Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have been married for about 8 years. No cheating from my side and I don't think it is at her end either. Marriage has fall apart; I have spent a decent time building these start-ups and she is getting very demanding and controlling and still wants everything on top of that such as 3 different nannies, a cook and a lots of other help. We haven't had sex for more than 6+ months and she stays very bitter and ready to start the arguments. I am just fed-up and want out and would treat her fairly but she is very contentious and giving threats of taking me to trial unless I agree on every small issue or stay married. I don't want to be bullied like this and have thought about this step very carefully. We also had couples counseling and instead of doing repair of the existing damage, she is just focused on my faults.

Just agree to it and get it over with. The brevity and money you’ll save on not having to pay an attorney will make up for anything over half she ends up getting. She has to take care of the kids, let her have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again.

I am willing to give her 1/2 of everything but she is being unreasonable and have threatened trial several times. Not sure why she is doing that or would get out of it but she is taking this to trial then I should have a good lawyer to begin with and that's why asking for help.

Just give it to her. Ask her what we need a trial for when you agree to what she wants?

Separate question, if she starts having sex regularly again would you take her back?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Bulldog” lawyers are the worst. They make arguments where none need to be had just to increase their fees or inflict pain on others or show off how smart they think you are.

You want a lawyer that knows how to get a good deal and be a closer. If you’re gojng yo trial on a divorce, you’ve already lost.

Plus they are quick with kickback to their court system buddies:
$75k court ordered psych study
$50k custody study by social worker
$50k court ordered guardian ad litim for child social worker

And so on.

You seem high conflict OP, enjoy your 5 yr long litigious $500k divorce.

Only 5% of divorces need court time, but you seem to fit the bill.

How do you think OP is litigious? He is just asking for advice and if other side is ready to take everything to trial then you should be prepared as well. Are you a woman who is just blaming OP? His wife could be an issue here but who cares if either of them wants a divorce.

Everyone provided opinion here but no one mentioned name of a lawyer as OP asked for.

We aren’t taking orders. glad you noticed that.

[Anonymous]

OP ask your corporate lawyer for a recommendation. You must have them on retainer for your companies especially if you are preparing for a sale. If they are any good they won't do divorce work in their firm but should have good referrals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I was not an absentee father but always present in my kids life. picking up and dropping kids, staying up during nights but she didn't. I also am coach of my son's basketball team and always take care of their logistics. I am also the main contact of all the kids school and pre-school activities. This is on top of me being very busy and also covering all of the financial support of the family. The most unreasonable request she has is to not give me any time with kids after our divorce and asking to keep everything in divorce and for me to cover all the nannies request and other expenses when she don't want to work in the future. She has been a very overbearing and controlling mother and kids are stressed and I feel for them.

TBH, if you can document the participation you claim (and probably even if you can't,) you will get 50/50 custody, so "not giving you any time with the kids" isn't going to happen. She probably needs her own attorney to tell her that.

I don't know what "keep every thing in the divorce" means? She gets half of every thing you earned and the equity increases in business and real estate. What is she asking to "keep"? The house where you and the kids live with her? Someone should keep it so that the kids have some stability and are only adjusting to one new home instead of 2. But, again, her keeping the house doesn't mean that she also gets 100% custody of the kids.

What does "cover all the nannies requests and other expenses" mean? If you want her to be able to go back to work, then you both have to pay for childcare which is usually done in proportion to incomes. If she hasn't been working for 8 years, then it is reasonable that you would be paying a much greater share of childcare. When one partner is much wealthier, then it is also the norm for the wealthier parent to pay for private school and college entirely or at a minimum in proportion to income difference. If there are other expenses such as special needs care, tutors, expensive activities, etc., then at a minimum parents chip in based on proportional wealth.

You're a guy who has multiple start up pharma companies at least one of which is going to sale. What are you nickel and diming her over? Is she overbearing and controlling or are you punishing her for not sleeping with you?

Also, please be honest about your contribution -- it's great if you are really involved in the kids lives, but is it 50/50? Are you doing half of medical appointments? Buying clothes, cooking food, cleaning, etc.? Is it a permanent commitment - or does she get left holding the bag when something calls you to the company (like a sale or some important development stage).

If you care about the kids and are committed to divorce, your best bet is to offer 50/50 custody (with you taking 50% of the weeks and 50% of the weekends and 50% of the vacations - not some shitty mom gets weekdays and dad gets weekends deal) with a 50/50 split on all assets, realized and as yet unrealized but benefitting from her 8 years in the marriage. Plus, if you are going to be much wealthier, picking up tuitions and other major expenses. Your kids will eventually notice as they get older about the wealth differential and whether it seems fair to their mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Bulldog” lawyers are the worst. They make arguments where none need to be had just to increase their fees or inflict pain on others or show off how smart they think you are.

You want a lawyer that knows how to get a good deal and be a closer. If you’re going to trial on a divorce, you’ve already lost.

This!

If you do want lawyers who will string this out & suck up your $, you can't go wrong with Shulman Rogers. They are salivating reading your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP ask your corporate lawyer for a recommendation. You must have them on retainer for your companies especially if you are preparing for a sale. If they are any good they won't do divorce work in their firm but should have good referrals.

I wouldn’t start telling my companies internal or external attorneys about the divorce until you have a game plan. In my PE firm many divorces get ugly with the private company stuff and can be such a time suck we are technically triggering keyman clauses but don’t tell anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here again.

I am willing to give her 1/2 of everything but she is being unreasonable and have threatened trial several times. Not sure why she is doing that or would get out of it but she is taking this to trial then I should have a good lawyer to begin with and that's why asking for help.

Just give it to her. Ask her what we need a trial for when you agree to what she wants?

Separate question, if she starts having sex regularly again would you take her back?

I posted previously that he didn’t want a bulldog but I also don’t think he should do this. I had a male friend whose wife left him when the kids were young and he was trying not to create drama so didn’t get a lawyer and she took total advantage of him in the divorce. The alimony and child support were outrageous and then he ended up taking care of the kids 100% of the time and buying all their stuff because she was a lazy narcissist and kind of a drunk. So you need someone that will approach this professionally but not an “out for blood” type. Hopefully she also gets someone competent. It sounds like right now she is very notional about it and is reacting that way. With a little time she may be more rational. You’ll each end up with a decline in financial standards, but you’ll be free of each other.