If you had a no-kids wedding...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

Why is it so hard for you to accept that people might do things differently than you and be perfectly okay with it?

You actually sound very immature and judgmental. How old are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

Why is it so hard for you to accept that people might do things differently than you and be perfectly okay with it?

You actually sound very immature and judgmental. How old are you?

She sounds like a teenage troll who is pissed off about not being invited to Uncle Bob's wedding.

[Anonymous]

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I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

Why is it so hard for you to accept that people might do things differently than you and be perfectly okay with it?

You actually sound very immature and judgmental. How old are you?

She sounds like a teenage troll who is pissed off about not being invited to Uncle Bob's wedding.

So you think there are actually people still brooding about whether their weddings were all they could be, years after the fact?

I think that's giving weddings a lot more weight than they deserve. Unless someone deliberately alienated someone as part of the wedding planning, I'd think most of us have moved on. You know, what with having lives and stuff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

Oh, hon. Just let it go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

Oh, hon. Just let it go.

Someone is NOT following the thread...

[Anonymous]

We had some kids even though I didn't want them there. Now that I have kids my view hasn't changed. I prefer to attend no-kid weddings and have childcare or not to go to the wedding.

Traveling to a wedding is a real hassle for me. I want it to be a mini-vacation. Having a lot of kids at the wedding makes it less adult and less fun for me. I'm not the only one.

Why can't people just accept this is a question of preference. You inconvenience some people by saying yes to kids and others by saying no to kids.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of a person RSVP NO to an event because children were welcome. Now, RSVP NO because they were NOT welcome I've seen a lot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of a person RSVP NO to an event because children were welcome. Now, RSVP NO because they were NOT welcome I've seen a lot!

That's because people don't know in advance how many children will be there. I've regretted attending several weddings that were just like big bar mitzvahs with a short ceremony beforehand. If I had known, I wouldn't have done all the out of town traveling to attend. I would have sent a gift and my well wishes.

[Anonymous]

What a peach, PP.

So the guests were more important to you then the hosts? Yuck! I think they'd be better of w/o you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had some kids even though I didn't want them there. Now that I have kids my view hasn't changed. I prefer to attend no-kid weddings and have childcare or not to go to the wedding.

Traveling to a wedding is a real hassle for me. I want it to be a mini-vacation. Having a lot of kids at the wedding makes it less adult and less fun for me. I'm not the only one.

Why can't people just accept this is a question of preference. You inconvenience some people by saying yes to kids and others by saying no to kids.

What exactly is everyone doing at weddings that is more fun without kids? Gang banging?

My group of friends and family is younger and no one has ever asked, on an invite, to leave their kids at home - I mean they are a part of the family too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a peach, PP.

So the guests were more important to you then the hosts? Yuck! I think they'd be better of w/o you...

OP isn't really talking about the hardship to parents who have to find care for their children. She's talking about how fun and great it is to have children at a wedding. It is fun and great to her. It is not to me. We have small children, limited vacation time, limited money, and have to decide which weddings to attend. If I could magically attend the ceremony for every wedding we are invited to without cost or long plane rides, I would. If I knew the reception was more important to the coupld than the ceremony, I would magically attend that.

Instead, I live in the real world where I have to go to some weddings and skip others, even though I love all the couples and wish them all well. How far to fly, how much it costs, and whether the evening will also be an adult night of reconnection with my DH all come into play in choosing what to attend.

I'm not a bad peach.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just to give you some perspective, the most expensive of the 3 was the US wedding for 40 ppl. And it's not about having the money, it's about willingness to make it happen. We could easily afford something grand for fewer people but we preferred to give up on a few details to make sure we could invite more loved ones. We prefer friendship to status.

OK, well, awesome. You had the wedding(s) you wanted, and others had the weddings they wanted. Yay! Any more info you needed? tee hee?

I didn't come here for any "info". I asked because I wanted to see if anybody else was humble enough to recognize their mistake but seems like most of you are still drowning in your ego even anonymously. And that's just sad.

You don't get the point. I got married 15 years and 2 kids ago, and it wasn't a "mistake" to have a child free wedding.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds very eager to label. Maybe she has been labeled all her life....as a dumba**. Probably rightfully so. OP face it, not everyone shares your view. You really do need to grow up, I agree with PP. I hate to resort to this, but it seems true in this case, get the help you need. You are hanging onto something that should only matter to the bride and the groom.

Does it make you feel better to use the bridezilla term? You probably also use mcmansion? Are you that sour? Really? Get over it. You indeed, are the peach here. I would say no to your wedding, kids or not! I am thinking most of your guests did the same? Is that we you are so intolerable? Get help, really. A wedding is not day care. Some people want to socialize instead of chasing kids around. So be it. You seem to make a big deal out of nothing at all.