Is it bad form to ask acquaintances where kids are in college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One important suggestion is never/ever ask a high school junior or high school senior (until May 1) what their college plans are, they are incredibly stressed and sick of the question and you will be a popular adult if you say "how bout those Skins, or Caps" or talk foreign policy or clothing styles or whatever, just NEVER college until they are through the process and all set, or they bring it up themselves and seem to want to discuss it.

not Caps..lol

[Anonymous]

10:34 I totally agree with this. I got so sick of people going on about ivies after I was asked what school I was attending. Luckily I could say it was one of the only places for my major and that usually got them to stop. Really it's the people who couldn't get in that are awed by ivies, not the people attending these schools. After freshman year, it got a little easier talking about different colleges. I'd approach families with kids who are sophomores in college or above.

[Anonymous]

I agree with pp. Once people get over the disappointment of their kid not getting into X,Y,Z college...they tend to really embrace wherever they end up and don't look back. So, it's ok to ask once the kid is in college not before.