how much would you spend...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$100. It has nothing to do with household income. I gave $100 when I was fresh out of college in the early 1990's and making less than $30K and I give at least that much now that our household income is well over 10 times as much.

Then you weren't invited to nearly as many weddings as me, and you weren't in as many, and didn't travel. It's not about how generous you are, it's literally about watching your account at every month and making sure you aren't spending as much as you are taking out. It's basic math.

Either way, it's more disturbing to me that people think there is a minimum. It's a wedding people, and I feel like this thread is really missing the point.

[Anonymous]

When you do not attend, you have no obligation to give a gift. Anything you send is a bonus.

[Anonymous]

I think if you can't afford to outfit your home then you can't afford to get married...maybe spend the money would have spent on an expensive wedding on buying towels and knives and stuff. Having said that, I think you should spend what you can afford, and if you can't afford a gift maybe give them a certificate for a lawn mowing or home cooked dinner or babysitting (if they have kids already) or something like that. I would feel really bad if someone gave me a gift because they felt obligated and like I would think poorly of them if they didnt.