S/O why is sexual molestation of children so common?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people are awful. Criticizing a male teacher for reading a board about children? Worse-- calling him "creepy" for taking an interest in the parents' POV? It's professional research. I wish my kid's teacher were more clued-in to parents' concerns!

And I applaud the teacher for his hard work in a field where male role models are severely underrepresented. Have you ever seen how kids react to the men in their schools? Gym teachers, administrators, etc? Kids, especially ones with no men at home, really value them. My husband used to teach elementary school (pre kids, the horror!) in a very low SES neighborhood. His kids adored him, and got something from him (a firm handshake, a different kind of discipline, a male perspective on their problems) they weren't getting anywhere else. We need to be encouraging men to get in to teaching, not vilifying them based on some very rare (despite OP's inflammatory departure point) sick individuals.

Thank you. Glad to know not everyone on here is crazy. I've never represented myself as a parent and, if relevant, made clear my lack of children (as I did here). I know firsthand the stigma placed on men who work with young children. It is unfortunate, and most so for the many, many (all?) children who would benefit from having more male figures in their lives.

Reality is we as parents are apprehensive- molestation/abduction/abuse is everywhere. Just curious "mr teacher" why are you on a parent board? I did not get an explanation during these questionings. more that those who defended you interpreted your intentions. It would be a lot better coming from you.

[Anonymous]

My two daughters are never left alone w/any male besides my brother. I would say my father, but he is not in town enough nd is not so interested in babysitting anyway. Not even a friend's husband. No one. I just an unwilling to chance it. They are only 2 and 3, so we'll see what happens when they have coaches, etc., but this is something too serious to compromise on. I don't even feel weird about having this rule and will openly discuss with friends. Even though they are young, we talk regularly about how no one can touch their privates, and they tell Mom if someone tries or does. Never too early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people are awful. Criticizing a male teacher for reading a board about children? Worse-- calling him "creepy" for taking an interest in the parents' POV? It's professional research. I wish my kid's teacher were more clued-in to parents' concerns!

And I applaud the teacher for his hard work in a field where male role models are severely underrepresented. Have you ever seen how kids react to the men in their schools? Gym teachers, administrators, etc? Kids, especially ones with no men at home, really value them. My husband used to teach elementary school (pre kids, the horror!) in a very low SES neighborhood. His kids adored him, and got something from him (a firm handshake, a different kind of discipline, a male perspective on their problems) they weren't getting anywhere else. We need to be encouraging men to get in to teaching, not vilifying them based on some very rare (despite OP's inflammatory departure point) sick individuals.

Thank you. Glad to know not everyone on here is crazy. I've never represented myself as a parent and, if relevant, made clear my lack of children (as I did here). I know firsthand the stigma placed on men who work with young children. It is unfortunate, and most so for the many, many (all?) children who would benefit from having more male figures in their lives.

Reality is we as parents are apprehensive- molestation/abduction/abuse is everywhere. Just curious "mr teacher" why are you on a parent board? I did not get an explanation during these questionings. more that those who defended you interpreted your intentions. It would be a lot better coming from you.

And what do you get for all that apprehension? A whole lot of agitation and NO improvement to the safety of the environment.

I came to this site upon learning that there were several threads about a school I worked in. From there, I found lots of interesting information and different perspectives on schools, child raising, and more. I found great opportunities to contribute as an educator and an individual and to learn from people coming from a wide swath of society.

By the way, molestation/abduction/abuse is NOT everywhere. You do realize that most, by a HUGE majority, of molestation/abduction/abuse is committed by someone the victim/family know well, right?

[Anonymous]

vigilance is our only defense.. but read the news=if you were a parent you would be protective. GL.

[Anonymous]

Shame on the people bullying the male teacher. Take your pitchforks and torches home please. You are truly ignorant.

If we are all suspected perverts, YOU ARE TOO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is beyond sick and my DH and/ or I would take down (injure severely) anyone who touched our child(ren)....we would not trust the judicial system at all....the coach in PA. esp. sickens me as his buddies covered for him. The sooner they are afraid of the consequnces perhaps the sooner they will control their sick urges.

uh huh. sure you wouldn't.

I love when people come up with this nonsense. You quite probably can't squish a bug and here you are making vague threats on an internet board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shame on the people bullying the male teacher. Take your pitchforks and torches home please. You are truly ignorant.

