I feel weak-is it normal?

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of APs on here will advocate for cheating and calling weak. Yet they are settling for a cheater and trying their damndest yo get him to leave you. He won’t.

My grandfather in Russia was a great father, husband and very accomplished - the director of school, the war hero, local party leader. My grandmother was a beauty and also a professionally accomplished doctor. She was able to land him as second husband after her first divorce and WWII when highly functional men were in high shortage. They de-facto lived in an open marriage, each taking separate vacation "to relax" in the summer to Crimea. She could support kids on her own, but wouldn't even think divorcing him for philandering. Once even a woman popped up at their house claiming she had a son from my grandfather. My grandmother kicked her out.
They were married for 40 years, until he died. She never remarried. My mother still keeps his loving, tender letters to her while my mom was in college. He was the absolute best father and husband.

2 people who had zero respect for their vows or to children they had created. What a cause for celebration!

Did my grandfather's AP have respect to herself or him? Of course not! She was just in for his resources. My grandmother just told her out blank: "do you expect me to gift you my husband just because he put his P into you? "

Do you hear yourself? Your grandfather had a kid grow up without a dad. But he’s the “best father and husband”? Hah.

DP. Humans are complicated like that.

Some criminal lawyers defend murderers who have deprived other children of their parents. But their own children and spouses think they are the best dads and providers. Some hedge fund managers, financial analysts, casino managers make money by taking advantage of the greed of less sophisticated people by betting against companies, letting gamblers risk too much etc. But many have families who think they are the best parent ever.

Life is not black and white. The AP shouldn't have been sleeping with a married man. Unfortunately, her son paid the price. His other children got the father their mother signed up for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of APs on here will advocate for cheating and calling weak. Yet they are settling for a cheater and trying their damndest yo get him to leave you. He won’t.

My grandfather in Russia was a great father, husband and very accomplished - the director of school, the war hero, local party leader. My grandmother was a beauty and also a professionally accomplished doctor. She was able to land him as second husband after her first divorce and WWII when highly functional men were in high shortage. They de-facto lived in an open marriage, each taking separate vacation "to relax" in the summer to Crimea. She could support kids on her own, but wouldn't even think divorcing him for philandering. Once even a woman popped up at their house claiming she had a son from my grandfather. My grandmother kicked her out.
They were married for 40 years, until he died. She never remarried. My mother still keeps his loving, tender letters to her while my mom was in college. He was the absolute best father and husband.

2 people who had zero respect for their vows or to children they had created. What a cause for celebration!

Did my grandfather's AP have respect to herself or him? Of course not! She was just in for his resources. My grandmother just told her out blank: "do you expect me to gift you my husband just because he put his P into you? "

Do you hear yourself? Your grandfather had a kid grow up without a dad. But he’s the “best father and husband”? Hah.

DP. Humans are complicated like that.

Some criminal lawyers defend murderers who have deprived other children of their parents. But their own children and spouses think they are the best dads and providers. Some hedge fund managers, financial analysts, casino managers make money by taking advantage of the greed of less sophisticated people by betting against companies, letting gamblers risk too much etc. But many have families who think they are the best parent ever.

Life is not black and white. The AP shouldn't have been sleeping with a married man. Unfortunately, her son paid the price. His other children got the father their mother signed up for.

Meh. Your grandfather was a POS. Your grandma too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of APs on here will advocate for cheating and calling weak. Yet they are settling for a cheater and trying their damndest yo get him to leave you. He won’t.

My grandfather in Russia was a great father, husband and very accomplished - the director of school, the war hero, local party leader. My grandmother was a beauty and also a professionally accomplished doctor. She was able to land him as second husband after her first divorce and WWII when highly functional men were in high shortage. They de-facto lived in an open marriage, each taking separate vacation "to relax" in the summer to Crimea. She could support kids on her own, but wouldn't even think divorcing him for philandering. Once even a woman popped up at their house claiming she had a son from my grandfather. My grandmother kicked her out.
They were married for 40 years, until he died. She never remarried. My mother still keeps his loving, tender letters to her while my mom was in college. He was the absolute best father and husband.

