Why or how are some people magnetic?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good story teller, not reserved, confident but not smug. Nice smile. Attractiveness and $$$ helps

In addition a sense of humor.

+1

I get a lot of credit for being funny. Also smart. Those seem to be two big reasons why people like me. I'm fun to be around and I make people feel good, that's what it boils down to.

Yes, I’m a little bit of a basket case but people tend to like me because I’m funny and don’t take myself very seriously. Also I smile and act excited to see people and always greet people first. I’m not rich, sophisticated, exceptionally attractive or any of those things.

[Anonymous]

oh and I’m not confident, if anything I’m pretty self deprecating

[Anonymous]

And in my case I’m not magnetic in the same way you described but I do have a lot of friends and get invited often to things. I think I win people over in time but not that initial quality you talked about, maybe it’s lack of confidence or those other qualities I don’t have so can get overlooked at first glance but perhaps you can play the long game and not worry so much if you don’t have that it factor.

[Anonymous]

Eat lots of iron

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[Anonymous]

It's all about how they make other people feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's all about how they make other people feel.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty and nice and can have a conversation with anyone

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's all about how they make other people feel.

DS is like this. Super charismatic and magnetic. Nobody else in the family is like this at all. But people just gravitate to him.

[Anonymous]

There's likeability, which I think can be taught, and then there's something chemical that I don't think can be. Bill Clinton had the chemical kind. It's not about being a good listener, or that's not enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh and I’m not confident, if anything I’m pretty self deprecating

Being self deprecating is key. It makes you more likeable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:oh and I’m not confident, if anything I’m pretty self deprecating

Being self deprecating is key. It makes you more likeable.

Yep.