Aggressively telling women to smile...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People don't say it because they want you grinning ear to ear. They say it because you are frowning.

For some people, it's just a reaction. For some guys, it is a way to talk to a woman.

But if you stop frowning, the comments will go away. Frowning is your right, but that is what is going on. I used to get the same thing. Then I learned not to frown while I was walking or thinking.

Some people are not wired to smile all the time (that has been proven), so the constant smiling is effort. And in some cultures, it is seen as fake. That said, no one has the right to get in someone's face and say something that rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't say it because they want you grinning ear to ear. They say it because you are frowning.

For some people, it's just a reaction. For some guys, it is a way to talk to a woman.

But if you stop frowning, the comments will go away. Frowning is your right, but that is what is going on. I used to get the same thing. Then I learned not to frown while I was walking or thinking.

Some people are not wired to smile all the time (that has been proven), so the constant smiling is effort. And in some cultures, it is seen as fake. That said, no one has the right to get in someone's face and say something that rude.

What bothers me is that when you walk around ANY city or town, people don't walk around smiling. It's one thing if you look particularly sad or troubled, but the more appropriate comment would be, "why so sad?" or "everything okay?" if someone feels they must comment or truly cares. "Smile" just implies that you have nothing on your mind, nothing going on, and yeah, you are not fulfillling your duty of spreading joy to others 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So get on that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's nasty harrassing behavior. I hate it.

[Anonymous]

Holty crap, OP. This is all you have to complain about? It could be worse. Really.

[Anonymous]

They're just hitting on you. As adult women, we should all have this figured out by now. Ignore them, roll your eyes, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And what's up with "Have a nice day!" ??? Don't tell me what to do! And quit prying into my business. I hate those rude people.

Another one is "Thanks for coming!" from store employees. Don't thank me; just provide me a service. And why do they always say it in that gaspy, moaning way? Really irritating.

And don't get me started on "Good morning!". I just about want to strangle those little urchins when they come pounding down the steps each day. They're just trying to manipulate me into cooking breakfast. Jerks.

hahah I really like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't say it because they want you grinning ear to ear. They say it because you are frowning.

For some people, it's just a reaction. For some guys, it is a way to talk to a woman.

But if you stop frowning, the comments will go away. Frowning is your right, but that is what is going on. I used to get the same thing. Then I learned not to frown while I was walking or thinking.

Bully for you. I happen to be thinking about...oh, I don't know, my motion for summary judgment, my daughter's MRI results, my VISA bill, about a thousand different possible things. I don't give a fuck if I'm frowning, it's my interior monogue. Do men get this "smile" business? Of course not! They have a right to any facial expression, frown, grimace, or otherwise.

Oh, Op. Aren't you a peach? If you don't give a f-ck, then go on with your business and stop worrying about it to the point of being a whiny b-ch in an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People don't say it because they want you grinning ear to ear. They say it because you are frowning.

For some people, it's just a reaction. For some guys, it is a way to talk to a woman.

But if you stop frowning, the comments will go away. Frowning is your right, but that is what is going on. I used to get the same thing. Then I learned not to frown while I was walking or thinking.

Bully for you. I happen to be thinking about...oh, I don't know, my motion for summary judgment, my daughter's MRI results, my VISA bill, about a thousand different possible things. I don't give a fuck if I'm frowning, it's my interior monogue. Do men get this "smile" business? Of course not! They have a right to any facial expression, frown, grimace, or otherwise.

Oh, Op. Aren't you a peach? If you don't give a f-ck, then go on with your business and stop worrying about it to the point of being a whiny b-ch in an anonymous forum.

Hey pp- alot of us are immensely enjoying this thread so why dont you *f-off and go somewhere else. But make sure you are smiling..ok!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think your own post established that it's not a come-on. People don't often come on to cranky 40-somethings.

You're absolutely right. Jennifer Aniston, 42, is absolutely sexless and no one would ever hit on her.

1. Notice the "often" - which means that it does happen sometimes. Reading is fundamental.

2. I'm gonna go out on a limb and speculate that you are no Jennifer Aniston.

I'm 5 foot 6, 121 lbs. I have red hair and green eyes, and I get hit on A LOT. Oh....I'm 47.

Ok, OP, we get it. You're a stunning middle-aged scandinavian goddess who gets hit on A LOOOOOOOOT and it's such a nuisance for your wonderful pretty self to endure a "smile!" from low-level UPS delivery men. Now go take your petty troubles elsewhere - and smile!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do men get this "smile" business? Of course not! They have a right to any facial expression, frown, grimace, or otherwise.

We get it too. We just choose to treat it as a positive thing rather than an insult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do men get this "smile" business? Of course not! They have a right to any facial expression, frown, grimace, or otherwise.

We get it too. We just choose to treat it as a positive thing rather than an insult.

If my DH got it he would take it as an annoying uneccessary comment as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think your own post established that it's not a come-on. People don't often come on to cranky 40-somethings.

You're absolutely right. Jennifer Aniston, 42, is absolutely sexless and no one would ever hit on her.

1. Notice the "often" - which means that it does happen sometimes. Reading is fundamental.

2. I'm gonna go out on a limb and speculate that you are no Jennifer Aniston.

I'm 5 foot 6, 121 lbs. I have red hair and green eyes, and I get hit on A LOT. Oh....I'm 47.

Ok, OP, we get it. You're a stunning middle-aged scandinavian goddess who gets hit on A LOOOOOOOOT and it's such a nuisance for your wonderful pretty self to endure a "smile!" from low-level UPS delivery men. Now go take your petty troubles elsewhere - and smile!

I'm not the OP, not Scandinavian. Didn't start this thread, it's not my major beef in life. Just opening up.

[Anonymous]

OMG Nooooooooooow I get it.

You're all a bunch of bitter women who walk around with that mad face on. Ha! Nice to finally meet you! (not)

Are you also the kind that walks fast by stepping on others' toes to get out the metro fast? Are you the kind that speeds up when you see someone walking towards Barnes N Noble at the same time as you?

Ha! I knew I've seen you before!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think your own post established that it's not a come-on. People don't often come on to cranky 40-somethings.

You're absolutely right. Jennifer Aniston, 42, is absolutely sexless and no one would ever hit on her.

1. Notice the "often" - which means that it does happen sometimes. Reading is fundamental.

2. I'm gonna go out on a limb and speculate that you are no Jennifer Aniston.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and speculate that you are are under endowed .

[Anonymous]

i like it when people say this to me. i've never had it said in a demeaning or offensive manner. it's usually an attempt to actually get me to smile. which is fine and innocuous.

there are so many more obviously rude things that could be said...