If we are all suspected perverts, YOU ARE TOO.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shame on the people bullying the male teacher. Take your pitchforks and torches home please. You are truly ignorant.

If we are all suspected perverts, YOU ARE TOO.

+1

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[Anonymous]

PP here- the whole I'm a parent can't be a pervert BS doesn't fly - Sandusky had SIX kids.

[Anonymous]

To answer OP's question:

Pornography.

Molestation of children has always happened. But it has gotten much, much worse with internet pornography. My husband works with the FBI and has prosecuted many child abuse and rape cases. His training clearly shows internet pornography exacerbating the problem. Because it takes men who were not "born this way," molested as children themselves, in a state of arrested development, etc., and leads them gradually into child porn, then acting out child porn. It normalizes and desensitizes, and creates a "need" where there was none before. This widens the pool of perpetrators.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer OP's question:

Pornography.

Molestation of children has always happened. But it has gotten much, much worse with internet pornography. My husband works with the FBI and has prosecuted many child abuse and rape cases. His training clearly shows internet pornography exacerbating the problem. Because it takes men who were not "born this way," molested as children themselves, in a state of arrested development, etc., and leads them gradually into child porn, then acting out child porn. It normalizes and desensitizes, and creates a "need" where there was none before. This widens the pool of perpetrators.

This is utter bullshit. We may be hearing about and prosecuting more cases, but it's just irrational to say that it's "much much worse" than ever before. You have bought into the 24-hour news sensationalization of the phenomenon. Note the number of posters on every thread who say they were molested as children... pre-internet. I have just as much evidence to say that molestation was MORE common before the internet, as the wrong-wired folks had no other outlet for their proclivities, as you have to say that internet porn has increased the problem.

I believe that if we had more male teachers, we'd see less molestation, or more cases caught early. It's very important for children to know what a normal, respectful relationship with a man looks like, so that they can identify a bad relationship. If the only man in your life is mom's boyfriend, and he tells you it's normal, how are you to know otherwise? A male role model could field questions that children might not bring up with a female teacher. The more eyes looking out from the more different perspectives, the better.

[Anonymous]

When my sister and I were molested in the 70s, the police told my parents that keeping quiet and not putting us through the trouble of a case and trial was the best way to handle it.

Ten years later, when I was attacked by a violent pedophile not previously known to the family, the police were only slightly better. He was never charged as part of a plea deal, but at least they went through the motions to arrest him.

Maybe, less pedophiles were prosecuted because police can be incompetent boobs unconcerned with justice or protecting the community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To answer OP's question:

Pornography.

Molestation of children has always happened. But it has gotten much, much worse with internet pornography. My husband works with the FBI and has prosecuted many child abuse and rape cases. His training clearly shows internet pornography exacerbating the problem. Because it takes men who were not "born this way," molested as children themselves, in a state of arrested development, etc., and leads them gradually into child porn, then acting out child porn. It normalizes and desensitizes, and creates a "need" where there was none before. This widens the pool of perpetrators.

This is utter bullshit. We may be hearing about and prosecuting more cases, but it's just irrational to say that it's "much much worse" than ever before. You have bought into the 24-hour news sensationalization of the phenomenon. Note the number of posters on every thread who say they were molested as children... pre-internet. I have just as much evidence to say that molestation was MORE common before the internet, as the wrong-wired folks had no other outlet for their proclivities, as you have to say that internet porn has increased the problem.

I believe that if we had more male teachers, we'd see less molestation, or more cases caught early. It's very important for children to know what a normal, respectful relationship with a man looks like, so that they can identify a bad relationship. If the only man in your life is mom's boyfriend, and he tells you it's normal, how are you to know otherwise? A male role model could field questions that children might not bring up with a female teacher. The more eyes looking out from the more different perspectives, the better.

You did not read my post carefully. My husband works with law enforcement, and has been a prosecutor. His training includes statistics, studies, and interviews with convicts. The porn connection is fact. It is not complicated.

[Anonymous]

Because we do not chemically or physically castarate the b*strds!! It is self-perpetuating...statistically those abused in this manner most often go on to do to children themselves. I would be in jail if somebody did this to one of my sons.

[Anonymous]

PP, if they weren't arrested or prosecuted, how much could we learn about pedophiles from the past? The statistics and "facts" are inaccurate.