Home buying that doesn't lead to divorce or a 'boating accident' of one spouse

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone so hung up on buying where they work.

I would buy in a central location near many jobs that allowed me to not be held down by a single job.

I would also switch jobs to move to an area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone so hung up on buying where they work.

I would buy in a central location near many jobs that allowed me to not be held down by a single job.

I would also switch jobs to move to an area.

If finding a job is that easy with a same or comparable salary and same or comparable public school system, then oh, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Argh. My DH is driving me bananas. I just don't get it. We've been looking for 6 months now and have passed over 2 perfect houses (DH insisting on low balling one of them). Today we saw another perfect house. DH is being whiny and says he's not sure and won't be sure until he compares the house to his list of criteria, which he won't do tonight bc he has to watch football and won't do the next two nights bc he has a work project. Is it is just me or is he avoiding buying a home?

This one is perfection for us. I'm beside myself, because we're going to lose another house.

We're in a tiny town house where our 3 ye old sleeps on the floor in our room and DH doesn't give a shit.

Could very well be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Argh. My DH is driving me bananas. I just don't get it. We've been looking for 6 months now and have passed over 2 perfect houses (DH insisting on low balling one of them). Today we saw another perfect house. DH is being whiny and says he's not sure and won't be sure until he compares the house to his list of criteria, which he won't do tonight bc he has to watch football and won't do the next two nights bc he has a work project. Is it is just me or is he avoiding buying a home?

This one is perfection for us. I'm beside myself, because we're going to lose another house.

We're in a tiny town house where our 3 ye old sleeps on the floor in our room and DH doesn't give a shit.

Communicate with him. Find out whether he really wants to move. Does your tiny townhouse have only one bedroom?

It sounds to me you guys want different things. He is happy with the status quo and he is not. The only way you are going to change him is if you make him unsatisfied as well. You can do that through strategic withholding of food, sex, and silence - the three most important things to a man.

"Honey, there is no food left, this house is causing me depression. Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow."

"What are you doing!? Our kid is right there!!! Maybe next weekend when your parents takes him to the zoo."

"Sorry for all the noise, I'm trying to keep myself busy. I wish you had a corner of the house to escape to."

Keep that up for as long as necessary. If he doesn't fold, he is not a man.

[Anonymous]

We were both psychologically ready but husband has certain "snob" items that are in the back of his head and it gives him a feel for a house or not. Fortunately, those things lead to a better quality choice. It worked out for us. One of his things is the house has to be all brick. He thinks anything else looks cheap. I humored him and realized he was right (in our circumstances).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were both psychologically ready but husband has certain "snob" items that are in the back of his head and it gives him a feel for a house or not. Fortunately, those things lead to a better quality choice. It worked out for us. One of his things is the house has to be all brick. He thinks anything else looks cheap. I humored him and realized he was right (in our circumstances).

These days all brick just means it's brick facade on all sides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were both psychologically ready but husband has certain "snob" items that are in the back of his head and it gives him a feel for a house or not. Fortunately, those things lead to a better quality choice. It worked out for us. One of his things is the house has to be all brick. He thinks anything else looks cheap. I humored him and realized he was right (in our circumstances).

These days all brick just means it's brick facade on all sides.

You are right! We had to look very carefully and got a solid brick house. (It is older). I personally think the brick front/siding sides look fine, but he couldn't get past that. We all have our quirks. I hate corner lots.