How soon did you let your child have overnight visits?

[Anonymous]

6 weeks?! That's crazy!
Hello attachment and bonding issues. Your newborn baby wants 3 things; sleep, milk and YOU.
My DS didn't sleep over anywhere until both he and I were comfortable. I was ready at 1 year. He wasn't ready until age 2.

[Anonymous]

I'm 38 and my children have 2 great grandparents.

[Anonymous]

One of my children stayed with my parents overnight at only about a year old, but that was more of an emergency when dh and I had to go out of town for a funeral within DH's family.

6 weeks IMO is crazy. If and when you are comfortable is when it would be ok for her to stay overnight.

[Anonymous]

I'm a grandparent and my grandchild has great grandparents too...I am almost 50, my oldest child is over 25, my parents are in their 70s/80s. Not unheard of LOL. All of us were well over 21, some of us in our 30s when we had children.

[Anonymous]

Your child can overnight once he's (A) no longer breastfeeding and (B) sleeping through the night. (Assuming, of course, that you trust the caregiver. Otherwise the answer is never.) It could be a few months from now or a few years.

BUT, if you do trust your MIL for short stretches, hand over DC for an afternoon. Nap, see a movie, catch dinner, have sex. Bond and rest with DH. Everyone benefits!

[Anonymous]

6 month is the earliest that I would do if I were not nursing, otherwise 1 year old.

Your DH can go and spend the night at his mum if he wants. Good riddance if he is unable to confront her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6 weeks?! That's crazy!
Hello attachment and bonding issues. Your newborn baby wants 3 things; sleep, milk and YOU.
My DS didn't sleep over anywhere until both he and I were comfortable. I was ready at 1 year. He wasn't ready until age 2.

Mothers, of course, should feel free to decide when they feel comfortable to let their DC sleep away from home. However, I don't think that one night away at any age is going to impede attachment and bonding. My dd spent one night with my mother when she was four weeks old. We were moving and it was easier for my mom just to take her overnight. DD supplemented with formula. Twelve years on, she doesn't seem to have suffered any negative consequences.

[Anonymous]

Wasnt the OP busted for being a fake poster/troll?

This OP also started the thread where she fed her niece half eaten fruit from her mouth and fought about it with her SIL.

OP has been outed as starting several recent threads that stated she did have children, didnt have children, etc.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/303362.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wasnt the OP busted for being a fake poster/troll?

This OP also started the thread where she fed her niece half eaten fruit from her mouth and fought about it with her SIL.

OP has been outed as starting several recent threads that stated she did have children, didnt have children, etc.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/303362.page

Wow...very interesting! Thanks for posting this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter was little, the first time I left her with my mom was at 6 months.

As a grandmother, I have had my grandkids sleep over starting very young. And then I traveled with them too, to take them to visit their great grandparents. The older child's first visit out of state was when she was 4 months old, and the younger child's first out of state visit was when he was about 6 months old. Both did fine and travel with me all the time to see their great grandparents and their mom has no issue whatsoever with allowing me to take either child, whether together or separately

Wow, you must have been a young mother. Your children must also be young parents. I don't know very many people who actually have greats anymore.

The young ages of parenting may play a role in this for you and yours. Honestly, it sounds sweet and kind of old fashioned. I don't know anyone IRL who would allow the access and traveling that you describe having with your grandchildren. Not in this day and age and not in a large city.

+1. I don't know anyone with a great grandparent.

My dd has a great grand parent. I had her when I was 30, my mom had me when she was 27. Not unheard of...

Really, I dont understand why there are some who are amazed a child can have great grandparents and must be really young when they were had. I know quite a few people who have great grandparents in their family structure still. Not unheard of at all!

[Anonymous]

I definitely agree MIL is overstepping her boundaries here and needs to back off. But to the people who think only an "insane" person would leave their 6-week old with a grandparent are quite off base. With both my children, my mom graciously volunteered a weekend of baby duty so DH and I could get away for a weekend before I went back to work. Granted, this wasn't her idea so she wasn't trying to force us in to anything, but we asked her and she jumped at the opportunity. Other than my husband and my sister, she's the only person I would ever permit to take my newborn overnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get its the baby's greats but she made it sound like they were around even when the kids were much older. They traveled to see the greats " all the time."

You dont have to have babies in your 40s for them to not have greats into childhood. My grandmother was alive when DS was born but died a year later. She was 90. She had my mom at 27. Mom had me at 30. I had DS at 32. DH's grandmothers both died in their 70s, before our first child was born. His grandad died when our youngest was 2. My 2 living greats died when I was an infant and then when I was 8 (that one from Dads side was well into her 90s). Lets not forget the average life span is still under 80.

Also, this poster we are discussing was talking about her daughter's children. There are many things I would let my mom do that MIL could only dream about.

Not that it should really matter but, I am the one who takes my grandkids traveling

I am 50, my daughter is 32 and the grandkids are 3 & 13. So yes, the 13 yo has been traveling for years with me my parents are in their 80s. Go ahead, do the math. Doesnt faze me one way or another. I am thankful my parents are able to see the kids as often as they can and my daughter is thankful I can take the kids whenever to go visit them. Family is very important to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasnt the OP busted for being a fake poster/troll?

This OP also started the thread where she fed her niece half eaten fruit from her mouth and fought about it with her SIL.

OP has been outed as starting several recent threads that stated she did have children, didnt have children, etc.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/303362.page

Wow...very interesting! Thanks for posting this.

And yet, people still continue to respond as if it were a real post. I don't get that at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasnt the OP busted for being a fake poster/troll?

This OP also started the thread where she fed her niece half eaten fruit from her mouth and fought about it with her SIL.

OP has been outed as starting several recent threads that stated she did have children, didnt have children, etc.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/303362.page

Wow...very interesting! Thanks for posting this.

And yet, people still continue to respond as if it were a real post. I don't get that at all.

+1

[Anonymous]

My baby is 18 months, I LOVE my in-laws and trust them completely, and I still wouldn't let them have her for a weekend. A couple of hours while I go to the ballet? Sure. Any period of time covering more than one meal? No.