Attractiveness > Money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't read this thoroughly or take you seriously but I read the "small member" part and FFS. This is not something that reasonable, healthy, normal women really consider or reject people for. Clinical abnormality? I mean, sure. But just a regular old small d? B****, please.

But look at what having BDE did for an average Joe like Pete Davidson.

Or what many people considered to be an “average” Joe.

I think he is cute.
I mean, c’mon…..did you see him on the recent Netflix roast??!

[Anonymous]

Pete Davidson is 6'3", well above the height of the Average Joe

[Anonymous]

Dude, you're an idiot and that's the root of your problems, not your height and appearance. Only an idiot wishes to live paycheck to paycheck

[Anonymous]

Relax, he's just inexperienced at life.

[Anonymous]

Such a troll. What man seriously uses the term passive aggressive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s absolutely your personality.

Agree. I dated a short, chubby guy who had a cute but chubby face. He had a funny, outgoing personality and was really smart and good at getting along with people. If 5 is average maybe he would have been a 4/10? Personality 9/10. He's a big VP now. Married a different college girlfriend with some height so I bet his kids are taller.

[Anonymous]

It’s you and your personality. My husband is short bald and fat. He’s never had issues attracting women.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused by how OP can have family members who are top tier in looks but he ended up in the low tiers. While genetically possible, it's too far off in range.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who are naturally good looking have way easier lives than someone who is wealthy but unattractive. I do think at a certain point, money and fame can make up for lack of good looks, but this is a level that is unattainable for most people (centimillionaire or higher).

If you’re a man born ugly, short, bald, small member, etc (something that is not easily fixable) even if you achieve decent upper middle class wealth, think 5-10M, your overall quality of life will be worse than a guy who is a broke or LMC “Chad”.

I fall into this category. I’m a man who is unattractive and never got attention from women until my late 20’s when career took off, but even then it was difficult. I live a comfortable life with above average wealth, but not enough to live a baller lifestyle like you see in the movies. I have family members who are poorer than me but better looking and act passive aggressive jealous about my finances vs theirs, but they don’t realize how much better their social & dating lives were compared to mine because they’re conventionally good looking. I would trade all my money to be born as a man with top 5% looks and live paycheck to paycheck.

Seek help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who are naturally good looking have way easier lives than someone who is wealthy but unattractive. I do think at a certain point, money and fame can make up for lack of good looks, but this is a level that is unattainable for most people (centimillionaire or higher).

If you’re a man born ugly, short, bald, small member, etc (something that is not easily fixable) even if you achieve decent upper middle class wealth, think 5-10M, your overall quality of life will be worse than a guy who is a broke or LMC “Chad”.

I fall into this category. I’m a man who is unattractive and never got attention from women until my late 20’s when career took off, but even then it was difficult. I live a comfortable life with above average wealth, but not enough to live a baller lifestyle like you see in the movies. I have family members who are poorer than me but better looking and act passive aggressive jealous about my finances vs theirs, but they don’t realize how much better their social & dating lives were compared to mine because they’re conventionally good looking. I would trade all my money to be born as a man with top 5% looks and live paycheck to paycheck.

you are still better off than an equally unattractive female

No, you’re both about the same - you’re both going to have to work for a living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who are naturally good looking have way easier lives than someone who is wealthy but unattractive. I do think at a certain point, money and fame can make up for lack of good looks, but this is a level that is unattainable for most people (centimillionaire or higher).

If you’re a man born ugly, short, bald, small member, etc (something that is not easily fixable) even if you achieve decent upper middle class wealth, think 5-10M, your overall quality of life will be worse than a guy who is a broke or LMC “Chad”.

I fall into this category. I’m a man who is unattractive and never got attention from women until my late 20’s when career took off, but even then it was difficult. I live a comfortable life with above average wealth, but not enough to live a baller lifestyle like you see in the movies. I have family members who are poorer than me but better looking and act passive aggressive jealous about my finances vs theirs, but they don’t realize how much better their social & dating lives were compared to mine because they’re conventionally good looking. I would trade all my money to be born as a man with top 5% looks and live paycheck to paycheck.

Hi OP. I’m over 6ft, reasonably attractive and have an objectively big hog. I spent most of my early life (up until nearly 30’s) being pretty invisible to women. I’ve been rejected, cheated on in committed relationships and definitely had some mean girl type shit aimed at me in the past. That’s life and a part of the dating game no matter who you are.

What all of this does is make you appreciate the right person when you find them. Spend the interim time becoming the best version of yourself, including your interpersonal skills and how you feel about yourself (because it shows and people can see it from 30 feet away).

Whats wild is that now, in my mid-50’s I notice women checking me out an interacting with me more. I think part of it has been taking care of myself (eating right overall, lifting and cycling). I’m happily married and not interested in them but its a nice barometer that I’m doing something right.

Give your balls a tug and get out there and take your lumps like the rest of us. Its an important part of the experience.