Husband Getting MBA-I'm not happy

[Anonymous]

Actually to the 18:25PP, most evening MBA programs have class two nights a week, unless you accelerate your coursework. When I did my non-executive evening MBA at Maryland, we chose between Monday/Wednesday and Tuesday/Thursday classes. Exec MBA's met on alternate weekends, I think. In most programs, a part-time MBA does the same coursework as a full-time MBA - same classes, same teachers, same syllabus, same required hours. But you stretch it out over the summers and usually an extra semester, while the full-timers take 4 classes at a time and are supposed to do internships during the summers.

There might be some value to his degree - in certain fields, an MBA or a certification like the CPA, CFA, etc. is something you need to advance beyond a certain level. Government/contractor pay grades take a masters degree into account; contractors can bill more for an employee with a grad degree. And a part-time program is definitely cheaper than an Executive MBA. GW's program is decent, not stellar, probably mid-tier. (disclaimer: I got my undergrad there.) I wouldn't say it's worthless, but it won't necessarily guarantee him anything, so it's a crapshoot.

All that aside, this is a conversation you guys should have had as he was considering applying, and he shouldn't have made this decision in a vacuum without your input. You're right in that you will bear the brunt of his extra commitment; I couldn't have done my program with a family to consider. Hell, I couldn't even properly manage dating during that time.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the two of you have a lot more to work on than just an education. I'd start with stronger communication skills for your relationship.

[Anonymous]

So OP, how did your talk go??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[No, he is not a jerk, he's a guy and they are not always that smart. They are simple things, god help them.

It sounds like you accidentally married a labrador retriever. So sorry for you. The rest of the women married men.

[Anonymous]

I suggest therapy. This is a huge transgression in terms of operating outside the spirit of partnership.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So OP, how did your talk go??

Went good. He is going to start in January and if it is too much on everyone, then he will simply drop it after May.

No dramatic steps such as thearapy to come to this conclusion were required. I tend to get very lit up pretty quick and then come down off the rails just as fast. We can live with a semester and take it from there. Sure it might be expensive, but at least both of us will give it a shot and if it doesn't work then we know that this is not the time.
Not sure why I get so fired up, we have never had a disagreement that has caused a wedge longer than 48 hours! Maybe THAT is what I need thearapy for...how is that I erupt for a few hours and then cool off in a blink of an eye? I'm just thankful he was out last night!

[Anonymous]

I bet you will enjoy spending the money that comes with the promotion at work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet you will enjoy spending the money that comes with the promotion at work

Critical reading, please, critical reading. The most annoying people on DCUM are people who can't read and comprehend. I'll take sanctimony over complete bone heads.

[Anonymous]

OP, glad you have decided to try it for a semester and reevaluate. My husband just finished his first semester of a MS program while working FT. He is in class 3 nights a week, and needs studying time on weekends. I work PT, and the past four months have been HARD. I am too exhausted to do as well as I should at my jobs (both kids and paid work) and he is too exhausted to do as well as he should at school. Unfortunately he does need this degree to meet federal requirements for the next grade so we can't just back out. We are both happy in theory to be doing all we can for our family's future but I am here to tell you that it is not easy at all. If I were working FT I think I would have had a nervous breakdown already.

[Anonymous]

OP,
I'm the PP who said this might be the ideal time because homework does a number on evenings as the children get older. I also suggested therapy, glad to hear you're cool with the one semester. Maybe you should work on your going Vesuvius on him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,
I'm the PP who said this might be the ideal time because homework does a number on evenings as the children get older. I also suggested therapy, glad to hear you're cool with the one semester. Maybe you should work on your going Vesuvius on him!

If you ask me she's pretty healthy. She gets it out and it is over. She's not brooding or holding a grudge. They reached a win/win solution and all is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,
I'm the PP who said this might be the ideal time because homework does a number on evenings as the children get older. I also suggested therapy, glad to hear you're cool with the one semester. Maybe you should work on your going Vesuvius on him!

OP here. I probably my first step should to be to learn how to spell therapy. That and ridiculos get me each time (I spelled it wrong, right?).

I hear ya on the older kids. I'm actually thinking of giving my career the breaks for a few years when the kids are older due to EXACTLY what you are saying. Right now the kids are hard from a daily care perspective, but I think the school/activity/emotion thing gets much much harder as you describe as they get older, but that is another thread.