Nanny complains about our lunch meals - what do you think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things stand out.

1) Why are you cooking meals for the Nanny and your baby? Shouldn't she be doing that?

2) I can understand being on Food Stamps, latest article says one needs about $88,000 to live in DC. I imagine that's probably too steep of a salary to pay a Nanny to watch one child.

Have her bring her own food or feed her some salads. Lettuce is pretty inexpensive, add some tuna and it's a meal!

Jesus Christ, you don't qualify for food stamps if you make $80k. I'd bet she's making less than $500/week!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guess you have to decide if not buying a few rotisserie chickens at Costco or a package of chicken thighs from Safeway is worth changing nannies. Twenty years agp we paid our nanny $400/week plus healthcare benefits and two weeks vacation. What do you pay your nanny?

I wouldnt feed anybody an old rotisserie chicken. I prefer to eat fresh, and I am postulating (if that's the right word - I know you DCUMers are so crticial about verbage and spelling on here!) whether buying fresh chicken during my weekly shop over the weekend to prepare on Mondays might work for that day, but that's assuming the nanny would actually cook it. I will ask her though. As far as pay goes, she is compensated well, has paid vacation etc.

Careful, OP. Your inner bitch is starting to show.

P.S. It's verbiage.

Okay, I was trying to feel OP. But after those "I prefer to eat fresh" and all that crap about fresh chicken, she has totally lost me. Nobody cares anymore. Send her to McDonalds and move on.

[Anonymous]

That nanny sounds annoying & whiney. She should be cooking lunch for the baby, and if you provide her healthy, easy food that's great. If she'd prefer something else, she can bring it. Ask her what she would prefer, and you can keep something on standby. My current nanny for the most part brings her lunch, but I try to have snacks & beverages I know she'll like. Especially on bad weather days, she'll cook yummy dishes for all of them, so I keep the ingredients she likes (frozen chicken breasts, beans, tomatoes, onions, rice, etc) available. Our previous nanny only ate canned soup & cold cut sandwiches, so I tried to always have that available. It could be something simple your nanny wants, but her entitled attitude would kill it for me!

[Anonymous]

Food stamps qualifying information:
http://www.dss.virginia.gov/benefit/foodstamp.cgi
http://www.dss.virginia.gov/files/division/bp/fs/intro_page/income_limits/income_limits.pdf

http://www.ehow.com/about_7466036_qualifies-food-stamps-virginia_.html

A one-person household must not gross more than $1,174 or net more than $903 monthly. Four-member households' gross income limit is set at $2,389 and their maximum net income is $1,838

[Anonymous]

I'm really confused??? Why are you cooking for the child and the nanny?? The nanny is supposed to take care of the child.... clothe, change diapers, feed, play, etc. Provide standard groceries and let her cook??

[Anonymous]

ITA..assume you agree to provide meals, so then provide standard groceries, let her cook her own chicken or make a tuna or chicken or pb sandwich or whatever. Just like I'd do with my DCs if they didn't like what I made for dinner kwim, I cooked xyz, you can choose to eat it or make yourself a sandwich or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto. Keep in mind that DD is 1 1/2 and will not eat sandwiches or many other things, so I kind of cook with her in mind. Also, nanny is from central america and wont eat sandwiches for lunch.

Today, nanny refused to eat lunch (not in a mean way), complaining that she cannot eat beans and rice or pasta today because that's all she eats. I asked her in the past what she'd prefer and all she can come up with is chicken. When I ask her what she ate for dinner it's usually eggs, cereal, and rarely beef or pasta. I also note that she gets most of her groceries free with food stamps. She also goes clothes/toys/home shopping every single weekend and wears new clothes almost everyday, so I don't think money is the issue here. Honestly, I don't have the money to be cooking her a beef or chicken dinner everyday for lunch (I cook all our lunches homemade), and even if I did have that kind of $$$, DD cannot eat a dinner essentially twice a day because the nanny wants to go home and not cook anything or not buy meat for dinner I guess. I suppose I do not necessarily know her entire life circumstance because I don't have a cam on her when she leaves, but this quadry is getting frustrating and she has no ideas as to what to do for lunch other than beef or chicken.

What's your opinion? I'm open to everyone's non-snarky thoughts.

There is a reason she is a nanny. If she really doesn't like it, at any time she can go back to night school, work her way towards that elusive degree.

[Anonymous]

/For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto/ - I wouldn't be able to eat it either.
We eat chicken/beef/salmon, and lots of vegetables (salads, stews).

