s/o - How often do you talk to your significant other during the work day?
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Anonymous
I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird.. |
Anonymous
| When DH is in court, which is a lot, we don't talk until he calls when leaving work. Other days, we email about random stuff - what I'm doing, what DD is doing, things one of us saw online, etc. small talk via email I guess you'd say. I rarely call him though bc he often has clients in his office. |
Anonymous
Ever thought of telling him? |
Anonymous
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Varies. Some days nothing. Other days e-mail. If something is going on we might e-mail or call. No time limit on calls. It depends on what we have going on with work and what we have going on life-wise. Right now we are building a house, so we are in touch whenever he's not in court and whenever I'm not in meetings or on conference calls.
We don't do "Oh, honey, how is your day?" calls though. |
Anonymous
No, you are normal actually. |
Anonymous
I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy. |
Anonymous
| Maybe once. Some days, not at all. Ten minutes. Email a lot though. |
Anonymous
Yeah, we have the same stats and have little to talk about, especially AT work. Aren't you too busy at work to talk much? |
Anonymous
| It's funny how many pps respond with "DH is my best friend", so what? that gives you the license to crawl up his ass and camp there?. I have a best friend, and no it's not DH but I don't talk to her multiple times a day because she's my best friend. |
Anonymous
| If something is going on. Email or text usually, may send a funny article if I see one. |
Anonymous
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Depends on what's going on, but generally some kind of contact a couple of times a day, though. ot usually any just 'how are you' calls. But I'll email any time something (Dr apt, paren/teacher conference, etc.) gets put on the calendar - sending it to his work email is my best chance of getting it on *his* calendar. Random other emails as well - since DH basically doesn't check his personal email, his work one is my default fo contacting him.
And then generally a call almost every day around 5ish to check on the evening. DH's schedule / commute times are unpredictable, but generally by then he can give me a good sense of his schedule for that evening. |
Anonymous
Um, my job is not nearly as important as a nanny or a DCP. I work in spreadsheets all day. Its not like I'm an ER doc or something. I talk to my Dh about 2xs a day. We often call each other to check in just to say hi, or (gasp!) I love you. What do we talk about when we get home? Are you serious? If you have nothing of interenst that you want to talk to your spouse about, then that sounds like a pretty miserable marriage. I dunno, last night we talked about the presidential election for a bit, we talked about our camping trip this weekend, and we talked about him possibly getting laid off soon and his action plan to look for a new job before cuts start happening and ways that we could cut our own spending in anticipation. |
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Almost never. We spend almost all of our non-work time together, so I think we both appreciate the time apart.
Only if I need to know something from him right away. In that case, "do you know so-and-so's number?... thanks, bye. ILY." Once in a while (may be once/month?) if we argue in the morning, I'll send him an "I love you" text just so I won't be thinking about it all day. I'll email him articles that directly relate to his job. Usually he'll call me from the car on his way home and we'll make evening plans then. |
Anonymous
| DH and I chitchat on Gchat a couple of times during the day, usually just to say I love you or he'll ask what I need from the grocery store (he walks past it on his way home). Last week he was sending me a bunch of links to funk songs on YouTube because we had been talking about the genre the night before. |
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DH works a non-trad schedule so there are several days a week (and many evenings) where one of us is AT work and one is at home with DD.
Phone call = life or death situation. text = for quick questions or status updates (running late, did paycheck get deposited, please p/u milk). Frequency varies depending on the day. If one of us is at home, usually 1 pic/day of something cute DD did. If we're both at work, it depends how busy we are. We are both in industries where stretches of "OMG busy busy gotta go" are followed by "OM I'm bored. What are you doing?" |