Boyfriend bought me flowers after reading an article

[Anonymous]

Are you studying for the gre or the ged? I think the ged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! An OP who doesn't argue with sound advice or tell savvy posters to STFU. Who knew?

Smart OP. Good luck.

I came to the blog for advice: good or bad.. Although, majority of the women here think I am stupid. Overall, I appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

You are annoying.

[Anonymous]

First and foremost, neither of you are ready for long term relationships. You need to grow and discover who you are. At 22, I might have been that needy....except the technology did not exist to allow the constant communication....a my Long Distance GF, with whom I was clingy, I could call maybe once a week. In my case, I learned that being needy is not a sign of affection but rather a sign of depression. I figured that out 10 years later.

The thing is, at 22, you should be focusing on you. Learning who you are.

[Anonymous]

OP, he sounds like a creepy, controlling future stalker and/or abuser. Dump him and use that time to study for your GREs. If he doesn't support you in your studies, that's a terrible sign, and a potentially dangerous one (he wants to keep you down, he's selfish, etc.). If you're sending him self- help articles after only six months, it's not a good relationship. End it.

[Anonymous]

I agree, can we please get to the diamond ring?? Even if it's actually CZ, I don't get what this is and why.

[Anonymous]

OMG OP just answer the damn diamond ring question

[Anonymous]

OP, is it possible he is kind of socially awkward? Some of this also sounds like it could be a guy who has really limited social skills and is doing what he thinks he is supposed to without really understanding the social context.

He could be controlling, or he could have Asperger's the way you have presented him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow! An OP who doesn't argue with sound advice or tell savvy posters to STFU. Who knew?

Smart OP. Good luck.

I came to the blog for advice: good or bad.. Although, majority of the women here think I am stupid. Overall, I appreciate it.

We don't think you're stupid.

We think you're a typical 22 year old young woman, thinking about this with a 22 year old heart and brain. We've all been there and recognize ourselves in what you're saying. We know you are smart, motivated, and have a lot of potential to do great things with your life. We know that you are also still immature in many ways, and that you can very, very easily get distracted by loser BFs like this, who can derail your entire future if you're not careful. (Many of us have wasted YEARS of our lives on guys like this; some never recover from that.)

We're trying to get you to see this from the perspective of a 40 year old looking back and trying to avoid mistakes. But we also know that is very hard, if not impossible to do, from where you are right now.

[Anonymous]

Why are you buying this loser a diamond ring? You're just going to encourage him to continue to stalk and harass you. Save your money, return the ring and break up with him. You sound like you have solid plans for your future and he's only going to drag you down.

[Anonymous]

Good luck on the GED!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you buying this loser a diamond ring? You're just going to encourage him to continue to stalk and harass you. Save your money, return the ring and break up with him. You sound like you have solid plans for your future and he's only going to drag you down.

Probably because she wishes he would buy her one but he's too clueless.