[Anonymous]

OP, I wouldn't add different foods to what you normally eat for lunch. Tell your nanny that if she doesn't like this food, she is welcome to bring her own food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Food stamps qualifying information:
http://www.dss.virginia.gov/benefit/foodstamp.cgi
http://www.dss.virginia.gov/files/division/bp/fs/intro_page/income_limits/income_limits.pdf

http://www.ehow.com/about_7466036_qualifies-food-stamps-virginia_.html

A one-person household must not gross more than $1,174 or net more than $903 monthly. Four-member households' gross income limit is set at $2,389 and their maximum net income is $1,838

You guys really think this is OK??? To pay your nanny so little that she is on FOOD STAMPS????

[Anonymous]

Maybe nanny doesn't work full time?

[Anonymous]

Why are you cooking for the kid if the nanny is there? Are you both home? Why is the nanny on food stamps? This makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like the nanny is pushing. More and better food for her. What is next? Gourmet deliveries? Seriously, you might rethink this nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto. Keep in mind that DD is 1 1/2 and will not eat sandwiches or many other things, so I kind of cook with her in mind. Also, nanny is from central america and wont eat sandwiches for lunch.

Today, nanny refused to eat lunch (not in a mean way), complaining that she cannot eat beans and rice or pasta today because that's all she eats. I asked her in the past what she'd prefer and all she can come up with is chicken. When I ask her what she ate for dinner it's usually eggs, cereal, and rarely beef or pasta. I also note that she gets most of her groceries free with food stamps. She also goes clothes/toys/home shopping every single weekend and wears new clothes almost everyday, so I don't think money is the issue here. Honestly, I don't have the money to be cooking her a beef or chicken dinner everyday for lunch (I cook all our lunches homemade), and even if I did have that kind of $$$, DD cannot eat a dinner essentially twice a day because the nanny wants to go home and not cook anything or not buy meat for dinner I guess. I suppose I do not necessarily know her entire life circumstance because I don't have a cam on her when she leaves, but this quadry is getting frustrating and she has no ideas as to what to do for lunch other than beef or chicken.

What's your opinion? I'm open to everyone's non-snarky thoughts.

There is a reason she is a nanny. If she really doesn't like it, at any time she can go back to night school, work her way towards that elusive degree.

You're a peach. You realize that there are nannies out there that have degrees, right? They come as professionals needing extra cash, too... Or do you think they are "beneath you"? This is why I would never dare be a nanny in this area. The attitudes on this forum are astounding. They are "the help." Though I do see posts that treat them as family, and pay well.

To the OP, her attitude is entitled and I would let her know she is welcome to make xyz for the kids and her or she can bring her own lunch. I might store her favorite foods in the fridge to snack, but that shouldn't be your job. It's hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For lunch, we usually have beans and rice, chicken with rice, angel hair pasta with red sauce, or macaroni with pesto. Keep in mind that DD is 1 1/2 and will not eat sandwiches or many other things, so I kind of cook with her in mind. Also, nanny is from central america and wont eat sandwiches for lunch.

Today, nanny refused to eat lunch (not in a mean way), complaining that she cannot eat beans and rice or pasta today because that's all she eats. I asked her in the past what she'd prefer and all she can come up with is chicken. When I ask her what she ate for dinner it's usually eggs, cereal, and rarely beef or pasta. I also note that she gets most of her groceries free with food stamps. She also goes clothes/toys/home shopping every single weekend and wears new clothes almost everyday, so I don't think money is the issue here. Honestly, I don't have the money to be cooking her a beef or chicken dinner everyday for lunch (I cook all our lunches homemade), and even if I did have that kind of $$$, DD cannot eat a dinner essentially twice a day because the nanny wants to go home and not cook anything or not buy meat for dinner I guess. I suppose I do not necessarily know her entire life circumstance because I don't have a cam on her when she leaves, but this quadry is getting frustrating and she has no ideas as to what to do for lunch other than beef or chicken.

What's your opinion? I'm open to everyone's non-snarky thoughts.

There is a reason she is a nanny. If she really doesn't like it, at any time she can go back to night school, work her way towards that elusive degree.

Oh and I forgot delusional. While I guess it's possible for some to work an 8-10+ hour day, come home to your own family and make dinner, after that I don't see how night school fits in? THEN, if she is on food stamps, the likelihood that she could afford night school is pretty slim I'd say.