Teacher and 2nd grader conflict - how to handle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have counted the number of times I've gone to the bathroom today. Upon arrival.... mid morning. Before lunch, after lunch. Mid afternoon. About to go again. OK so I'm a frequent urinator But I cannot imagine only being able to go to the bathroom three times during the work day, which is what the 2nd graders are allowed.

Anyway I met with the teacher this am. It was strange at first. I think she was prepared for a terrible time of it. Seemed really intimidated. But I remained calm and friendly and asked her to tell me HER impressions of what's going on with my child. The teacher thinks my child is bright but does not want to try hard. That is why she is rushing and sloppy, that is why she asks to go to the bathroom a lot. But the teacher said a lot of nice things about my child too. We talked for about 40 minutes. She gave me info on a handwriting tutoring class.

I made it clear that my child has to be able to go to the bathroom more frequently - that the teacher doesn't have to interrupt her teaching but when the kids break off to do independent work study, my child needs to be able to go. The teacher says she is OK with that.

We are going to meet again Nov 1. If I have any more difficulties I will ask to move my daughter.

Meanwhile I am going to get my daughter evaluated for ADHD, dyslexia and take her to an occupational therapist to get her handwriting abilities checked out. I don't really think there's a medical issue here but I want to rule it out.
I have a doctor's note and am prepared to go the "reasonable accomodation" route - let the kid pee per doctor's orders - if I have to, and raise hell to get her moved, if I have to. But for the next week or two I am going to try to work with this teacher and see what comes of it.

Thanks for all your insights! I will try to update what happens in the end....

Getting your DD evaluated might make her more anxious about school. I would wait a few weeks and see if things improve after she can use the bathroom more at school. She might also be anxious because it's a new year, prob. new kids, new teacher, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting your DD evaluated might make her more anxious about school. I would wait a few weeks and see if things improve after she can use the bathroom more at school. She might also be anxious because it's a new year, prob. new kids, new teacher, etc.

Nonesense. Did you read OP's entire post? The bathroom issue is a result of the all the other problems and school has been in session long enough for her DD to settle in - if she were going to settle in. There is nothing to be gained by delaying an evaluation. There is absolutely no reason why an evaluation would make OP's DD more anxious about school unless OP gives an explanation loaded with perjorative statements. She has everything to gain and nothing to lose.

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP!