Outside of the friends I actually keep in touch with that’d be extremely awkward. “Hi. We haven’t talked in 5 years but where is Larla heading to college? She was always building stuff as a kid; is she studying engineering or architecture?” |
Our catholic hs doesn’t announce until spring. Thoughtful |
+1. They're obviously not friends anymore, so why this poster's need to know?? Obsessed poster: if those parents or their kids cared, you will hear where they kids are attending or got accepted. Maybe you'll run into Larla's mom (you know that Larla from preschool 14 years ago) while out shopping and can chat then if they even recognize you and remember you. If you send out holiday updates, include your tasteless announcement on the card: "Larlo is in. At Hahvad!" But you lost touch with those people. For a reason. Let it go, let it go, don't hold on anymore, let it go. |
but why do you need to know where some kid you haven't cared enough to check in with for 5 YEARS is doing to college? |
You said it so yourself. "We haven't talked in years....awkward." exactly that. So quit it. |
This is just so weird because you're nosing around about what a kid is studying in college not because you care about the kid (clearly you don't or you would have contacted them over the past 5 yrs) but because you need some data point for your own research. You view the kid as a check mark. A commodity. It's just so distasteful and even more-so because you clearly don't get how weird your behavior is because your replies are tone deaf. |
People get busy. I don’t keep in touch with the parents of every single kid my kids have ever known. Jeez. So many negative people try to zap the joy out of every little moment. If you don’t care, then don’t open the thread. |
You have way more time on your hands if you can manage to stay in touch with all of the parents of every kid your kids have ever known. I don’t have that much time so this is an easy way to get a brief update about them. Closing the chapter of childhood. |
No. It’s an easy way to have a little joy for former friends. If that’s not something you want to do, then don’t. |
| These are public pages that get circulated every year and parents and students alike look at them whether they will admit it or not. This is social media in 2025. If you don’t care and don’t want to look, then don’t! I think there’s a natural curiosity about college acceptances that has always existed and these pages just make it more open to public consumption. The only way to avoid this phenomenon is to make the pages private or stop doing them all together. |
| If you can, y’all need to start focus on finding hobbies/pursuits for the upcoming empty nester years. This college admissions stuff may be looming large now, but it’s temporary and fleeting. This needing to know and sharing where kids you don’t know have landed is weird and unhealthy. Congrats to the kids and may they celebrate their success with people who know them, instead of being discussed by strangers on this forum. |
Thanks, Karen. |
There's a reason you haven't kept in touch with the parents of every single kid your kids have ever known. You don't know them anymore. And if your kids are not friends or friendly with them nor you keep in touch with their parents, why do you need to know this information? |
Join in the joy here: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1299847.page |
Get the number of that "former friend" and let your kid talk or text that "former friend." Stay out of it busybody. |