Nanny complains about our lunch meals - what do you think?

[Anonymous]

Oh, please, PP. Give everybody a break. OP, stop genuflecting before Princess Nanny and tell her to either eat what you prepare or bring her own food that she can heat and prepare herself.

If you want to buy special food for her great but stop your whining! You picked her.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs to stock some basics and tell her that she's welcome to make an alternative or bring her own lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:/For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto/ - I wouldn't be able to eat it either.
We eat chicken/beef/salmon, and lots of vegetables (salads, stews).

Agree. I would not be able to eat that either. The nanny may not necessarily be picky, she probably did not want to tell you directly she does not like that kind of food and said whatever first came to her mind. Especially if she did not grow up around here, this is likely not her typical meal. I also agree that she should bring her own food that she likes.

[Anonymous]

OP: respect her central American background. buy a cookbook and cook her what she likes. It is the least you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: respect her central American background. buy a cookbook and cook her what she likes. It is the least you can do.

OP is not her employee's personal chef. PLEASE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: respect her central American background. buy a cookbook and cook her what she likes. It is the least you can do.

OP is not her employee's personal chef. PLEASE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: respect her central American background. buy a cookbook and cook her what she likes. It is the least you can do.

OP is not her employee's personal chef. PLEASE.

I think PP was kidding.

[Anonymous]

Unless she has 4+ kids, you are paying her waaaay too little if she is able to qualify for food stamps. For example, if she has 2 kids, you'd have to be paying her less than $12/hour for her to qualify for food stamps.

However, conversely, you're a dumbass for cooking lunch for your employee everyday. Tell her to bring her own lunch to work like everyone else in the world.

[Anonymous]

More people are on food stamps than have jobs. It's called obamanomics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More people are on food stamps than have jobs. It's called obamanomics.

Food stamps have been around way before Obama.

[Anonymous]

A FT "nanny" on food stamps is like a chauffeur on food stamps. Something is not right with this story.
If you can't afford to pay a living wage, you can't afford a nanny. I don't suppose OP would like to tell us what her food stamp nanny is getting paid per hour?

So the rest of us have to supplement your nanny's wages just so you can have cheap childcare (and toilet scrubbing?).
What a deal!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto. Keep in mind that DD is 1 1/2 and will not eat sandwiches or many other things, so I kind of cook with her in mind. Also, nanny is from central america and wont eat sandwiches for lunch.

Today, nanny refused to eat lunch (not in a mean way), complaining that she cannot eat beans and rice or pasta today because that's all she eats. I asked her in the past what she'd prefer and all she can come up with is chicken. When I ask her what she ate for dinner it's usually eggs, cereal, and rarely beef or pasta. I also note that she gets most of her groceries free with food stamps. She also goes clothes/toys/home shopping every single weekend and wears new clothes almost everyday, so I don't think money is the issue here. Honestly, I don't have the money to be cooking her a beef or chicken dinner everyday for lunch (I cook all our lunches homemade), and even if I did have that kind of $$$, DD cannot eat a dinner essentially twice a day because the nanny wants to go home and not cook anything or not buy meat for dinner I guess. I suppose I do not necessarily know her entire life circumstance because I don't have a cam on her when she leaves, but this quadry is getting frustrating and she has no ideas as to what to do for lunch other than beef or chicken.

What's your opinion? I'm open to everyone's non-snarky thoughts.

There is a reason she is a nanny. If she really doesn't like it, at any time she can go back to night school, work her way towards that elusive degree.

Oh and I forgot delusional. While I guess it's possible for some to work an 8-10+ hour day, come home to your own family and make dinner, after that I don't see how night school fits in? THEN, if she is on food stamps, the likelihood that she could afford night school is pretty slim I'd say.

It is hard, but very possible.
- a nanny attending night school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto. Keep in mind that DD is 1 1/2 and will not eat sandwiches or many other things, so I kind of cook with her in mind. Also, nanny is from central america and wont eat sandwiches for lunch.

Today, nanny refused to eat lunch (not in a mean way), complaining that she cannot eat beans and rice or pasta today because that's all she eats. I asked her in the past what she'd prefer and all she can come up with is chicken. When I ask her what she ate for dinner it's usually eggs, cereal, and rarely beef or pasta. I also note that she gets most of her groceries free with food stamps. She also goes clothes/toys/home shopping every single weekend and wears new clothes almost everyday, so I don't think money is the issue here. Honestly, I don't have the money to be cooking her a beef or chicken dinner everyday for lunch (I cook all our lunches homemade), and even if I did have that kind of $$$, DD cannot eat a dinner essentially twice a day because the nanny wants to go home and not cook anything or not buy meat for dinner I guess. I suppose I do not necessarily know her entire life circumstance because I don't have a cam on her when she leaves, but this quadry is getting frustrating and she has no ideas as to what to do for lunch other than beef or chicken.

What's your opinion? I'm open to everyone's non-snarky thoughts.

There is a reason she is a nanny. If she really doesn't like it, at any time she can go back to night school, work her way towards that elusive degree.

Oh and I forgot delusional. While I guess it's possible for some to work an 8-10+ hour day, come home to your own family and make dinner, after that I don't see how night school fits in? THEN, if she is on food stamps, the likelihood that she could afford night school is pretty slim I'd say.

It is hard, but very possible.
- a nanny attending night school

Good for you. Hope it pays off for you. You don't have your own children, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A FT "nanny" on food stamps is like a chauffeur on food stamps. Something is not right with this story.
If you can't afford to pay a living wage, you can't afford a nanny. I don't suppose OP would like to tell us what her food stamp nanny is getting paid per hour?

So the rest of us have to supplement your nanny's wages just so you can have cheap childcare (and toilet scrubbing?).
What a deal!

Exactly. OP you can't afford a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find her behavior a little entitled, since it does not seem to relate to a health issue, which would be justifiable. Did the contract spell out who provided for meals? You can always suggest to her that she bring her own food, if she cannot eat the one you prepare.

Or maybe she's sick of rice and pasta? So many carbs, maybe she just doesn't want it? She isn't a child she can eat what she wants.

That's fine. If she doesn't like it, she can bring her own damn food. Why should this be her employer's problem?