If you had a no-kids wedding...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had some kids even though I didn't want them there. Now that I have kids my view hasn't changed. I prefer to attend no-kid weddings and have childcare or not to go to the wedding.

Traveling to a wedding is a real hassle for me. I want it to be a mini-vacation. Having a lot of kids at the wedding makes it less adult and less fun for me. I'm not the only one.

Why can't people just accept this is a question of preference. You inconvenience some people by saying yes to kids and others by saying no to kids.

What exactly is everyone doing at weddings that is more fun without kids? Gang banging?

My group of friends and family is younger and no one has ever asked, on an invite, to leave their kids at home - I mean they are a part of the family too!

Drinking and dancing without supervising my overtired children, that's what. Very simple.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had some kids even though I didn't want them there. Now that I have kids my view hasn't changed. I prefer to attend no-kid weddings and have childcare or not to go to the wedding.

Traveling to a wedding is a real hassle for me. I want it to be a mini-vacation. Having a lot of kids at the wedding makes it less adult and less fun for me. I'm not the only one.

Why can't people just accept this is a question of preference. You inconvenience some people by saying yes to kids and others by saying no to kids.

What exactly is everyone doing at weddings that is more fun without kids? Gang banging?

My group of friends and family is younger and no one has ever asked, on an invite, to leave their kids at home - I mean they are a part of the family too!

If you don't like fancy adult dinners with adult conversation and always prefer to have kids running around, fine.
Are you really surprised that not everyone feels that way?

[Anonymous]

My kid is ready for bed at 6:30 at night. Trust me, you don't want him at your evening reception. And I know plenty of other parents who would have the same honest observation about their own kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

You don't get the point. I got married 15 years and 2 kids ago, and it wasn't a "mistake" to have a child free wedding.

I do get it. Some PPs were humble enough to recognize the foolishness of this request. Others did a good job explaining their choice without being defensive. The funny part was to read so many comments of angry bridezillas feeling attacked by an anonymous question in a virtual community. Honestly, inwas expecting the first two responses (and that's what I came here for) and got te third as a bonus. I shoud have expected that since in the end this is still DCUM.

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*I was

[Anonymous]

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I do get it. Some PPs were humble enough to recognize the foolishness of this request. Others did a good job explaining their choice without being defensive. The funny part was to read so many comments of angry bridezillas feeling attacked by an anonymous question in a virtual community. Honestly, inwas expecting the first two responses (and that's what I came here for) and got te third as a bonus. I shoud have expected that since in the end this is still DCUM.

You're changing your story, OP. Until now you've been making it clear that the request is always foolish and only a lack of humility could explain the failure to agree to its foolishness.

[Anonymous]

OP, what the hell is your problem? Why are you looking for a fight? You sound like a very, very difficult person.


And WHAT ON EARTH does not having kids at your wedding have to do with ego???!!! Are you nuts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I do get it. Some PPs were humble enough to recognize the foolishness of this request. Others did a good job explaining their choice without being defensive. The funny part was to read so many comments of angry bridezillas feeling attacked by an anonymous question in a virtual community. Honestly, inwas expecting the first two responses (and that's what I came here for) and got te third as a bonus. I shoud have expected that since in the end this is still DCUM.

You're changing your story, OP. Until now you've been making it clear that the request is always foolish and only a lack of humility could explain the failure to agree to its foolishness.

Don't we all change? There were very few folks who explained their reason why and they're entitled to it and I kinda sympathized with them. As I said I found funny to see some people very secure about their choices while there were others who felt bugged and acted defensive. That's all.

Thanks for sharing your experiences.

[Anonymous]

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OP, what the hell is your problem? Why are you looking for a fight? You sound like a very, very difficult person.


And WHAT ON EARTH does not having kids at your wedding have to do with ego???!!! Are you nuts?

Hm... another bridezillas who banned kids or you're not following the thread? We've talked about what you're asking a few pages ago.

[Anonymous]

OP: It is THEIR day. NOT YOUR DAY! Simple.

[Anonymous]

Since OP loves the term birdezilla so much she must have been one - a HUGE one!

[Anonymous]

Bridezilla oops

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope--don't regret it a bit.

Don't regret it at all and no kids at wedding or reception. Also, told nursing mothers there was no place for them to pump at reception. A wedding is an expensive and adult event. I also have dinner parties and cocktail parties at my home where children are not invited.

[Anonymous]

What ethnicity are those who have "no kid" weddings - definitely would not fly in my ethnic group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What ethnicity are those who have "no kid" weddings - definitely would not fly in my ethnic group.

So, if I invite you to my wedding, am I supposed to adhere to your groups' social norms, or am I allowed to follow my own without you bitching about it?