Can't they just cab it from Dulles to fairfax?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, that is ridiculous that your husband has to make that drive. They should just cab it or take the Airport bus to Vienna metro and cab it from there (much cheaper than from the airport.) Your husband will spend more than the cab fare in gas and frustration.

I agree.
It depends on family dynamics - I can see my husband doing the same for his parents, even if financially it doesn't make sense.
How does DH feel? Is he OK with the ride because he wants to see them?

[Anonymous]

Have him take the kids with him. They will get plenty of time to spend together.

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The only thing I will add to this is that it sounds like the parents LIVE in this area and were trying to save money etc. by not parking at the airport or taking a taxi to/from the airport etc. I do think this is different than a relative coming in town to visit you. It's also not a situation where the parents can't drive or don't have the money (I'm assuming) to get themselves to and from the airport. If I am supposed to take off work and have an insane rush hour commute to go to the airport - not to spend time with you, but to drive you to your car 15 minutes away - no way. That to me is a transportation favor not a courtesy/guest pickup and it would be well within my rights to say I can do it around my schedule (e.g. you will have to eat dinner at the airport and I get there 2 hours after your flight) or say that I can book you on supershuttle (if want to pre-pay for your parents). It may have been since brother was so close to the airport it made sense for the parents to save money by parking there and having that son drive them 15 minutes to the airport - it wasn't asking for a big inconvenience (assuming their flight didn't interfere with the son's work hours) at the time. The return flight however is shaping up to be a different story. The issue with DH not spending enough time with DD etc. - different issue altogether.

That is a very good point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my parents are like this ... w/o going into all the details, it led to major issues when I begged off of picking them up at Dulles and driving them to Fairfax after a trip a few years ago (flight was delayed, late Sunday night, I had a baby waking during the night and work the next day)

taking a taxi seemed to be really off putting to them and they complained bitterly about the cost and made us reimburse them - mind you, they were returning from a trip to Europe that cost approx. $8000 so I thought the whining about the $40 cab ride was pretty ridiculous

Wait, your parents made you reimburse them for the cost of their taxi when they returned from Europe late on a Sunday night?

I come from a family that expects rids to and pick-ups from the airport and fully reciprocates. This is crazy.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Yup, DH is more than happy to make the 80 mile round trip to take his parents 12 miles to their car. DD is 1 and doesn't do well in the car so Im not inclined for her to go and sit in the car during rush hour.

DH is supposed to be working from home but can conveniently take time off for anything he wants to do but if I ask him to watch dd so I can cook dinner or go to the doctor, I get a lot of excuses and lectures about how he's working.

I'm just sick of his blind devotion to anything regarding his birth family and no consideration to his own family. Forget me, what about dd?

So frustrated.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, OP? SERIOUSLY you have nothing else more serious to complain about? you should be grateful! Airport pick-ups/drop-offs are common courtesy for friends and family!!!!!!! What is the big deal? Just because maybe you prefer to take cabs, doesn't mean most other people don't love it that there's a loved one waiting to get them when they land.

[Anonymous]

PP here - I agree there must be a larger issue causing OP to be this upset about this. His parents must be douches.

If so, then I can understand why you are upset. My ILs suck and I wouldn't go out of my way to get them from the airport.

[Anonymous]

Obviously the parents in law are just cheap. The only reason to drive to Fairfax to get a ride to the airport is to save paying for airport parking (which is, admittedly, ridiculous). So if OP suggests they spend $35 on a cab, they're thinking that cuts into their parking savings. If OP pays for a car to pick them up they will be happy.

As for the person who turned around and went back to London: good riddance I would say.

[Cloud]

I don't think you're crazy. Doesn't sound like a good use of time to me. If he works long hours and doesn't see your daughter much then that makes it even worse!

[Anonymous]

here is the deal:

1. yes, it does not make financial or time sense. but some families just do this as a matter of custom. it is not the money, but the thinking that family members meet each other after long trips.

2. your husband is ok with it, and he is the one spending his time.

3. read #2.

4. the kid can go on the trip with your husband. doesn't "do well in cars" is again your husband's issue, not yours, as you will not be in the car. he can put on a song or entertain the kid somehow, and on the ride home the grandparents will be in the car with them.

5. so yes, I think you are being controlling. this is not your fight or your issue. I'm guessing your family does things that we would consider weird as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yup, DH is more than happy to make the 80 mile round trip to take his parents 12 miles to their car. DD is 1 and doesn't do well in the car so Im not inclined for her to go and sit in the car during rush hour.

DH is supposed to be working from home but can conveniently take time off for anything he wants to do but if I ask him to watch dd so I can cook dinner or go to the doctor, I get a lot of excuses and lectures about how he's working.

I'm just sick of his blind devotion to anything regarding his birth family and no consideration to his own family. Forget me, what about dd?

So frustrated.

I get you are frustrated, but you seem to be seriously OVER frustrated at this. Just say something like "Glad you have so much time to this when you are working from home today for your family, I'm sure your parents will really appreciate it. Next week when you are working from home I have to go to the doctor and need you to watch Sally from 1:00-2:00. Thanks!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You're not angry about the car ride, you're upset that DH isn't spending more time with DD. He's showing that he is in fact capable of showing devotion to family----it's just that it's not to you guys, his DW & DD, but to his parents.

Address this issue, not the ride to Dulles.

I agree.

But I can also relate to the absurd indignation of being picked up by a car service. When my cousin got married, her mom's friend flew in from England and expected the mother of the bride to pick her up from the airport the night before the wedding. This was an indian wedding, so a 3-day affair. My aunt literally had not slept the night before, so sent a car service (a limo, no less) to pick up her friend. Upon seeing that her friend hadn't *personally* picked her up, she turned around and took the next flight back to London. Crazy, right?

For reals? Are they friends now? How did they mend the relationship?

I actually have no clue - my aunt was really hurt by this and I didn't want to bring it up! I can't imagine that they picked up their friendship after that.

[Cloud]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You're not angry about the car ride, you're upset that DH isn't spending more time with DD. He's showing that he is in fact capable of showing devotion to family----it's just that it's not to you guys, his DW & DD, but to his parents.

Address this issue, not the ride to Dulles.

I agree.

But I can also relate to the absurd indignation of being picked up by a car service. When my cousin got married, her mom's friend flew in from England and expected the mother of the bride to pick her up from the airport the night before the wedding. This was an indian wedding, so a 3-day affair. My aunt literally had not slept the night before, so sent a car service (a limo, no less) to pick up her friend. Upon seeing that her friend hadn't *personally* picked her up, she turned around and took the next flight back to London. Crazy, right?

For reals? Are they friends now? How did they mend the relationship?

Some people! That's ridiculous. Anyone who's ever been in or near a wedding knows how busy it is. She should consider herself lucky she even had a car sent for her at all!

I actually have no clue - my aunt was really hurt by this and I didn't want to bring it up! I can't imagine that they picked up their friendship after that.

[Anonymous]

My mom recently travels often (for pleasure not work) and always expects me to drive her to the airport so she does not have to pay to park. Then she always gets the cheapest flights so it's crazy hours. Finally she asked me to do a 5am at BWI. I just gave her money for parking .

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Anonymous wrote:And what does DCUM have to do with this? What kind of help are you expecting?

Really just venting ....and maybe a reality check to see if this is truly crazy or maybe I'm just not seeing it right.

Someday your DIL or SIL will think the same about you. You sound selfish, immature, and spoiled. You are marrorf, try acting like an adult