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| Arab cultures too, name their kids after parents and grandparents. Some merely switch the father's first and middle to get the son's name. |
Anonymous
I've actually loved the name Harlow for many years and stupid ole' Nicole Ritchie went and named her kid Harlow. So... if I name my daughter Harlow I am sure to give the impression I took it from her even though I have always had it on my list (after the model Shalom Harlow). |
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Many of my Jewish friends have named their children after their grandparents only if they are not still living and only by using the first letter of the grandparent's name, not the full name. What would a Jewish person do whose grandparents were all living? PP--were you kidding? This doesn't sound right to me. |
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Probably bag it unless you want to spend a lot of time defending it. |
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In Jewish tradition you can only name after relatives (not just grandparents) that have passed away. Much like one of the PP's I love the name Sophie, which happens to be my (living) grandmother's name. I wanted badly to use it -- despite the popularity, because I've always loved it -- but couldn't because my grandmother is still alive. Not that that's a bad thing ; ) On a separate note -- we went to the hospital with 2 names and when DD was born I didn't think she looked like either of those names. We scrambled to come up with a name for her (which I'm still not 100% on) and later found out the nickname version of it is *very* popular right now. We had researched our original names because we didn't want one that was too popular and ended up with that anyway... I thought about changing her name, but I guess it's a sign that I haven't found one yet that I like better. |
Anonymous
Sorry my daughter was trying to get my attention 1/2 way through that and when I came back I skipped a few steps. |
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We chose Sacha for our boy name, but the few people we told all said "like Sacha Baron Cohen". Argh! Please don't reference my kid in the same breath as Borat! So it's not just celebrities' kids name that get that reaction. Good thing we had a girl, I guess.
In my husband's culture, you can't use the name of any living relative. It's like saying you wish that relative were dead. I had liked Ava, but he has a cousin by that name, so it was out. Just as well, as it skyrocketed in popularity around the time our daughter was born. And in the tradition of the American Old South, you almost have to use a family name. But other family members had used all the good names, and I sure as heck wasn't going to name my baby Milhouse. Again, good thing I had a girl and had a couple pretty, old-fashioned names to use as my daughter's middle name. |
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In Jewish tradition you can only name after relatives (not just grandparents) that have passed away. Much like one of the PP's I love the name Sophie, which happens to be my (living) grandmother's name. I wanted badly to use it -- despite the popularity, because I've always loved it -- but couldn't because my grandmother is still alive. Not that that's a bad thing ; ) On a separate note -- we went to the hospital with 2 names and when DD was born I didn't think she looked like either of those names. We scrambled to come up with a name for her (which I'm still not 100% on) and later found out the nickname version of it is *very* popular right now. We had researched our original names because we didn't want one that was too popular and ended up with that anyway... I thought about changing her name, but I guess it's a sign that I haven't found one yet that I like better. Actually, there are different naming rules for different denominations within Judaism -- some may name for the living, some cannot and are expected to use the first letter of the name of a deceased love one, and still others are expected to give the new child the name of the grandparents. |
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Original "Sophie" poster here - wow. I'm a little shocked by the reaction to my post and also a little pleased that I finally got someone riled up on this site. And over my DD's name. Who knew?!
I'm tempted to ignore the posts and refuse to answer the questions that were rather rudely posed, but here goes: There are two great-aunt Sophies in my family, one on each parent's side. Both my mother and my father were very fond of their respective Aunt Sophie and I always heard the name in a nice context. I was very fond as a young child of one of them (think the other was dead before I was born). I tend towards old-fashioned sounding names and before people were using Sophie at all in this country, I met a little girl from the UK (who would now be about 15 years old) named Sophie. She was the first and only person aside from old Jewish ladies I'd ever met named Sophie, and I realized I wanted to use the name. Fast forward to 2008 and here we are. And for the record to a PP who was trying (sort of) to defend me (I think), I do not regret the name choice or think I did anything BAD to my child by naming her Sophie. It's a name, people, chill out. |
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| Sophie's mom again. Forgot to add that DD's middle name is very unique (not even on the charts, although it is a real name with a real spelling) and is a family name on DH's side. So there. |
Anonymous
| For those who simply CAN NOT believe that someone would choose a name they don't think is uber-popular only to find out later that it is much more common than they suspected...consider the name Henry. In 2005, the name Henry was ranked nationally as the 102nd most popular boys name. So not uncommon, but not super popular, right? But in DC in 2005, it was the 13th most popular boys name! (88th in VA and 77th in MD for 2005, by the way). So I think sometimes local trends can exist that parents might not be aware of without fully researching local name trends. |
Anonymous
Now THAT is really interesting. This is one the Lily moms back. I had just just check and see (didn't even know this local search thing existed!). So, the year my Lily was born, the name was down at #43...ranked just over Nevaeh. Really?? Now THAT is not what I would have considered to be a popular name. But there was only one more Lily than there were Nevaehs. Who would have thought? |
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I'm one of the "sheep" -- named my son Ethan.
Never even noticed the name in the baby name books. Went to a restaurant named "Ethan's" and my husband was like -- hmmm, Ethan? And by the next day that was that as it was the first name we both liked. I liked "old" names or "odd" names and my husband liked "new" trendier names. Ethan fit my sensibilities because it was biblical, Ethan Allen -- it's been around a while -- and I *thought* given my life experience that it fit into the "odd" bucket as well (my other favorites were Dexter & Brooks - neither of which would my husband stomach). I now realize it also fit my husband's sensibilities because it *sounds* like all the new names -- Ryan, Logan, Dylan, Aidan etc. -- none of which were my cup of tea. But I didn't make the connection between Ethan and those other "new" names at the time. Then I went to look it up in my book and saw it was 5. Huh? I had (to that point) met exactly one Ethan in my entire life. I am now thinking the meteoric rise was due to mission impossible (Tom Cruise character named Ethan). But at the time my son was born I had never seen those movies and was totally unaware of the character's name. When it's your first child you really don't know or understand what it means for a name to be No. 5 (or now it's actually No. 3). So by the time I chose the name it was with knowledge of the popularity but I still didn't get it. We go to the zoo, the park, the mall and I am always one of several mothers calling out "Ethan!" I meet any pregnant woman who is having a boy -- she is naming her son Ethan. If I could go back and undo it I would, but oh well! |
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jewish mom here: i am laughing about the name sophie. my grandmother had at least two girlfriends named sophie, and there were two sadies. her own name was dorothy. is it just a matter of time before sadie and dorothy become ubiquitous again?
i have a son whom i named after my deceased grandfather. had i had a daughter, i would have been somewhat stumped. dorothy was not going to make the cut. and i hated all the D names i was finding. glad i dodged that bullet! |