Question for divorced people in late 50s and early 60s: how old are the people you date?
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Anonymous
Same. I dated an older guy at ~ 30 because he was very rich (like ski house is Colorado, flew private rich), just to see what it was about. Once he brought up his college age kids on a date, I was out. He just seemed ancient to me at that point, like his real life was behind him and he was seeking companionship for the tail end of it. |
Anonymous
| 56 F and I'm dating a 55 M. We are very compatible emotionally, intellectually and also in the bedroom. He is fit and healthy and able to keep up with me. We have very similar outlooks on life as well as interests. So far, it has been great. We have been dating for almost two years and plan on getting married soon. In the past, I have mainly dated men older than me (5-10 years older) and I found that many of them really lacked in energy and interests (besides restaurants, Sports on TV and just being a home buddy with limited interests). I look and feel much younger and I was done being a caregiver to someone who didn't want to care for themselves. All the money in the world would not make me go back to one of these guys. I encourage all of my girlfriends to look for men a bit younger. Even if it doesn't lead to a permanent relationship or marriage, they are often a lot more fun even if it's just for a short period of time and it can be a big boost in self-esteem and most important fun in the bedroom. |
Anonymous
And yet they are pending their free time on the internet arguing with randos on a mommy forum.... |
Anonymous
DCUM is addictive because you can anonymously hash things out with other intellectual moms. Sure, there are trolls (like some of the incel men on the relationship forum), but for the most part, it’s a good community of moms. |
Anonymous
Good advice. I'm a man and give the equivalent advice to men my age! (L Not really, but it makes sense. Just don't overlook the exceptions. There are some older people with a lot of energy. I've mostly dated women 10-20 years younger but also some women 4-5 years older. Some of the most energetic women I've dated were my age and older. |
Anonymous
| M. Separated/divorced at 57. Dated women between the ages of 51-57. Long-term relationship started at 59. Remarried at 61 and she was 59; second marriage for both of us. We both lived a very active life, which was a key attraction for both of us. Recently passed five years together. |
Anonymous
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Late 50s divorced woman with one DC who is away at college. I have dated 50-62 M.
Will never again date a man with kids who are not COMPLETELY launched, as in they hold solid jobs that enable them to live independently. |
Anonymous
| 60F dating 59M. |
Anonymous
Not me but friends. They date 18-80s. Depends on if they want fun, marriage, more kids, or someone their age for fun or companionship, or someone older because it's hot or want to remarry if they are a woman. |
Anonymous
| 51 F, newly dating/freshly divorced. I wanted to date men who had college age/launched kids, or no kids. I tried a few no kids, and we just didn’t connect. (I think having to put your kids first, helps with really understanding devotion). I am just not that attracted to the 40s guys. They just look like my brothers friends. So, I end up with 60 year old who want to talk retirement. I don’t want to remarry. |
Anonymous
You sound gross. |
Anonymous
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61M dating 62F for 8 years. LAT and it works for us. So far 
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Anonymous
| What does LAT mean? |
Anonymous
Lol |
Anonymous
+1. maybe 10 years older max. I always dated older in my 20s-30s but not more than 8-9 years. The only two much older ones were real weirdos. |