Yes, I am obsessing about admissions and no, I don't feel bad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, Distract yourself. Since you cannot take your mind away, distract yourself with more plannings. Write down ALL the possible outcomes, then make plans for each and single outcome, like a planning tree.

If the school accept DC: what electives to take? sport? school activities? music instrument? what instrument(s)? anyone know a good teacher? swim team? speed skating or ice skating? how to build an impressive resume? uniform with or without vest, shoes with laces or no laces? car pool or not? who to car pool with? can I drive? what time do I get up, make breakfast? do I need a new alarm clock?

If the school reject DC: where to turn to? plan A, plan B plan C . . .

If the school accept, but after x weeks DC cries and hates the school . . . plan A, plan B, plan C

So by the time you receive THE letter, you are kind of prepared. You may even find yourself need more time to plan.

OP, I am not mocking you. I did the same. My planning currently extended to college selections and applications. Career planning from Nanotechnology Researcher to pediatrician to MBA. Enjoy the wait, and planning.

Oh, come on! I think I just vomited in my mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:<<Unless you have a child with special needs, and I don't get the sense that OP is in that situation, it matters far less than the competitive parents on these boards make it seem. >>

I do have a child with SN, and i can say it does matter very much. I'm not obsessing bc there will be an option for my child, but I very much want him to find a school that can help him thrive rather than fail.

That was my point, if you have a child with SN (I do as well) it matters a great deal where they go to school. For typical kids, it really doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not easy to reverse. You have to either go through the admissions process again or put your child in a public school that may be far less than ideal. You have to pull your child out of a place s/he's gotten to know and away from his/her friends. You have to deal with the fact that you just spent $30K per year on something you feel wasn't worth the price.

I'm guessing that those of you calling OP crazy or telling her to relax haven't been though the admissions process recently.

I think that's the point. Parents of older kids have perspective - we realize that school is just one part of life, that many kids change schools, that a child's needs change over time. To be honest, I don't even remember how/when/where I found out about each DC's admissions decisions.

This year my DC1 is waiting to hear from colleges. Decisions don't come out for another month. It's nervewracking, BUT college is just one part of life, many kids change schools, and DC's needs and interests may change over time.

PP #2 -- I'm with you, and, BTW, you're absolutely right about the college decisions too. Our 2 oldest are in college now and I can tell you that among their friends even those kids who were initially disappointed with their college options nearly all ended up happy and thriving where they landed. The very few who really didn't like their first school solved the problem by transfering.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are going crazy while you're waiting for a decision, you will probably go insane if DC is not accepted. Obsession is not a good thing no matter what.

[Anonymous]

In past years, there was a poster here who made a spreadsheet that people updated with their admit and reject information. If one hasn't been created for this year, that's something that would keep you busy for the next couple of days. you should be able to find the posts by searching and a copy of the spreadsheet.