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| Anyone regret what they named their baby? We spent a long time picking out my daughter's name. I was really excited about the name during pregnancy, but now I'm sort of feeling blah on it. It's too late, we've already named her. Maybe I'm being influenced by feeling that my parents don't like the name. Every time they see her they say "but what are you going to call her?" Like they are hoping I'll come up with some nickname they like better. Or maybe I'm just suffering from sleep deprivation, I don't know. |
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I know someone who changed their child's name legally 2 times before the child was 1.
Another friend, named child "Mary", originally called her "Mazie" birth through year 1. Decided they did not like that, and called her "Maggie" year 1 - through year 4. Now at year 5 they are onto another nickname. The poor kid. When we go to the birthday parties no one knows who to sing happy birthday to. 1 more story - when my child was being baptized, another family who was having their daughte baptized during the same ceremony had decided the night before that they were going to change the child's middle name. Bottom line - it happens. |
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| I like the name I chose, but regret not naming her after my best friend who passed two months after she was born. I thought about changing it, but felt weird after calling her by her original name for two months. |
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It took DH and I 4 days to agree on a name when DD was born. I felt like O sort of settled on a name and was really bummed for the first several weeks after she was born. Then, as she got a bit older and I used her name more, it started to grow on me. No I am super happy with it and feel it really suits her. I also get a lot of "what a great name" when people ask her name so I feel sort of glad I stuck it out 
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I had some at first. My son is "mixed" and the name we chose for him was a strong "american" name. I kept thinking we made a mistake-that maybe he didn't fit his name. I don't feel like that anymore! Everyone that meets him, after hearing his name, exclaims how his name fits him to a T! He's outgoing, fearless and the life of the party. It ended up being the perfect name after all.
We named him when I was only 12 weeks pregnant
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i think you should stick to your guns. you liked the name! don't be influenced by rude people (your parents!!). in short order, you will get used to the name and will wonder how she could have been called anything else.
that being said, i'm crazy about my son's name, but we must have 5 or 6 nicnames that we are always tossing at him. i can't help it! he does know his name and respond to it, but sometimes, he's my "boo boo", sometimes just "lovey," sometimes "lovebug"...see what i mean? keep the name and keep heaping on the love! |
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I know what you mean. My DD6 has a southern name that I do like, and it's unusual which is nice to not have to use her first initial after her name in class (as in Abby J.) like so many other kids do.
My issue is that I think another name fits her to a T: Lola! She is such a Lola personality, I wish like crazy I'd had the courage to name her that. Oh well. In my private world, she's my Lola. |
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I don't regret the name I chose...when people actually use the name. DD's name is Lily. I love the name Lily. I do not, however, like "Lil." I mean, the name has only 4 letters; why does that need to be shortened? So far, only her brother has started using it...but I'm sure it's only a matter of time. Occasionally I correct him, but part of me doesn't want to because I know he's using it only when he's being affectionate. My brother and I did the same thing (neither of us have names with formal nicknames, but we would just use the first syllable when we were being nice to each other).
There are cases where the baby's name doesn't fit the baby once you see his/her personality. I know quite a few people whose parents decided that fairly early in the child's life, and from then on they used the middle name instead. I had no idea one of my closest friends in college went by her middle name until she wrote me a check for something! But her middle name was a WAAAAYYYYY better fit for her than her first name. |
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| I love DD's name but I wish I had spelled it differently. I thought seriously about changing the spelling in the week after she was born, but I already had a birth certificate and SSN and had already ordered her stationary. |
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It sounds like your parents are jerks. Next time they ask you what you're going to call her say, "We're calling her (name), that's the name we gave her, why would we call her something else? " If you have to, be rude right back until they get it. (You can blame it on sleep deprivation later )Tell them they're being rude and hurtful when they say stuff like that.
My husband's parents kept abbreviating our son's name to something we clearly did not want him to be called and after a few visits they finally got it. Now my son is 3 and will correct anyone himself. |
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sorry to hijack, but curious about PP who regrets the spelling of the name -- did you choose a unique spelling and think about something more traditional, other way around, or something else?
as to the topic, my MIL didn't like my nephew's name for a long time and wanted to call him by his initials (because my SIL called him by his initials the whole time she was pregnant and we were usd to it) but now she likes it a lot and think that it fits him (he's only 9 months old so i'm not sure how she can tell, but whatever). stick with it and i suspect everyone will grow to love it. |
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I am the PP who wanted to change the spelling. DD has a common name with a common spelling in our culture but unique in the general population. I wanted to spell it so that it was a unique spelling in our culture as well - also perhaps making it easier to pronounce by the general population. We then realized that people would mispronounce her name regardless of what we did - just like they mispronounce mine
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I still question my decision on my second dd's name (she's almost 1). We had narrowed it down to two names, and I don't know if I will ever feel I made the right choice. Some days I think I did; some days I think not.
My other two kids, however, have great names. |
Anonymous
| there was an article on this several months ago in the nyt. apparently a lot of people regret names and change them legally. it seems that some people don't realize that they have picked common names and decide to change their kids' names very late, like when they go to school. that sounds extreme, but anyway. what would be really interesting to me would be an article on why people name their kids really common names thinking that they are just following their own personal tastes--like lily, sophie, isabel, ella ethan, etc. i don't really understand this phenomenon. people don't actually want to follow a trend, right? has anyone seen anything like that--i guess it would address the psychology of following the crowd, but all the while just thinking that you are picking the name because you like it. TIA |
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I'm the PP with a Lily. I honestly had no idea that it was such a common name. For that matter, I've only actually met one other Lily (who is younger than my DD), but I certainly have heard recently that it is a common name. Sure, I checked the SSA website when I was looking at names, but I really only focused on the top 30 names, and it wasn't there at the time. In fact, we went with Lily over another name I loved because I KNEW that one was really popular. I wasn't shooting for an UNcommon name (I really only like traditional names), but I didn't want one of the very most common names either. My DH and I had a really hard time agreeing on a girl's name; this was one of only two that we both liked. |