For those of you who paint your toddlers nails, here is an interesting view! Yes, many people do..

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Anonymous wrote:That's an example of a performance, which would be when make-up is a special event. And I don't send her to ballet so that she can wear make-up. I send her to ballet because she loves to dance.

So there are exceptions, you say? Hypocrite! I think the moms here who allow it don't do it every day. It's more like a special treat. How is it any different than allowing it for the ballet recital? It's still a young girl being allowed to wear makeup, typically WAY more makeup that moms who allow it as a treat would put on, BTW. Do they really need the makeup to dance in the recital? No, they do it because it enhances, yes enhances, the coustume/performance. But apparently it's OK for a ballet recital because, well, you're only sending her there to dance. Again, I call hypocrite!

I am generally against muder, except for I think there is a thing called self-defense. I am generally against borrowing money, except in special circumstances. Follow closely because this might get a bit complicated for you: Just because there is a GENERAL rule that someone follows doesn't mean that there can't be limited exceptions. If one says generally I do this and this except for during x.y,and z, it doesn't make them a hypocrite because they are following their general rule except for in limited pre-determined exceptions. And how is make-up a "treat"? Inside the house, okay I get that, My child wears my shoes, DH shoes, wore my cardigan yesterday etc. But ouside the house? How is that a "treat"?

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Anonymous wrote:That's an example of a performance, which would be when make-up is a special event. And I don't send her to ballet so that she can wear make-up. I send her to ballet because she loves to dance.

So there are exceptions, you say? Hypocrite! I think the moms here who allow it don't do it every day. It's more like a special treat. How is it any different than allowing it for the ballet recital? It's still a young girl being allowed to wear makeup, typically WAY more makeup that moms who allow it as a treat would put on, BTW. Do they really need the makeup to dance in the recital? No, they do it because it enhances, yes enhances, the coustume/performance. But apparently it's OK for a ballet recital because, well, you're only sending her there to dance. Again, I call hypocrite!

PP here. You also seem very angry and very defensive. If your way is so great, why get so angry?

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Anonymous wrote:PP here. You also seem very angry and very defensive. If your way is so great, why get so angry?

It's because you've liken my child to a whore because I allow her to wear nail polish! If that shouldn't cause me to become angry or defensive, than I don't know what should!

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Anonymous wrote:I am generally against muder, except for I think there is a thing called self-defense. I am generally against borrowing money, except in special circumstances. Follow closely because this might get a bit complicated for you: Just because there is a GENERAL rule that someone follows doesn't mean that there can't be limited exceptions. If one says generally I do this and this except for during x.y,and z, it doesn't make them a hypocrite because they are following their general rule except for in limited pre-determined exceptions. And how is make-up a "treat"? Inside the house, okay I get that, My child wears my shoes, DH shoes, wore my cardigan yesterday etc. But ouside the house? How is that a "treat"?

so your exception is the ballet recital and my exception is a day at the mall. how is it that your exception comes with the territory (all little girls wear it for the recital, right?) so it's ok to indulge whereas my exception means i'm leading my child down the path to slutdom or growing up too soon? i agree: hypocrite.

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Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:I am generally against muder, except for I think there is a thing called self-defense. I am generally against borrowing money, except in special circumstances. Follow closely because this might get a bit complicated for you: Just because there is a GENERAL rule that someone follows doesn't mean that there can't be limited exceptions. If one says generally I do this and this except for during x.y,and z, it doesn't make them a hypocrite because they are following their general rule except for in limited pre-determined exceptions. And how is make-up a "treat"? Inside the house, okay I get that, My child wears my shoes, DH shoes, wore my cardigan yesterday etc. But ouside the house? How is that a "treat"?

so your exception is the ballet recital and my exception is a day at the mall. how is it that your exception comes with the territory (all little girls wear it for the recital, right?) so it's ok to indulge whereas my exception means i'm leading my child down the path to slutdom or growing up too soon? i agree: hypocrite.

I hate to break it to you toots, but you are arguing with two people. I explained the idea of an exception and the other person said the thing about the ballet recital. Make your exception the mall. Carpe Diem! But then don't get mad when people think you are a bad spin-off of toddlers and tiara.

