18 year old already like a suburban dad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
One main function of humans is to reproduce and delaying it until late 30's and 40's isn't natural, even with all the rational arguments we can make in favor of delaying it.

Our current system where cost of education, weddings, housing and childcare is inflated to the max, delays marriage and procreation and soothes youth with weed, liquor, prescription drugs, partying,hookups, dating apps etc.

All of it leads to ruin hormones and causing anxiety, depression and infertility because body was made to produce babies in 20's.

On top of that young woman's natural instincts and hormones get messed up with birth control hormones, anti anxiety and antidepressants while they are running after jobs, men, looks, designer goods, social media clicks etc.

If my son is ready to get married in his 20s and isn’t quite there with his down payment on a house, we will help him, for this reason. Even better, it will coincide with my retirement and being able to help with childcare.

If you can, you should, no matter son or daughter. As long as couple is 21+, finished college, dated for longer than a year during college and at least one of then is employed, it would be fine for most parents to bless their marriage. They can do higher education or career advancement in due time and with some support from families if possible with a small wedding and set up a home. This way, they can start a family after around 25 if things are going well.

[Anonymous]

Biologically 20-30 is ideal time to have first baby.

[Anonymous]

Sperm quality also declines after 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your disappointment for your son makes me sad.

This is a you problem.

What disappointment?

[Anonymous]

Medications for ADHD, OCD, autism, anxiety and depression can effect male fertility and quality of sperms and these drugs are given like candy nowadays. Vaping, cannabis,alcohol and tobacco also bad for male fertility. More so if taken long term.

[Anonymous]

My husband was like this as a teen apparently. He’s a great, responsible husband and father now at almost 50 and the kids and I are lucky to have him. Why is any of what you posted a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was like this as a teen apparently. He’s a great, responsible husband and father now at almost 50 and the kids and I are lucky to have him. Why is any of what you posted a problem?

It’s not a problem. I can hardly believe my luck is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was like this as a teen apparently. He’s a great, responsible husband and father now at almost 50 and the kids and I are lucky to have him. Why is any of what you posted a problem?

It’s not a problem. I can hardly believe my luck is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 year old son is stereotypically masculine and straight & narrow, meaning no drinking or drugs, heterosexual, into cars & working out & his girlfriend. He’s already got the New Balance shoes but thankfully nowhere near a dad bod. How likely is this to change or will he just slide into being a suburban husband/dad after college? I feel like he’s 90 % there. Anyone else here with a son like this? He never really had an “experimental” phase of any sort.

All normal. He’ll always find his people- male and female - since they’re out there in a large silent majority. Not making fools of themselves, not posting krap online 24/7, and working hard.

Nothing much comes of the Loud Mouths in high school. And vice versa.

Watch and see for yourself.

[Anonymous]

This thread is making me smile. My 22yo is also a suburban dad, though he likes a cold beer (especially when he's grilling for his friends). He has a stable, good-paying job, a hefty retirement fund, likes to golf, tells dad jokes, meal preps (takes his lunch to work), and can't wait to be a Scout leader. He told me he used to take long walks in college with a buddy in his fraternity and comment on/rate people's lawns.