38 year old woman- what age range to date?

[Anonymous]

No younger than your own age. Start there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens

Unless you already have kids?

That’s not entirely true. I met several men when dating in my 40s who were looking for a life partner in the first place. Being a dad was secondary. Men are not as “paternal” as women. Compatibility matters the most for them in all areas. And the men shared they wouldn’t oppose medical technologies or adoption if their partner is too old to have kids naturally
What they did share was negative experience with women in late 30s who rushed them to marry and have kids

This. People WAY overestimate how much men want kids. Most are fine with no kids, step kids, adopted kids, IVF, surrogates, whatever.

They are fine with it when the woman is hot. OP rated herself as a 6, so she’s probably a 4 or 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

[Anonymous]

35-year-old no longer thinks men should be allowed to date younger women: https://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/relationships/35-year-old-no-longer-thinks-men-should-be-allowed-to-date-younger-women-20260114263406

You just can't make this stuff up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No younger than your own age. Start there.

That’s stupid. A 38 year old woman can date a man in his 30s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

They also tend to have a lot more kids to pay CS and ex-spouses to pay alimony .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

That is ridiculous. She is late 30s! I think 48 is too old for her. I am 48! I don't date my age or older. (I could care less about how much a man has. I support myself. His $ is irrelevant.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

They also tend to have a lot more kids to pay CS and ex-spouses to pay alimony .

I know a few divorced women. No one gets CS or alimony. We have our own money. Many people are dual career households...in those cases (like mine) CS or alimony is rare. This area is not like other parts of the country. Still, fifties is too old for OP. Also, some 50s men would NOT date 30s women (like my exH). He does not want more kids and will not fund anyone. Younger women only would want $. A lot of men think like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

They also tend to have a lot more kids to pay CS and ex-spouses to pay alimony .

I know a few divorced women. No one gets CS or alimony. We have our own money. Many people are dual career households...in those cases (like mine) CS or alimony is rare. This area is not like other parts of the country. Still, fifties is too old for OP. Also, some 50s men would NOT date 30s women (like my exH). He does not want more kids and will not fund anyone. Younger women only would want $. A lot of men think like this.

Most divorced women in dmv do get some CS as men tend to make slightly above the women. My ex was paying $700 or so.
But I agree the men are not delusional about what younger women want. They still date them for sex short term as funding dates and some travel is not the same as blending families or having a dependent younger partner move in with you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

That is ridiculous. She is late 30s! I think 48 is too old for her. I am 48! I don't date my age or older. (I could care less about how much a man has. I support myself. His $ is irrelevant.)

I’m 48 - after I separated from DH, my first casual boyfriend was 36 and very athletic and handsome.

A few months down the road, I decided that I’m ready for a committed long-term relationship and matched with a few men in their 40s and 50s. I started dating a 55 y.o. wealthy man, but his body was so bad in comparison with my 36 y.o. casual boyfriend that I just couldn’t imagine being stuck with him as my only romantic partner for years, and I broke up with him, despite all the fancy dates that he’d financed.

After I broke up with him, I went out with a 45 y.o. athletic man, and we hit it off and are in a committed relationship now. He said that he didn’t want to date women in their 30s because they are immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

That is ridiculous. She is late 30s! I think 48 is too old for her. I am 48! I don't date my age or older. (I could care less about how much a man has. I support myself. His $ is irrelevant.)

I’m 48 - after I separated from DH, my first casual boyfriend was 36 and very athletic and handsome.

A few months down the road, I decided that I’m ready for a committed long-term relationship and matched with a few men in their 40s and 50s. I started dating a 55 y.o. wealthy man, but his body was so bad in comparison with my 36 y.o. casual boyfriend that I just couldn’t imagine being stuck with him as my only romantic partner for years, and I broke up with him, despite all the fancy dates that he’d financed.

After I broke up with him, I went out with a 45 y.o. athletic man, and we hit it off and are in a committed relationship now. He said that he didn’t want to date women in their 30s because they are immature.

I had a similar experience when I tried to date a 59 yo man when I was 44. He took me on a few fancy dates and then a day with night at a nice hotel . I had a biological shock when I saw him undressed. Sex didn’t happen (we just took a nap), and we broke up shortly after

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.

48 isn’t too old for you at all. In fact, you might consider resetting your filter up to age 55. Tons of fit guys in their 50s in the dc area, and they tend to have a lot more $$ too.

That is ridiculous. She is late 30s! I think 48 is too old for her. I am 48! I don't date my age or older. (I could care less about how much a man has. I support myself. His $ is irrelevant.)

I’m 48 - after I separated from DH, my first casual boyfriend was 36 and very athletic and handsome.

A few months down the road, I decided that I’m ready for a committed long-term relationship and matched with a few men in their 40s and 50s. I started dating a 55 y.o. wealthy man, but his body was so bad in comparison with my 36 y.o. casual boyfriend that I just couldn’t imagine being stuck with him as my only romantic partner for years, and I broke up with him, despite all the fancy dates that he’d financed.

After I broke up with him, I went out with a 45 y.o. athletic man, and we hit it off and are in a committed relationship now. He said that he didn’t want to date women in their 30s because they are immature.

I had a similar experience when I tried to date a 59 yo man when I was 44. He took me on a few fancy dates and then a day with night at a nice hotel . I had a biological shock when I saw him undressed. Sex didn’t happen (we just took a nap), and we broke up shortly after

And yes, just before him I dated a man my age (44) with sleek hard body. I’m slim myself so our bodies were the same in terms of fitness and sex was great. The 44 yo man had very young kids and complicated family so unfortunately it didn’t work out. It was such a drastic difference with a 59 yo man ! I don’t know where are all these hot silver foxes that PP refers to: they are certainly not on OLD. I tried to date10+ older men and even those in best shape had performance issues or I just wasn’t attracted to their body as a whole .

To date, that 44 yo remains my best dating experience (and he was also the first man I dated after divorce).

[Anonymous]

I just turned 37, and I can't imagine having sex with 40+ women. It is like driving a car with 250K mileage on it. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just turned 37, and I can't imagine having sex with 40+ women. It is like driving a car with 250K mileage on it. No thanks.

Imagine how 37 yo women feel sleeping with 40+ men. If you think male parts wear off any differently you are wrong. But good for women, they usually don’t try to date much younger men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No younger than your own age. Start there.

That’s stupid. A 38 year old woman can date a man in his 30s.

No attractive guy in their 30s would date an unattractive 38 year old woman. She is too old.