Child in Perpetual Motion

[Anonymous]

I have a child in perpetual motion. She is healthy, intelligent and lovely, she just has a lot of energy. As much as it exhausts me, I love that bubbly, happy and excited quality in her and am so thankful she's not sedentary and dull.

Two questions for you ...

1. is she in grade school, where academic seat work and focus and concentration is expected?

2. if you answered "yes" to #1, how do the children assigned to sit next to your DD in math, reading and other quiet times feel about this constant motion? Are they distracted from their own learning, by chance? Are they as "thankful" as you are to be absorbing and deflecting all her "energy" in addition to completing their writing assignment?


And a final reminder for the posterity of this thread: school age children who are calm and sedentary during lesson time are emphatically NOT dull.

-- signed, a NP whose average-energy child detests sitting by Zoe and Henry, the two kids in his class who constantly bounce, wiggle, interrupt, shove, boing, jump up, move their chairs, twist and rock during math and reading workshop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I have a child in perpetual motion. She is healthy, intelligent and lovely, she just has a lot of energy. As much as it exhausts me, I love that bubbly, happy and excited quality in her and am so thankful she's not sedentary and dull.

Two questions for you ...

1. is she in grade school, where academic seat work and focus and concentration is expected?

2. if you answered "yes" to #1, how do the children assigned to sit next to your DD in math, reading and other quiet times feel about this constant motion? Are they distracted from their own learning, by chance? Are they as "thankful" as you are to be absorbing and deflecting all her "energy" in addition to completing their writing assignment?


And a final reminder for the posterity of this thread: school age children who are calm and sedentary during lesson time are emphatically NOT dull.

-- signed, a NP whose average-energy child detests sitting by Zoe and Henry, the two kids in his class who constantly bounce, wiggle, interrupt, shove, boing, jump up, move their chairs, twist and rock during math and reading workshop.

Not the PP but if your DD is unable to focus with stuff going on around her have you asked your child's teacher if she could be moved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:23:45 - OP here. My point exactly. Without going into detail, the parents have not addressed prior issues, in spite of admitting they are aware of them. Not every parent is aware of everything involving their own children. Apparently, I am on the "perfect moms board" or perhaps "the deflection board". I ask a question, and respondents spin it to make it about me (the poster), even though you yourself know the issue should and likely needs to be addressed for the ultimate well being of the child.

PP, what exactly kind of voodoo are you wishing on me for asking a question? Funny! So it is better that no one bring anything up and this child possibly never get the proper care they need? So I am damned if I do and damned if I don't according to you? I am waiting for more name calling, as that is probably the least appropriate response there could be for an innocent question. But by all means, expect me to not address it; or you should inflate it if I do. I suppose I forgot where I am.

I do happen to know that the kids in the family have (at least) sensory issues. Knowing the family, yes I am looking out for the child's welfare. Would it make you feel better if I simply called DSS directly? At least then the child would get proper attention and professional analysis; even if there is nothing wrong.

Clearly, I hit a nerve with some rather lazy parents. In the meantime go ahead, pretend you know me. Though it doesn't serve you very well. Least of all, an innocent child who clearly needs help.

I'm 23:45. I don't understand. My point was that it doesn't matter if a child moves a lot. So your point is the same? I have one child who moves a lot and one who doesn't. It doesn't matter, and there is no problem with it. I don't think you should be concerned about the child, the behavior sounds fine.

[Anonymous]

Not the PP but if your DD is unable to focus with stuff going on around her have you asked your child's teacher if she could be moved?

Instead, I asked the teacher if Zoe and Henry could be assigned to other tables, and the teachers said 'yes.' Because, of course, it's not just my child who can't do his creative writing assignment while simultaneously being bumped and jostled.

So the teacher moved them to more suitable desk areas for writing and reading. One is all alone now, and the other sits directly in front of the teacher at a group table. I'm satisfied with this result and the kids all still mingle during lunch, recess, science, PE, art and music.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Not the PP but if your DD is unable to focus with stuff going on around her have you asked your child's teacher if she could be moved?

Instead, I asked the teacher if Zoe and Henry could be assigned to other tables, and the teachers said 'yes.' Because, of course, it's not just my child who can't do his creative writing assignment while simultaneously being bumped and jostled.

