Perspective

[Anonymous]

I just can’t get past this melodramatic lunacy:

“They need to work through the grief, anger and pain not hide it to come out the other end.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:does a job like that even break 6 figures? meanwhile kids at HYPSM breaking into IB bulge brackets making 180k, quant firms making 500k, or SWE making 250k.

So you agree that every student rejected from every one of those schools should experience “grief, anger, and pain” that should take a lifetime to work through.

Why is this a beneficial system again? How many kids are we torturing with this kind of rejection? What becomes of all that anger? I can’t help thinking of that recent Brown/MIT incident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just can’t get past this melodramatic lunacy:

“They need to work through the grief, anger and pain not hide it to come out the other end.”

You will find lot of these stories in Reddit. Some people even resented their parents because of it, some spent the rest of their lives being mocked and compared by their cousins.

[Anonymous]

Constantly compared by cousins, neighbors, or anyone who got into a few Ivy League schools or FAANG jobs—it’s like a cult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and even at shit tier firms like Accidenture and Deloitte, they don't recruit for strategy consulting positions at UMD and similar publics. Only federal practice systems integration roles not true management consulting.

Consulting for geriatric mouths.

Also commonly known as Assventure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just can’t get past this melodramatic lunacy:

“They need to work through the grief, anger and pain not hide it to come out the other end.”

You will find lot of these stories in Reddit. Some people even resented their parents because of it, some spent the rest of their lives being mocked and compared by their cousins.

This makes me laugh. How utterly pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Constantly compared by cousins, neighbors, or anyone who got into a few Ivy League schools or FAANG jobs—it’s like a cult.

Just like consulting, not all FAANG jobs are the same. Many who say FAANG mean Amazon, which is in many cases worse than assventure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:does a job like that even break 6 figures? meanwhile kids at HYPSM breaking into IB bulge brackets making 180k, quant firms making 500k, or SWE making 250k.

So you agree that every student rejected from every one of those schools should experience “grief, anger, and pain” that should take a lifetime to work through.

Why is this a beneficial system again? How many kids are we torturing with this kind of rejection? What becomes of all that anger? I can’t help thinking of that recent Brown/MIT incident.

More like don't go around pretending your Toyota is the same as a Porsche GT3RS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just can’t get past this melodramatic lunacy:

“They need to work through the grief, anger and pain not hide it to come out the other end.”

You will find lot of these stories in Reddit. Some people even resented their parents because of it, some spent the rest of their lives being mocked and compared by their cousins.

This makes me laugh. How utterly pathetic.

It’s not pathetic—it’s practical!

There’s a whole world of business opportunities behind it. If their kids get into Ivy League schools, parents can start college admissions consulting business, matchmaking clubs (from the right lineage, the right schools, the right jobs, the right income level), or exclusive job referral networks…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:does a job like that even break 6 figures? meanwhile kids at HYPSM breaking into IB bulge brackets making 180k, quant firms making 500k, or SWE making 250k.

So you agree that every student rejected from every one of those schools should experience “grief, anger, and pain” that should take a lifetime to work through.

Why is this a beneficial system again? How many kids are we torturing with this kind of rejection? What becomes of all that anger? I can’t help thinking of that recent Brown/MIT incident.

More like don't go around pretending your Toyota is the same as a Porsche GT3RS.

A Toyota is a pretty nice car. Many, many people who graduated from Harvard drive Toyotas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:does a job like that even break 6 figures? meanwhile kids at HYPSM breaking into IB bulge brackets making 180k, quant firms making 500k, or SWE making 250k.

So you agree that every student rejected from every one of those schools should experience “grief, anger, and pain” that should take a lifetime to work through.

Why is this a beneficial system again? How many kids are we torturing with this kind of rejection? What becomes of all that anger? I can’t help thinking of that recent Brown/MIT incident.

More like don't go around pretending your Toyota is the same as a Porsche GT3RS.

A Toyota is a pretty nice car. Many, many people who graduated from Harvard drive Toyotas.

It's a perfect fine car. Those who went to Harvard and drive one certainly know what it is and isn't. Let's hope the OP is of a similar vein.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Success is defined differently by different people. I don’t believe my DC would be happy at Goldman Sachs.

This!! Not that you cannot be proud of kids at GS but many parents on this board act like lucrative jobs at highly selective companies (usually banking or tech) are the only measures of success.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If by ‘consulting’ you mean Deloitte, EY, Oliver White, PWC or any other mid tier firm, I am not that impressed. They also recruit at UGA Pitt and a ton of other states schools. And they hire thousands and thousands every year. They are simply filling a recruiting class. If you mean McKinsey, Bain, or BCG then kudos because regardless of myriad opinions about consulting industry - those are the elites and they are selective

My DD never aimed for McKinsey or Bain. Not everyone wants to go there or to Harvard, but you can still have a great job and a great life without all that. We didn’t want a stressful college or a stressful job for our kids. There are some people who won’t be happy unless they end up at Harvard and McKinsey but all I am trying to say is that there are great options for those who are not interested in the rat race.

Well they don’t recruit at UMD, so it was never an option for your DD short of other contacts. I’m not sure what your point is then. Do smart kids everywhere land solid jobs?? Yes, obviously they do. But your comment here is what sets a divergent path even if you don’t understand it. There are those who at 30 will jump from top tier consulting as an exit strategy and take a company public, making tens of millions, those who will have left Deloitte to be VP at a some bank making 170k. Yes, your kid will be fine. But no, your kid’s path isn’t entirely like all the Duke grads.

Feel sorry for your kids they ended up with a parent like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:UMD is highly respected.

Say if your DC ended up at JMU, would they fare the same?

I have experience teaching in higher ed as well as attending myself and having kids who do. Those who are at lower ranked schools can do well, but opportunities are fewer and depend more on being at the top of the class. No one knows going in where they will be in a class. Employers flock to the higher ranked schools and nearly all in the class get good jobs. Not the case at lower ranked schools.

The only kids getting jobs at GS or McKinsey from the Ivies are top of the class too. My kid is at an Ivy and they all know that they need a 4.0 or close to it in a hard major (math, etc) by fall of sophomore year to have a chance at interning at GS, etc. It's become very, very competitive.

Become hard? As opposed to the cake walk 20-30 years ago ?

[Anonymous]

Some posters are extremely unhinged and toxic. I wonder about your children’s mental health.