Platonic "lip kissing" between friends and family members

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Do, that's how it started with Gillian and Jimmy Darmody on Boardwalk Empire.

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows when someone else is uncomfortable with physical contact, including kissing. Thise who force it are very controlling, sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

You know if you were the father referring to the daughter it would sound horrible...think about your father doing this to (with) you...you better stop NOW, or else you will be feeding us your messed up son, and we don't want that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Is this a troll comment? If not PP, I think you need to figure out why you're substituting your husband, with your son. This sounds really unhealthy.

Not trolling. Dh has checked out of the relationship. Ifs like hes here but hes not. Anyways I love kissing my son all the time face lips etc. My mom was not affectionate with me so im traveling down an unbeaten path

The marital problems are one thing, and affection with your child is fine, but it sounds like you're trying to substitute what's missing from your spouse, with your child. Are you in therapy? Personal, marital, or otherwise?

I want to clarify my comment - affection with your child is fine and good, and though I personally think kissing relatives on the lips is seriously gross, the nuances of your marital and child situation is quite disturbing and make the habit inappropriate and unhealthy, as opposed to merely just gross. If you're really not trolling, please seek personal therapy to re-set healthy boundaries ASAP.

[Anonymous]

I love how Russian families are close like that. I think its something to proud of. The average American family has to many issues to Judge wrongly a family close enough to kiss

[Anonymous]

It in times of Ebola.

[Anonymous]

*not in times of ebola* ^

[Anonymous]

Definitely think it's gross.

[Anonymous]

Germy!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Born and raised Americans don't generally don't do this. Not saying it's "wrong," just that it's not done.

Born and raised American here, and my family kisses on the lips.

It kinda started creeping me out once I became sexually active. I'd think... "if my mouth was down there on my man... where has THEIR mouth been????"

Ew. I no longer kiss anyone on the mouth, except my husband. I even tell my kids to turn a quick cheek if someone tries to kiss them on the lips. And furthermore... the biggest mouth kisser in my family gets cold sores regularly and STILL TRIES TO LIP KISS. Not cool.

[Anonymous]

People let their dogs "kiss" them on their lips. The dog could have licked his butt and ate his poop earlier in the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Do, that's how it started with Gillian and Jimmy Darmody on Boardwalk Empire.

lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People let their dogs "kiss" them on their lips. The dog could have licked his butt and ate his poop earlier in the day.

So true!

I don't kiss family on the lips, but we're an Asian family so we never show affection. I never even hug my parents.

I think the lack of affection in my family is dreadful so I'm a big fan of hugging my kids.

Hey, if your family likes to give pecks on the cheek, I think it's fine. Just not for me due to my own crazy hang ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am profoundly uncomfortable with this behavior but I was born and raised here.

Me too. I can't even stand those fake cheek kisses.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Interesting that homosexual kisses are probably OK with 90% of the posters here, but platonic kisses between friends or family "squick" "gross" and "creep" out so many.

If two people are in a relationship = OK, if they are not in a romantic relationship = yuck?

So are that many of you against affection outside of the confines of a relationship? Or is it the family kissing that bothers? Even if that makes the difference for you, aren't we talking about chaste dry pecks and not the Angelina/brother lip lock?