So the teacher moved them to more suitable desk areas for writing and reading. One is all alone now, and the other sits directly in front of the teacher at a group table. I'm satisfied with this result and the kids all still mingle during lunch, recess, science, PE, art and music.

If it was quickly and satisfactorily resolved, why did you post saying it was currently happening? Just for dramatic effect?

[Anonymous]

Because it was a real problem for 4 months in reading/writing periods, and still is an issue in science and music -- but to a lesser extent because there is less writing and focus required in science and music (which don't have assigned seats)

[Anonymous]

10:24, I sincerely hope you changed the names of the children.

[Anonymous]

of course I did. And I should add that I like these children, they both have a lot of talent and they're personable. They're also, unfortunately, very distracting to their classmates to the point of interfering with the major purpose of school, academic learning.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you are so lucky you got a perfect child!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:of course I did. And I should add that I like these children, they both have a lot of talent and they're personable. They're also, unfortunately, very distracting to their classmates to the point of interfering with the major purpose of school, academic learning.

sigh. i have a Ph.D and was a model student my entire life and i could practically care less if my younger elementary child gets any academic learning in at the age of 6. i think our ideas and expectations about education are so completely out of whack these days.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks NP, A voice of reason. No one wins, especially the conveniently labeled "bubbly" kid, when the whole classroom is being disrupted. I notice the PP's are extremely concerned about what I am doing to address the situation, in addition to trying to attack me. Typical. Are you concerned about your lack of parenting, suddenly?

There is nothing "cute", "bubbly", call it what you will, or anything to aspire to when your kid is disruptive. Disruptive is just that. Disruptive. No queen bee or wannabe will change that. Funny that you abhor labels but manufacture only the most convenient ones.

My goal is to help the classroom be conducted in a useful manner. Tending to "Zoe" all day is not useful, *particularly to Zoe*. I have noticed that "Zoe's" parents and the like have repeatedly attempted mastering the monopolization of the teacher's time and/or affinity.

Is it possible that so many are so dense so as to not see this? I thought people were supposed to be smart here. Witty attacks are not smart; they may have been condoned by your parents (or in spite of their abuse), but they are not smart. I have yet to see wisdom, which explains a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks NP, A voice of reason. No one wins, especially the conveniently labeled "bubbly" kid, when the whole classroom is being disrupted. I notice the PP's are extremely concerned about what I am doing to address the situation, in addition to trying to attack me. Typical. Are you concerned about your lack of parenting, suddenly?

There is nothing "cute", "bubbly", call it what you will, or anything to aspire to when your kid is disruptive. Disruptive is just that. Disruptive. No queen bee or wannabe will change that. Funny that you abhor labels but manufacture only the most convenient ones.

My goal is to help the classroom be conducted in a useful manner. Tending to "Zoe" all day is not useful, *particularly to Zoe*. I have noticed that "Zoe's" parents and the like have repeatedly attempted mastering the monopolization of the teacher's time and/or affinity.

Is it possible that so many are so dense so as to not see this? I thought people were supposed to be smart here. Witty attacks are not smart; they may have been condoned by your parents (or in spite of their abuse), but they are not smart. I have yet to see wisdom, which explains a lot.

I want so much for this to be a normal, productive discourse, but you continue to post these bizarre non-sensical rants OP! It sounds like your school has and is handling the matter really well and has been very responsive to you. That's good, right?

[Anonymous]

My goal is to help the classroom be conducted in a useful manner. Tending to "Zoe" all day is not useful, *particularly to Zoe*. I have noticed that "Zoe's" parents and the like have repeatedly attempted mastering the monopolization of the teacher's time and/or affinity.

Is it possible that so many are so dense so as to not see this?

You sound unhinged in this post. How are you trying to reach your goal? Is your goal to have "Zoe" removed from your child's classroom? Why resort to ad hominem attacks any those who don't agree with you.

[Anonymous]

I started to suspect my son had sensory issues a few months ago at 18 months and we've recently started occupational therapy to help him with his issues. I see several other kids receiving therapy at the OT clinic - some of who "bounce" a lot. My biggest worry is kids being mean to my son for his differences. I had forgotten about the parents until I read your post. But then again - most kids learn how to treat others from watching their parents.

[Anonymous]

Get a grip OP. You're falling apart. I hope your personality doesn't transfer to your child or we will be having discussions about him/her in the future.