of men:

http://www.cdc.gov/nchhstp/newsroom/hsv2pressrelease.html

HSV-1 is the "cold sore" virus that many people get orally (and quite a few other places - typically in or near mucosal tissue (your gums or eyes for example, where it can be dangerous). Yes it is possible for people to get an HSV-1 infection on their genitalia - women in particular (having mucosal tissue in their vajay-jays) are more susceptible to this, but it's not nearly as common as HSV-2 genital infections - it's pretty rare actually. Similarly, HSV-2 in other situ are rare (though not unheard of).

Also, while neither of these is any big deal - certainly not like HIV or drug resistant gonorrhea - HSV-2 is not a complete nothingburger.

Finally, regarding the accuracy of tests - they are quite good and perfectly reliable:

http://www.questdiagnostics.com/testcenter/testguide.action?dc=TH_HerpeSelect

Yes, some false positives occur, but not too many false negatives.

This probably would not be a dealbreaker for me - I wouldn't hook up casually and I'd insist on an anti-viral (valtrex) and wear a condom (which helps but does not prevent). The amount of virus shed seems to be similar, regardless of whether a lesion is present (there is an outbreak).

So, yeah, by all means, let's have less ignorance and idiocy on parade. My wife has a good friend who has a hard time cementing relationships because she acquired an HSV-1 genital infection, and most guys don't understand how it is different from HSV-2.

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Not a deal breaker. An opportunity for you to learn about the condition and what it would take to avoid getting it yourself. An opportunity for conversations about how she manages it, what precautions she takes, etc. A chance to see how the two of you negotiate something complicated. A good reason to delay sex until you've hashed this stuff out.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want to hurt feelings but that would have been a deal breaker for me.

Me too - even mouth herpes would be a deal breaker for me.

Cold sores?

Yes - so nasty!

Lol. Have fun with that since 90% of the populations has it. You probably do too!!

+1. So much misinformation.

I guess that if I have it then I must be symptomless then because I've never ever had a cold sore. I know a couple people who do get them and I avoid them like the plague when they do. And absolutely never let anyone in my family share utensils or anything with them at any time. Nasty!! I could never kiss someone who gets them.

I do know I'm CMV negative.

What happens if your kids get cold sores? Most exposure for that is childhood and teens. Will you avoid them like the plague too? Or manage it like a health issue?

I'm not advocating that you drop your hygiene practices. We do the same in our household. But kids are exposed at school, at friends, at relatives. You can't control everything.

Probably won't be kissing my kid on the face if he/she gets a cold sore. And we'd all be extra careful about sharing food, washing hands, etc. I'm stuck with my kids, but wouldn't knowingly enter into a new relationship with someone with herpes. Any type.

You sound uneducated, at best. 90% of the population carries the herpes "cold sore" virus. Most don't know they have it. Would you administer a screening test or something? You may be a carrier yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Your "new friend" has integrity. You could do a lot worse.

+1

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Deal breaker for me. Not interested in purposely exposing myself to a life-long disease. As you'll notice, most folks okay with it in this thread have it or their spouse does, so not exactly an unbiased crowd.

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I've had around 100 partners and have not contracted HSV2. In fact recent bloodwork shows no antibodies for HSV2 or HSV1.

Contracting HSV2 is my biggest fear regarding STIs.

Fear of HIV doesn't even register. Herpes scares the fuck out of me.

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Anonymous wrote:I've had around 100 partners and have not contracted HSV2. In fact recent bloodwork shows no antibodies for HSV2 or HSV1.

Contracting HSV2 is my biggest fear regarding STIs.

Fear of HIV doesn't even register. Herpes scares the fuck out of me.

This makes no sense. What is your line of thinking?

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Deal breaker. No way -female here

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Anonymous wrote:I've had around 100 partners and have not contracted HSV2. In fact recent bloodwork shows no antibodies for HSV2 or HSV1.

Contracting HSV2 is my biggest fear regarding STIs.

Fear of HIV doesn't even register. Herpes scares the fuck out of me.

This makes no sense. What is your line of thinking?

NP. HIV is a socioeconomic disease (drug users, gay men, risky hetereo sex (see previous two))

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Anonymous wrote:I've had around 100 partners and have not contracted HSV2. In fact recent bloodwork shows no antibodies for HSV2 or HSV1.

Contracting HSV2 is my biggest fear regarding STIs.

Fear of HIV doesn't even register. Herpes scares the fuck out of me.

This makes no sense. What is your line of thinking?

I have sex with educated hetero white women between the ages of 24 and 30.

HIV is a non factor.

HSV2 on the other hand, is something to watch out for.

Nevertheless, I use condoms until bloodwork gives reasonable assurance of lack of STI - but still, its all about the HSV and not the HIV

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This is so ignorant

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Anonymous wrote:I've had around 100 partners and have not contracted HSV2. In fact recent bloodwork shows no antibodies for HSV2 or HSV1.

Contracting HSV2 is my biggest fear regarding STIs.

Fear of HIV doesn't even register. Herpes scares the fuck out of me.

This makes no sense. What is your line of thinking?

I have sex with educated hetero white women between the ages of 24 and 30.

HIV is a non factor.

HSV2 on the other hand, is something to watch out for.

I assume you're trolling, but just in case: HSV is a more common, but it'd also impact your life A LOT less. And you're insane if think that there aren't educated white women btwn 24 and 30 who are HIV positive.

Nevertheless, I use condoms until bloodwork gives reasonable assurance of lack of STI - but still, its all about the HSV and not the HIV

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Perhaps the pp is more concerned about herpes because condoms aren't wholly effective against becoming infected. A very valid concern.