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We're not talking boob jobs or botox for the 4-year-old set here people. It's just a little nail polish. How did allowing that end up as damning our child to a life of prostitution?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are robbing this child of her childhood, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take gym,music, art etc classes at such a young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

made corrections....

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

Actually, what I would very much like you to do is stop telling me that allowing makeup is equivalent to turning my child into a whore. I'm not telling you you should do it, or that you are depriving your child of something. As a matter of fact, I don't care that you DON'T allow it. But what I do care about is the judgement your are passing on my child and on my parenting because I allow her a little makeup from time to time. It's not like I'm letting her play in the street or with fire, or encouraging her to have sex at the ripe old age of 4. It's my choice as a parent to allow it just as much as it is your choice as a parent to not. Just don't call my child a whore because you don't agree with it. That's unfair to my child and you are setting a bad example for yours by thinking that way.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

patroniizing bitch

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

patroniizing bitch[/quote]

hahaha! Learn how to spell!! And again, it is not just me. You were arguing with someone else earlier. Go have yourself a long island ice tea , then. I really think you need it.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

patroniizing bitch

Your anger amuses me.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

Actually, what I would very much like you to do is stop telling me that allowing makeup is equivalent to turning my child into a whore. I'm not telling you you should do it, or that you are depriving your child of something. As a matter of fact, I don't care that you DON'T allow it. But what I do care about is the judgement your are passing on my child and on my parenting because I allow her a little makeup from time to time. It's not like I'm letting her play in the street or with fire, or encouraging her to have sex at the ripe old age of 4. It's my choice as a parent to allow it just as much as it is your choice as a parent to not. Just don't call my child a whore because you don't agree with it. That's unfair to my child and you are setting a bad example for yours by thinking that way.

P.S. I never used that word. You did. And people will pass judgment. Why is this a shock to your system? Do what you want knowing "some" people (maybe only a few) will pass judgment. I think having your child in makeup at the mall sends the wrong message to her and to everyone that sees her. I stick by my opinion and even if you were right in front of me I wouldn't back down from that. It's your choice as a parent? Okay. Stick to it then. I don;t understand your problem.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, it wasn't just me, actually. Everytime I come back there are other people that have said the same thing. I just said that is what some people think. So you just make your decision in a bubble and expect no one to have an opinion on it? Or do you just not care about other people's perception that you are rubbing this child of their youth, teaching the wrong values etc? If that is the case, then I say you are more than welcome not to care. There are certain things that I do with my child that people have opinions on (they shouldn't take classes at sucha young age, shouldn't be in daycare, I should stay home etc etc etc etc). Do I care? No. So if you are so right, don't worry about it. But if you think you are going to change people's opinion with your anger, you are wrong. And you still seem too defensive. I think a nerve was struck. Go have a tea. It will make you feel better.

patroniizing bitch[/quote]

hahaha! Learn how to spell!! And again, it is not just me. You were arguing with someone else earlier. Go have yourself a long island ice tea , then. I really think you need it.

What you need is the understanding that your way is not necessarily the right way. Right for you, maybe, but it's not up to you to tell other people how to raise their children. Parenting is an art, not a science. It's time you sanctimommies get that through your thick skulls. Perhaps that drink would be best indulged by you, as it might dislodge that halo that's clouding your vision and rendering you unable to realize that there's more than one way to raise a child. But then again, I'm sure you don't drink, since that would be wrong. Very wrong. And you would be teaching your child something terrible.

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Anonymous wrote:P.S. I never used that word. You did. And people will pass judgment. Why is this a shock to your system? Do what you want knowing "some" people (maybe only a few) will pass judgment. I think having your child in makeup at the mall sends the wrong message to her and to everyone that sees her. I stick by my opinion and even if you were right in front of me I wouldn't back down from that. It's your choice as a parent? Okay. Stick to it then. I don;t understand your problem.

Maybe you didn't, but others here did. Problem with an anonymous forum is that it's hard to attribute who said what to whom unless the posters identify themselves. Would you really want someone to classify your child as a whore for wearing a little polish? That is the sentiment of some. Even if you didn't use that word, you are agreeing with those who did in principle. Feel free to judge. Glad to see you're teaching your children so well. Nice parenting. You should write a book.