2 people who had zero respect for their vows or to children they had created. What a cause for celebration!

Did my grandfather's AP have respect to herself or him? Of course not! She was just in for his resources. My grandmother just told her out blank: "do you expect me to gift you my husband just because he put his P into you? "

Do you hear yourself? Your grandfather had a kid grow up without a dad. But he’s the “best father and husband”? Hah.

DP. Humans are complicated like that.

Some criminal lawyers defend murderers who have deprived other children of their parents. But their own children and spouses think they are the best dads and providers. Some hedge fund managers, financial analysts, casino managers make money by taking advantage of the greed of less sophisticated people by betting against companies, letting gamblers risk too much etc. But many have families who think they are the best parent ever.

Life is not black and white. The AP shouldn't have been sleeping with a married man. Unfortunately, her son paid the price. His other children got the father their mother signed up for.

Meh. Your grandfather was a POS. Your grandma too.

I am the PP you responded to, and I am not the one with that grandfather. But mine was a POS for different reasons.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's normal. "Freeze" is one of our survival instincts. It's overwhelming to contemplate an overhaul of your entire life and sometimes you don't kick into action right away.

That said, the predator isn't a saber tooth tiger that you can evade by freezing. It's coming for you no matter what, so do what you need to do to protect yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of APs on here will advocate for cheating and calling weak. Yet they are settling for a cheater and trying their damndest yo get him to leave you. He won’t.

My grandfather in Russia was a great father, husband and very accomplished - the director of school, the war hero, local party leader. My grandmother was a beauty and also a professionally accomplished doctor. She was able to land him as second husband after her first divorce and WWII when highly functional men were in high shortage. They de-facto lived in an open marriage, each taking separate vacation "to relax" in the summer to Crimea. She could support kids on her own, but wouldn't even think divorcing him for philandering. Once even a woman popped up at their house claiming she had a son from my grandfather. My grandmother kicked her out.
They were married for 40 years, until he died. She never remarried. My mother still keeps his loving, tender letters to her while my mom was in college. He was the absolute best father and husband.

2 people who had zero respect for their vows or to children they had created. What a cause for celebration!

Did my grandfather's AP have respect to herself or him? Of course not! She was just in for his resources. My grandmother just told her out blank: "do you expect me to gift you my husband just because he put his P into you? "

Do you hear yourself? Your grandfather had a kid grow up without a dad. But he’s the “best father and husband”? Hah.

DP. Humans are complicated like that.

Some criminal lawyers defend murderers who have deprived other children of their parents. But their own children and spouses think they are the best dads and providers. Some hedge fund managers, financial analysts, casino managers make money by taking advantage of the greed of less sophisticated people by betting against companies, letting gamblers risk too much etc. But many have families who think they are the best parent ever.

Life is not black and white. The AP shouldn't have been sleeping with a married man. Unfortunately, her son paid the price. His other children got the father their mother signed up for.

Fund managers?!? Ok Bernie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of APs on here will advocate for cheating and calling weak. Yet they are settling for a cheater and trying their damndest yo get him to leave you. He won’t.

My grandfather in Russia was a great father, husband and very accomplished - the director of school, the war hero, local party leader. My grandmother was a beauty and also a professionally accomplished doctor. She was able to land him as second husband after her first divorce and WWII when highly functional men were in high shortage. They de-facto lived in an open marriage, each taking separate vacation "to relax" in the summer to Crimea. She could support kids on her own, but wouldn't even think divorcing him for philandering. Once even a woman popped up at their house claiming she had a son from my grandfather. My grandmother kicked her out.
They were married for 40 years, until he died. She never remarried. My mother still keeps his loving, tender letters to her while my mom was in college. He was the absolute best father and husband.

2 people who had zero respect for their vows or to children they had created. What a cause for celebration!

Not at all: my mother and her sister grew up into highly functional, successful, healthy adults. If 2 spouses live by the rules they created in marriage it's nobody's business.

What about your uncle?