freshman drinking

[Anonymous]

I didn’t consume any alcohol until college. Unfortunately, my young freshman has already been drunk. She attends a private high school but has a wide range of friends across both public and private schools in the DMV. We’ve talked about staying safe, but I’m very concerned—especially since she has Autism (which no one knows; she masks very well) and ADHD, which can lead to impulsivity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this and thinking back to my teen years. And nothing - absolutely nothing - my parents said to me about drinking and drugs got through or made any difference to me. I just kept it up.

How can you turn this into a life lesson that actually makes a difference? Taking away the phone, ok. Grounding, ok. But what happens after that? Has anything anyone done actually made a difference in their kid's behaviors or choices? How do you know?

And what my parents said did get through to me and siblings (none of us drank in HS). It won’t work for every kid, but studies show that parental attitude/what you tell your kid DOES make a difference, statistically speaking.

My parents paid me $500 not to drink "illegally" before age 21. I was sober throughout HS (definitely nerdy) and didn't have any alcohol until a semester in Ecuador, where drinking is legal at a younger age. This absolutely HAS NOT worked for my teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this and thinking back to my teen years. And nothing - absolutely nothing - my parents said to me about drinking and drugs got through or made any difference to me. I just kept it up.

How can you turn this into a life lesson that actually makes a difference? Taking away the phone, ok. Grounding, ok. But what happens after that? Has anything anyone done actually made a difference in their kid's behaviors or choices? How do you know?

And what my parents said did get through to me and siblings (none of us drank in HS). It won’t work for every kid, but studies show that parental attitude/what you tell your kid DOES make a difference, statistically speaking.

My parents paid me $500 not to drink "illegally" before age 21. I was sober throughout HS (definitely nerdy) and didn't have any alcohol until a semester in Ecuador, where drinking is legal at a younger age. This absolutely HAS NOT worked for my teenagers.

Of course not. Many teens would lie. How would you know if they drank when they weren’t with you?

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I started drinking when I was 13.

Graduated 4th in my class of 900 in the '80s. Great college experience, job right after graduation.


But I stayed away from the stones. They arecso unmotivated.

Drinking. -- and drinkers-- are fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. I started drinking when I was 13.

Graduated 4th in my class of 900 in the '80s. Great college experience, job right after graduation.


But I stayed away from the stones. They arecso unmotivated.

Drinking. -- and drinkers-- are fun.

And as we can see, excellent editors.

[Anonymous]

I think the most important thing is making sure your daughter doesn't drink while on ADHD meds because that is incredibly unsafe. You can't completely stop your child from drinking its very hard.

[Anonymous]

I think the most important thing is making sure your daughter doesn't drink while on ADHD meds because that is incredibly unsafe. You can't completely stop your child from drinking its very hard.