Pissed off at friend and need to vent
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Anonymous
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OP, there are so many things you can't control about this. I know you won't want to burden your guests with having them come to the same place 9 months later but face it, for all you know, your friends will be invited to 5 destination weddings that year and have to make choices about which ones they can afford. You should go ahead and have your wedding where and when you want to have it and accept the fact that you can't control what other people do.
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Anonymous
Have fun and congratulations on getting married! |
Anonymous
What? people like you exist? I love you. |
Anonymous
As someone who doesn't care about weddings, mine included. I will tell you to grow up OP. But I can see how this might bug me if I cared about weddings, so sorry. |
Anonymous
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Dit it occur to you that perhaps DH's friend's FIANCEE was the one who chose the venue? You and DH are taking it as a personal affront when for all you know, it wasn't intentional. And if DH's friend is going THIS far - getting his fiancee and her family on board, too, to hold the venue there, all in the name of one-up-man-ship! - then let them be the ones with the mental illness. But have you thought, REALLY thought, about how they went about choosing 'your' place?
If this bothers you so much, then change your venue. Perhaps to someplace where your guests won't have to spend their whole vacation time AND budget attending your wedding. See? A win-win! Otherwise, you and DH are being overly dramatic. |
Anonymous
| I would only be upset IF, and only IF, the guy picked the site to piss you and your fiance off. Otherwise, it seems that he picked a spot that someone he admires thought was a good place. It is a testament to your good taste and his lack of understanding social norms. |
Anonymous
| My SIL did this to DH and I. Plus she put her wedding date four weeks before ours. Even though we got engaged a month before her. Nothing we could do about it, but people knew what a bitch thing it was to do. The presents reflected the sentiment of everyone that attended. SIL got box after box of hand towels and kitchen cozies. We got a microwave, DVD player, place settings, and silver services. Everything we registered for. SIL got a bunch of crap!! So, let everyone know what this a-hole did. Make sure all of your friends now etc. |
Anonymous
| I don't know why you are changing the venue. Every wedding is different since every bride and groom is different. Make the wedding your own but keep the details to yourself so Kopycat Kevin doesn't copy them too. |
Anonymous
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I think I get it. I posted on here once with a rant about soon to be sister-in-law that I knew was almost irrational. There was one person that responded that realized what I didn't even understand was behind my venting. For me, it was hurt and coming to the realization that we weren't going to be close like I was secretly hoping. I don't come from a big family and we moved away from our family so I've always wanted my kids to have that Aunt and Uncle that they are close to and cousins that they grow up with. I wanted to have that tight knit extended family and at some point realized that will never be. There are things I can try to control, like my job choices, not changing houses looking for something better, who I agree to marry ...and there are things completely outside of my control.
I could be completely wrong but having postponed the wedding and the health issues of your parents have probably sharpened the focus and significance of the wedding location in a way it may not have if the wedding had happened earlier. I remember the stress of the wedding. At the end of the day, it brought my husband and I closer together, and there are certain things we can now joke about and have made it to the wedding memories. Many of the friends at our wedding have gotten married, moved away, and have kids and we barely see them now, but for my family (even with the drama) the wedding was their chance to see each other. It brought me closer to some relatives including an Aunt that had been like a second mom to my mother ...but not a part of my life growing up. So at the end of the day, forget about the motivations of your Soon to be DH's friends, think about the real reason why you are upset. Remember your family will be there for the wedding as will your best friends. Your bachelor and bachelorette parties will be your time with your friends and we know at least your bachelorette party won't be copied 
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