I know kids who got into t20 but not flagship |
Not at all. People that can’t full pay are apt to underestimate how many families there are that can full pay without any sacrifice for 3-4 kids at $95,000 a year schools. We are one of them and so are 80% of our friends. |
| Sheer luck and finances. |
I know many boys in those majors at Michigan from our nonDMV private. They did not have a better private option. |
We do too |
| Ability to pay. |
You and your the 80% relatively small number of friends is not close to being representative of the thousands of kids applying to these schools. |
Everyone thinks there is a secret sauce. There always isn't. |
| Summer jobs count for more than you would think. Obviously, lots of kids have summer jobs without the highest academics and rigor, but for the kids who have the highest academics and rigor, the majority don't take waiter/waitressing/landscaping/retail jobs in the summer time. Often, with a kid like that, there's a financial need within the family, so there are going to be some confounding factors in terms of other things schools are looking for, but there are a lot of upsides to a kid taking on a regular-degular job, especially if they do it for more than one summer, or during the school year as well. |
| For us, definitely the money. A T10 might be life changing, but the education is probably equal at a T50. Some employers will like to see the grit it takes to navigate a large public flagship. |
lol No |
Omg. Not. My kids attend-attended a private HS. My oldest is full pay at an Ivy. They were mowing neighbors lawns since 6th grade. They both had part-time summer jobs in retail/food industry summers after sophomore-senior years in HS. We believe in a work ethic. My spouse and I did ALL kinds of work as teens/college kids— waitress, club bouncer, retail, Dominoes, etc. My kids are very well-off, but having your kids do paid work as teens is character building. Yes- they played sports, did community service and had time with friends. Both were very proud of the $ they made/saved which we rolled into setting up IRAs for them. Having a “real boss” and work responsibility teaches kids so much. |
Harvard was life-changing for me. And the reason why DS is going there next year. |
That's called good parenting. You did a good job. |
I'm the PP you're replying to, but … nothing you said contradicted what I wrote? Your kids were top-tier academic kids, with summer jobs, and your oldest is in at an Ivy. Is your "Omg. Not." about the "Often … there's a financial need"? Often doesn't mean "always" … so … I'm confused what you're disagreeing with. Good job encouraging your kids to get summer jobs! More parents should do that (and independent of any college strategy). My point in writing above was to encourage other parents to do just that. |