How's your Mother's Day going?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

Then dont click on this thread Debbie Downer.

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Lovely!! Somehow I slept in (I never do! And I didn’t even wake when dh got up or took our dog out of our room), got breakfast in bed. Kids all made sweet cards. Picnic at a winery with my 3 girls wearing matching dresses (they picked them out to put on). Dh played flag football at the winery with at least 15 little kids. He’s like the pied piper of kids. Dh is making dinner later for my mom and me. Thoughtful but inexpensive gifts. Everything is just perfect! (We are celebrating MIL next weekend).

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Went with the kids to the Frick to see beautiful art. A perfect morning it was.

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I am trying not to be tone deaf while also being accurate. Last year's Mother's Day was terrible because it completely centered and catered to the preferences of my MIL who has been out of her active parenting years for 35 years. This year is a particuarly good one, and that is because of the boundaries I created and stuck to after last year's fiasco. My child will leave for college in the fall, so I feel bittersweet knowing next year's Mother's Day will be very different.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

Then dont click on this thread Debbie Downer.

Agreed with the move on and don't click. It's ok for people to be happy. I truly think the having to step on eggshells regarding peoples feelings is a large part of the reason Trump got elected a second time. I hate Trump, I'm a moderate but as a country we needed a thicker skin and to err on the side of not being pansies. It asked how was YOUR Mother's Day going and we can celebrate those who are happy and commiserate with those who are sad without having to sanitize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

You are such a jerk! Do you know the trauma you probably inflict on those around you? My best friend’s mom has given her a massive guilt trip every single year about how evil Mother’s Day is. Friend’s grandma died. Of course that’s super sad but my friend would have liked to have celebrate her mom once. Now that my friend has kids, her mom wants to celebrate Mother’s Day and give her grandkids a guilt trip too. It ended a few times with the grandsons crying about a great grandma they didn’t even know dying 40 years ago.

Friend now just celebrates with MIL and won’t even pick up the phone if her mom calls. Too many years of bitterness destroying my friends motherhood

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Anonymous wrote:I am trying not to be tone deaf while also being accurate. Last year's Mother's Day was terrible because it completely centered and catered to the preferences of my MIL who has been out of her active parenting years for 35 years. This year is a particuarly good one, and that is because of the boundaries I created and stuck to after last year's fiasco. My child will leave for college in the fall, so I feel bittersweet knowing next year's Mother's Day will be very different.

Same poster. With that being said, Husband and kids cooked and served me breakfast in bed (including chocolate covered strawberries), gave me a dozen beautiful roses in a vase, and a new bathrobe. They are taking me out to eat later this evening at a fancy bistro. I feel so grateful!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

You are such a jerk! Do you know the trauma you probably inflict on those around you? My best friend’s mom has given her a massive guilt trip every single year about how evil Mother’s Day is. Friend’s grandma died. Of course that’s super sad but my friend would have liked to have celebrate her mom once. Now that my friend has kids, her mom wants to celebrate Mother’s Day and give her grandkids a guilt trip too. It ended a few times with the grandsons crying about a great grandma they didn’t even know dying 40 years ago.

Friend now just celebrates with MIL and won’t even pick up the phone if her mom calls. Too many years of bitterness destroying my friends motherhood

Wow lady projecting much? PP didn’t say MD was evil or not to share. Seemed like they were pointing out the initial wording in the OP which seemed a little over the top.

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Anonymous wrote:Tweens/teens (12 and 14 girls) and my DH made me a nice breakfast with bagels from a place I love, the girls picked out a couple of e newton bracelets for me and then they gave me a huge basket of candy (I have a massive sweet tooth since I gave up drinking a while ago). They also threw in a book (huge reader) and some new tennis skirts that I love in my new size.

Played in a tennis tournament (won!) and hanging out in the AC until the second match starts at 3. Then off to my sister's to swim, dinner and celebrate my mom.

My life has NOT looked like this basically, ever. But a move closer to family, quitting a stressful DC job and prioritizing my health this past year has finally made me FEEL like a good mom and I'm grateful for a day like today after so many sub-par Mothers Days of past.

Sounds lovely; enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:At peace - going through the hormonal release of yet another failed embryo transfer, and this time around was the first time I actually cried over it. Was worried I might get sad at Mothers Day brunch meeting BIL’s newborn, but seeing that sweet baby was like watching the ocean. Peaceful and joyful, like sunshine glittering on the waves

Oh, I feel this, PP. IVF is tough, I’ve been there. Best wishes to you and I’m
glad you went to the brunch and were okay.

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I’ve had better. Dh worked all day and forgot to plan anything/get a card. Kids did nothing. . . I had to take one kid to urgent care, the other on a million errands for things he needs and then he went I hang with friends . Drive all day, came home to messy house and no dinner planned. I went out again for groceries and got myself a cake. About to pour myself some wine and make dinner and then do some bills.. I also lost my mom a few months ago so that hurts too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

I think you’ve misinterpreted. OP is having a lovely day and wishing others well. She made a thread to share experiences and she didn’t limit it to positivity. It’s a DCUM tradition to have holiday reporting threads- the winter holidays are legendary. Everyone is welcome to share their experience.

It’s low key for me this year as I’m sidelined with an injury and can’t go anywhere. My ACs all sent flowers so there are flowers all over the house, and my youngest is being very sweet. He gave me a Fahlo stuffed animal, which is actually kind of fun. The nicest thing was that two of my ACs sent a joint card and wrote very loving and personal messages.

It’s so much quieter now with older generations dead and the ACs launched. That’s a little bittersweet.

Hugs to those who are having a hard time to day and cheers to those who are joyful.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had better. Dh worked all day and forgot to plan anything/get a card. Kids did nothing. . . I had to take one kid to urgent care, the other on a million errands for things he needs and then he went I hang with friends . Drive all day, came home to messy house and no dinner planned. I went out again for groceries and got myself a cake. About to pour myself some wine and make dinner and then do some bills.. I also lost my mom a few months ago so that hurts too.

I'm sorry. My DH is similar and doesn't see the big deal either and never had my kids do anything. I now keep one Mother's Day card and have the kids sign it with the date each year. They are now 18 and 20, and this one card means so much to me.

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Pretty great for me. Asked my 16 year old only child to hang out/go to the mall and we had a blast. Didn’t even really buy much at all. Started out just wandering through the American Girl doll store and had so much fun looking at all of their stuff! Ate lunch and struck out on almost all of our hoped for finds but had fun together. One more Mother’s Day like PP above said and then she’ll be in college so I’m grabbing these experiences as much as I can. I’m most grateful to have raised a kid I want to hang out with and who wants to hang out with me. That’s the real celebration.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had better. Dh worked all day and forgot to plan anything/get a card. Kids did nothing. . . I had to take one kid to urgent care, the other on a million errands for things he needs and then he went I hang with friends . Drive all day, came home to messy house and no dinner planned. I went out again for groceries and got myself a cake. About to pour myself some wine and make dinner and then do some bills.. I also lost my mom a few months ago so that hurts too.

I'm sorry. My DH is similar and doesn't see the big deal either and never had my kids do anything. I now keep one Mother's Day card and have the kids sign it with the date each year. They are now 18 and 20, and this one card means so much to me.

What a cool idea!!!! I hope new moms see this and do the same! I write my daughter a letter every year on her birthday, and I seal it so I don’t look at it either, and will give them to her when she turns 18. That’s next year. Gulp.