Are we out of line?

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Anonymous wrote:The holidays are over. You got your responses, some you liked, some you didn't like. Why are you still responding to this OP on Jan 9? Stop the drama in 2014,

Someone posted a response yesterday and I replied. There's no "drama" here at all. Chill out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You also shouldn't fuss if people don't come to your Xmas day dinner in the future. If people are going to Xmas eve at the mil, they might have obligations to the other sides of the family on Xmas day or maybe just want to div their own thing.

OP here, thanks. dH's siblings don't have other family around here, and they would usually just sit around MIL's and graze on leftovers from the night before, not do anything special on Christmas itself. But it's clear that MIL wants them there and adamantly does NOT want them at our house. Next year, we'll just let her do her Xmas Eve thing at her house and I'll invite whoever wants to come, to come to dinner on Christmas Day. If no one comes from DH's side, it's their loss. I can't imagine that we'll want to do the smoky house with a 1 year old either, so DH will probably just drop off a fmgift with our regrets. I just can't do the smoking thing any more, and I guess trying to have their usual gathering at our place is a no-go.

Thanks for the understanding!

Good plan for next year. That is what u should have done done to begin with. Let dh go for an hour or so on Xmas eve to say hello to everyone.

They should not have kept this secret from you. But no way should you have tried to hijack the entire holiday. Do one event at your house and another at hers.

These are your in laws. It's not even your family.