Child in Perpetual Motion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started to suspect my son had sensory issues a few months ago at 18 months and we've recently started occupational therapy to help him with his issues. I see several other kids receiving therapy at the OT clinic - some of who "bounce" a lot. My biggest worry is kids being mean to my son for his differences. I had forgotten about the parents until I read your post. But then again - most kids learn how to treat others from watching their parents.

This is a very good post. My DS is also 'bouncy', but I was told that he just has a lot of energy, but we will definitely keep an eye on him. He is only 3 and I do want him to be successful in school. People like OP and NP really worry me because they are the ones with children who are mean and who have no empathy for others. They are basically raising narcissists. Sad, but true.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I don't know whether this child is ADHD, "bubbly", or whatever. I don't know if the OP is a mess or not.

But it strikes me that perhaps OPs real beef is that she believes this "bubbly" child is monopolizing the teacher's limited resources. Perhaps the child has special needs. Or perhaps the child is just spoiled rotten and hasn't been raised properly. I think that is a legitimate gripe as a parent (although perhaps nothing you can do anything about other than hope the teacher appropriately addresses it).

I used to teach (not school... an after school activity), and I had one tremendously whiney/needy/clingy girl. Between her and her parents, she was a real pain, and constantly monopolized the lessons. As my class was an elective activity (and not school) I finally told her parents that I wasn't sure she belonged in the class, and basically, if she couldn't pull it together I was going to excuse her (and them). She had major breakdowns almost every week, needed 15 minutes of cajoling to do any given exercise, and was generally just a major pain in the ass. It's possible she was special needs and I wasn't being sensitive enough... but having witnesses the supreme helicopter parenting by her parents, I suspect the problem lay therein. Ultimately, its the teacher's job to balance the individual needs of the students against the collective need of the class.

So, I guess on that front, I don't blame the OP if she's frustrated that this child is monopolizing the teacher's energy. That really is a shame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I don't know whether this child is ADHD, "bubbly", or whatever. I don't know if the OP is a mess or not.

But it strikes me that perhaps OPs real beef is that she believes this "bubbly" child is monopolizing the teacher's limited resources. Perhaps the child has special needs. Or perhaps the child is just spoiled rotten and hasn't been raised properly. I think that is a legitimate gripe as a parent (although perhaps nothing you can do anything about other than hope the teacher appropriately addresses it).

I used to teach (not school... an after school activity), and I had one tremendously whiney/needy/clingy girl. Between her and her parents, she was a real pain, and constantly monopolized the lessons. As my class was an elective activity (and not school) I finally told her parents that I wasn't sure she belonged in the class, and basically, if she couldn't pull it together I was going to excuse her (and them). She had major breakdowns almost every week, needed 15 minutes of cajoling to do any given exercise, and was generally just a major pain in the ass. It's possible she was special needs and I wasn't being sensitive enough... but having witnesses the supreme helicopter parenting by her parents, I suspect the problem lay therein. Ultimately, its the teacher's job to balance the individual needs of the students against the collective need of the class.

So, I guess on that front, I don't blame the OP if she's frustrated that this child is monopolizing the teacher's energy. That really is a shame.

Well then she should have stated that in her OP. Or in ANY of her posts. The whole thinly veiled concerned about bouncy child/wanting to get her the help she needs before it's too late/in the best interests of the child thing is sort of disingenuous, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks NP, A voice of reason. No one wins, especially the conveniently labeled "bubbly" kid, when the whole classroom is being disrupted. I notice the PP's are extremely concerned about what I am doing to address the situation, in addition to trying to attack me. Typical. Are you concerned about your lack of parenting, suddenly?

There is nothing "cute", "bubbly", call it what you will, or anything to aspire to when your kid is disruptive. Disruptive is just that. Disruptive. No queen bee or wannabe will change that. Funny that you abhor labels but manufacture only the most convenient ones.

My goal is to help the classroom be conducted in a useful manner. Tending to "Zoe" all day is not useful, *particularly to Zoe*. I have noticed that "Zoe's" parents and the like have repeatedly attempted mastering the monopolization of the teacher's time and/or affinity.

Is it possible that so many are so dense so as to not see this? I thought people were supposed to be smart here. Witty attacks are not smart; they may have been condoned by your parents (or in spite of their abuse), but they are not smart. I have yet to see wisdom, which explains a lot.

Have you ever considered maybe your DC is the one with the "problem" of being too easily distracted? Maybe you should address that Super Mom.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever considered maybe your DC is the one with the "problem" of being too easily distracted? Maybe you should address that Super Mom.

This is kind of like the verbally abusive spouse telling the object of his wrath that she's probably too sensitive, that it's her problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Have you ever considered maybe your DC is the one with the "problem" of being too easily distracted? Maybe you should address that Super Mom.

This is kind of like the verbally abusive spouse telling the object of his wrath that she's probably too sensitive, that it's her problem.

Hmmmmm... Having a difficult time seeing the correlation here. I think you may be stretching it a wee bit. Quite dramatic, I might add.

[Anonymous]

So by bringing up a child that might belong somewhere else, or under alternate conditions, or something we have not yet considered, OP is the problem? How would this make sense?

[Anonymous]

"Bouncy" (call it what you want) is NOT a good thing after say, toddlerhood.